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RE: 1 more question - 11/20/2008 12:48:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists
In our house, not asking is taking away authority from him. If we want something and choose not to ask, then we have made the decision that we will not have it. However, that is not our decision to make; it is his.

*applause*
I generally figure that any theory which reduces communication in a relationship is a bad theory. "Not asking for what you want" would qualify in that category.

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RE: 1 more question - 11/20/2008 12:54:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: oceanwynds

Sir asked me what I enjoyed and desired in the beginning, but I didn't really know how to respond. He quickly realized that i was clueless to a lot of BDSM play. There were a couple things that I have been interested and my late hubby tried on me, but that was the extent of my play. What he had me do in the beginning was write a couple erotica stories featuring what I enjoyed. He also had me watch several BDSM porn movies, to get my reaction to them.

He sent me to bondage sites to tell him which pictures I found hot. I discovered that my reaction was based on whether the women featured appeared to be happy and excited or in pain and turned off. I only liked the ones where they were enjoying it. I am so not a masochist.

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