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Cyber, Etc. - 11/15/2008 9:01:52 PM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		The first chat room I was ever in was on a site called TalkCity.com, in a room called 'Blonde Worship' or some such thing.  Dunno if it's still there. 
 
Had to be 'taught' how to chat online.  I looked at the PC as the place where I worked...why the hell would I want to sit there any longer than necesarry?
 
I did quite a bit of what I now know is called 'sceneing' there.  So did most regulars.  It was a hoot.  People would join in or cheer you on, and it was, I suppose, a sort of exhibitionism.
 
Well, one of the regulars and I moved off-site and I figured out the mysteries of yahell IM and we began to cyber.  He was a pretty good writer, but after ahile I was very confused.  Why didn't he want to call me?  Meet me?
 
It's sort of boring for me to use yahell IM anymore.  Quite often, I turn it off, because I don't want to be interrupted.  (One of the few downsides to working from home -- people think you're never busy.)
 
Anyway, I just sort of wondering what other folks thought of cyber.  One of my girlfriends has some folks she hooked up with and they all 'role play' in a sexual way.  Apparently I don't write well enough, fast enough to join them.
 
I wouldn't mind collaberating with someone else to write a short story.  But I'm not sure I'll ever be interested in yahell IM again, apart from voice-calls overseas.
 
BTW, anyone familar with an artifical enviroment for kinksters called RedCenter (sp?)  Is it fun?
 
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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 12:28:25 AM   
JustDarkness


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Status: offline 		I don't mind cyber with a girl I own....but not just "only"
I also cybered more intense on the msn forums long ago, when I started to discover the lifestyle. It made me crave for more and to go real life.
Don't see it is negative....it was a step to get where I am now

For many others it is an escape from daily life.

ps A nice IM is Qnext it supports encrypted messeging, so no one can intercept it and read it.

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 2:25:15 AM   
Usako


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Status: offline 		I RP a lot (though not so much recently) though not in a sexual way. I have done sexual role plays but I never considered it "cybering" since it was not done for the purpose of getting off, it was part of the story. It's good for thoughts, ideas, etc but that's about as far as I'll entertain the idea. Even a full detail, multi-paragraph erotic role play does not turn me on.

Cyber is just a dirty term to me, memories of lame people on AOL "wut r u wearing" "i touch ur crotch" "moanz" etc.

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 6:04:27 AM   
MrHarsh


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Status: offline 		Cyber is an outlet.  It's also a form of play.

In some sense it's like masturbating with a friend, or at least another person.  From that perspective it can be a little more satisfying than just masturbation or watching porn because there is some personal interaction.

On the other hand it's not as intimate as actually meeting someone, or even having phone sex or cam-to-cam.  That can be helpful if you're just looking for some fun without baggage. Sometimes you just don't want to get that close to someone.  For example you don't want to give out your phone number because you really don't want to hear from that person ever again.

I think the biggest single appeal of cyber is the ability to explore a kink or activity that you might not really be ready to experience in person.  Maybe you are bi-curious, or curious about foot worship, or something else.  Sometimes turning those fantasies into reality can be awkward.  Cyber can give you a chance to express yourself and explore, but in a very non-threatening way (both to you and the other person (people?) involved).

Personally, I am much more into cam-to-cam these days.  I like knowing that the person on the other end is really what they say they are.

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 6:11:49 AM   
iowasubjim


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Status: offline 		candy i am a slow typer to i enjoy writting short stories use to for my cyber Mistress but she left the net about a year ago so no one to write story for now

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 6:14:51 AM   
Maya2001


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Status: offline 		I use Y IM regularly I can keep in touch with family without incurring long distance calls, use video conferencing to talk to friends as well as dominants I am involved with ..or to get to know new ones ..I use the stealth settings if I do not want to be interrupting during conversations, leave in invisible mode  so I can decide  if I want to talk to someone   who has came online  or set it so I am visible only to certain people... I usually do not do group chats... it was especially nice to have when I  was recovering from surgery .. I could stay in bed  and use the video chats which saved me from having to do concentrate to type and concerned friends and family could see that I was doing okay and still kicking..  And  even a couple of weeks ago  when I was having a lot heart problems   I had made a lot of use of again.. I agree that the term  cyber tends to invoke the view  of sex play for getting off  but can be used other ways such as setting up  rituals or fantasy stories


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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 6:22:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		C and I are to gropey for cyber. I think the worst we get is occasionally sending pervy text messages. Other than that, I much prefer one on one. 

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 6:32:01 AM   
mc1234


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Status: offline 		Cyber bores me unless it's with my partner - and I haven't been with anyone lately who finds it exciting beyond the occasional flirty message. 

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 7:44:08 AM   
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quote:

I just sort of wondering what other folks thought of cyber


It is an enormous waste of time, a poor method of communicating, I like to ask people who try to "sell" it to me how often they do the laundry together with someone else, online, or drive to the supermarket online. For many it gets to be an addiction, as well - not just scening, but MUDs, etc. So I am with you - considering that only 7% of human communication is verbal, imagine how much one deprives oneself of - because cybering takes rivers of time, that replace other activities in one's life.

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 8:13:18 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I don't cyber. It just bores me to death. If others are into it, fine. I'm just not.

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 8:36:37 AM   
gumshoe


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Status: offline 		Yeah I remember my first ever excursions onto the Internet some ten years ago, wondering what the hell to do next.

One time I logged onto irc.bondage (I don't know if it's still going) and went into one of the chat rooms. There was a mix of Dommes and males subs in there, I played it by ear and didn't type anything initially because then I hadn't the foggiest idea of how chat rooms worked. Eventually I did start typing and made every kind of online faux pas imaginable. But, hell, I learned things.

That said, once I got a hang of the ropes I did have some great and intense scenes in there on occasion. But cyber is not the same as R/L.



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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 8:52:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't see the point of cybering - never have, plus if I simply wanted to get off online, I certainly have better methods to do so. It takes more than a few text grunts to stimulate me. However, I have roleplayed in the past, but it became exhausting. For me, RP can be tedious and lose it's luster quite fast.

Now, I'd rather use my energy and creativity to put those words to my short fictions - not just give it away to someone whom I'll probably never meet in person and who may forget about all the hard work, I put into it, an hour later.

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 9:01:10 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		I've found text-based roleplay to be an excellent outlet for my creative mind.  Cyber, just for the sake of cyber, not so  much.  When I collaborate with another to create a world so descriptively rich, it comes alive, it usually has an erotic flair because I'm a sexual creature. 

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 9:02:25 AM   
JustDarkness


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Status: offline 		btw  what do we mean by cybering...online simulation of sex or doing soemthing on webcam also?

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 10:44:32 AM   
Jeptha


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Status: offline 		I've had e-mail correspondences, but nothing I'd call "cyber" ; that would involve "real time" , would it not? As in, with instant messaging or a webcam?...

I have neither of those.

Instant messaging sex sounds about as exciting as text messaging sex.
Wooo.
That is to say, no thanks.
Not a big fan of online flirting, either.

Webcams, I don't know about.
Maybe there's potential there, but I never think about it.
I wonder, but only briefly.
I'd like to hear if other's have positive experience with it and what they found likable about it.

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 10:53:58 AM   
aravain


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Status: offline 		Haha...

I started cybering when I was almost 12...

I remember the day when I was done...

A regular partner's character suddenly sprouted tentacles... and grew a vagina... and started whining at mine 'Master, why won't you use my sex?' among other things.

Haha, I was 14.

Keep in mind... this was when there was no hint of kink before in our roleplaying together beyond a little aggressiveness XD

I was a strange little kid.

Now? There's not a point to it, for me. Occasionally I'll like to tease a partner by text message or something like that... and it can even get explicit if they egg me on... but that's not really cybering ;)

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 1:33:01 PM   
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or doing soemthing on webcam also


that too is an online simulation of sex

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 7:00:19 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		I first got on the internet in 1996.  That was long, long ago, in a galaxy far, far way, lol!  At the time, there were chat rooms, and one could open private windows to speak one-on-one if they wished.  My ex- was in Japan for a year and I wasn't with anyone else during that time.  I was quite the 'cyber slut', lol; I spent many an hour using it as interactive 'toss off' material.  'Course, not everyone was as adept as everyone else but it provided someharmless amusement.  I think my random cyber-ing days ended when he came home (or relative soon after); he was cool with it but it has its limits and I had a sexual outlet with someone real who I loved, so that was far preferrable. 
I also had a relationship several years back in which we used to cyber via im quite a lot.  Those exchanges were freakin' artful and lots and lots of fun as it was someone I'd known for a long time and love.  Revisited that enjoyable environment a couple of times with that individual after I separated from my ex-; same magic. 
Cybering with someone that I'm not in a relationship holds no appeal for me these days but I'd gladly have it as part of a relationship if the other person wished.  :> 
  Davan

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 8:23:01 PM   
ExKat


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Status: offline 		  It never really appealed to me...Men either stop being able to use more than one syllable when they're turned on, and stop needing input from me at all, simply typing out thier specific fantasy with choppy words. Or they get insanely into it, with draw out descriptions of painfully purple prose and things just get ridiculous. When I was bored as a teenager, I'd see how many men I could keep going at a time, or see how far I'd have to go to turn them off (surprisingly, not everyone stopped wanking when they ask what I was wearing and I informed them it was a wetsuit).
  After having had actual sex, cyber is such a pale comparison to not even be worth my time. Cybering with a partner holds similarly no appeal...why would we waste time talk-pretending that we could spend driving towards each other to actually have sex?


~Katie, who, ironically, humored Ex with cyber-play before we met. Ah, the things we do for cute Doms.

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RE: Cyber, Etc. - 11/16/2008 10:07:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've cybered once or twice, and I have to say, while I can appreciate it with someone that's exceptionally good at it, it's logistically inconvenient for me. I just can't type that fast one handed.

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