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So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/18/2008 10:41:16 PM   
randomsubTO


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Status: offline 		Hi there,
I  understand Domme's get hundreds of emails each day and often I see things asking for the person's email to stand out.

So I'm wondering - what gets your attention?



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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 4:43:35 AM   
MmeGigs


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Status: offline 		Fellows who speak to me like I'm a real human being they'd like to get to know get my attention. 

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 4:55:24 AM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		People who research this question before asking it again -- that gets my attention and turns me RIGHT on

This gets asked and answered about once a week...

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 6:29:28 AM   
MistressFaye1


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Status: offline 		The messages that tell me who they are without mentioning the fetishes, the sexual wishes, the apparent cut and paste jobs, the ones that don't say things like, "i want to serve you forever", i'll be your personal toilet", i need someone to use her strap-on on me" (although stated less politely), pictures sent of private parts, questions asking me about my sexual needs, wants, fantasies, "willing to locate---just tell me yes i can serve you". 

Then of course there those messages that start out saying, "i gazed at your picture and knew you were the one..." or something else just as lame about looking at my picture.  I don't have a picture on my profile!

Pretend you are meeting a woman or seeing a woman of interest for the first time.  What would you say to her so that she will be interested in knowing more?  If the first thing you think of is to tell her how much you would love to worship her ass... I suggest you find someone that can give you come classes centered around being a gentleman.  If you thought, "hello, my name is... I read your profile and...(be sure to read it) and make mention of something you've read.  Be sure you respect what is stated, such as distance limits, etc.

To other readers of this post... I know this is one for the ages and there are several boards that address this.  I wanted to research something here and it took a long time to find what I was looking for.  I was very generous this morning so I thought I'd answer.  *wink*

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 6:31:38 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: randomsubTO

Hi there,
I  understand Domme's get hundreds of emails each day and often I see things asking for the person's email to stand out.

So I'm wondering - what gets your attention?




Welcome... I see this is your first post!  (That is unless you've changed your ID at some point)

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 6:34:39 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressFaye1

Then of course there those messages that start out saying, "i gazed at your picture and knew you were the one..." or something else just as lame about looking at my picture.  I don't have a picture on my profile!


ROTFLMAO!!!  That's the best one I've ever heard.  Maybe they think you look like the artwork avatar you use here?

---OP (Original Poster), yes that means you Randomsub, since you're new to the boards, we'll try not to beat you up to much... but this is a very common first question.  Scroll down a little in the list of topics here and you'll probably find all the info that you need.

< Message edited by MsStarlett -- 11/19/2008 6:36:51 AM >

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 6:42:51 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressFaye1

The messages that tell me who they are without mentioning the fetishes, the sexual wishes, the apparent cut and paste jobs, the ones that don't say things like, "i want to serve you forever", i'll be your personal toilet", i need someone to use her strap-on on me" (although stated less politely), pictures sent of private parts, questions asking me about my sexual needs, wants, fantasies, "willing to locate---just tell me yes i can serve you". 

Then of course there those messages that start out saying, "i gazed at your picture and knew you were the one..." or something else just as lame about looking at my picture.  I don't have a picture on my profile!

Pretend you are meeting a woman or seeing a woman of interest for the first time.  What would you say to her so that she will be interested in knowing more?  If the first thing you think of is to tell her how much you would love to worship her ass... I suggest you find someone that can give you come classes centered around being a gentleman.  If you thought, "hello, my name is... I read your profile and...(be sure to read it) and make mention of something you've read.  Be sure you respect what is stated, such as distance limits, etc.

To other readers of this post... I know this is one for the ages and there are several boards that address this.  I wanted to research something here and it took a long time to find what I was looking for.  I was very generous this morning so I thought I'd answer.  *wink*

Ms. Faye


Very well said. My girl got my attention by conversing with me as a human being. Showing that, the more she got to know me, the more she wanted to please me. In whatever way that was. No personal agenda, no list of "will you do xxx to me?" Obviously we discussed some BDSM issues to be certain there was compatibility in that area, but it was never an obsessive topic. Moreso, she wanted to know what my daily life was like, what my family members are like, what would be expected of her, etc.

She's got alot of rough edges, but there is tremendous potential.




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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 7:14:02 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: randomsubTO

Hi there,
I  understand Domme's get hundreds of emails each day and often I see things asking for the person's email to stand out.

So I'm wondering - what gets your attention?




To be blunt.

Very, very little gets my attention in email.

Someone wants to get my attention, show up at munches or events I frequent and be an interesting and friendly person person who has some knowledge about a wide range of things.

If you stick to email here on Collarme, the only think that impresses me would be someone who met my criteria which I know will be on a cold day in hell.

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 7:29:53 AM   
ItalianSMistress


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Status: offline 		Its been so long since I have been here, but this was the first question I read, so I thought I would reply.....
 
There has to be a few things in the message/info to grab my attention:
 
Something that proves they have read my profile in full
Mets the basic criteria listed in my profile and be close enough to acutally be of use
Polite and respectful, but not desperate (I like desperation, but not that early, LOL)
 
If at least those few things are there, I will at least look at that profile of the sender and send a "more info" or "no thanks" message.....
 
 

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 7:56:05 AM   
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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 7:58:59 AM   
LadyPact


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What the heck is wrong with you?


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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 8:11:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

What?  No pie?

What the heck is wrong with you?



The "Build A Pie" and "All You Can Eat Donut Hole Buffett" are prizes of course.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 8:23:34 AM   
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And here I was wanting someone on their knees with some form of chocolate.


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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 8:29:19 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Well, shoot!

And here I was wanting someone on their knees with some form of chocolate.



I assumed the pie and holes were at "my" eye level.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 8:42:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		This thread seemed an appropriate place for me to say what I am about to say. I am most grateful to this site and the Goddesses on it. Why? Because they have shown me soooo much about the proper manner(s) in which to address Women. It goes without saying that Goddesses can have sexual activity of their choosing anytime they want. Males know this and some resent that power over them whereas the wise male just accepts it. What even some more highly-evolved males do not get is that Goddess's are acutely aware themselves of the sexual power that they wield over males. Thus, the Goddess need not hear about a prospective slave's sexual tendencies/wants, etc. For those are commodities that are in ample supply for the Goddess...hence, the male's sexual servitude is a long-forgone conclusion and it insults the Goddess for the male to even offer that as some sort of inducement to HER. Rather...the TRUE slave...the one who is devoted AFTER he has been allowed to cum or sexually-service the Goddess...knows that it is what he offers BEYOND the mere sexual that matters and potentially sets him apart from the slobbering mass of wankers. These sorts of lessons I have found most helpful even in my vanilla relationships and I kiss the feet of all of the Goddesses here---even the ones who haven't always been so nice. 

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 8:45:11 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Well, shoot!

And here I was wanting someone on their knees with some form of chocolate.
 
Kneeling silently...head bowed...humbly offering a box of the finest chocolates to be found...



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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 8:54:59 AM   
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Nominees for the most unintended use of a quote are............

chia* (the pet)

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 9:28:39 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet


Nominees for the most unintended use of a quote are............

chia* (the pet)


Chia, have I ever told you how much I want to spank you?

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 9:33:24 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet


Nominees for the most unintended use of a quote are............

chia* (the pet)


Chia, have I ever told you how much I want to spank you?


The line forms to the right, but I'll limit everyone to two whacks to speed things up.

chia* (the pet)

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Love is a many splendid sting.

You can stick me in the corner, but I'll probably just end up coloring on the walls.

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RE: So what get's a Domme's attention? - 11/19/2008 9:35:23 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet


Nominees for the most unintended use of a quote are............

chia* (the pet)


Chia, have I ever told you how much I want to spank you?


The line forms to the right, but I'll limit everyone to two whacks to speed things up.

chia* (the pet)


Glad you warned me.  I'll make sure to bring my nail-studded paddle.

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