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Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 2:41:04 PM   
world4penelope


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Status: offline 		I'm considering taking on a couple of new full time live-in slaves. What requirements do you have for accepting new live-in slaves? What is the regimen for new supplicants before allowing them into your private world?

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 2:52:42 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		I won't have anyone live with me and serve that I don't know WELL. A roommate is one thing...a slave is entirely something else. They'd be collared first...and I no longer collar someone that I HOPE will work out. The collar happens when there's a relationships established, they petition and I accept. So, live ins aren't something I do casually.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 3:16:17 PM   
pinkwind


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Status: offline 		It's whatever you want it to be, there are no rules here, nobody gets kicked out of the union for setting their own agenda, negotiating the future based on the people involved and the particular needs of all.

What i would say is that live in or not, all have got to understand that poly on any levels has more pitfalls to watch out for than a 1-2-1 relationship, and that each party needs to know from the outset where they stand in relationship to the others in the mix and what is expected of all parties.

If this is the first time you have ventured along this path you should be prepared to have to renegotiate for the unforeseen, and open communication on all sides is even more vital than elsewhere.

Best of luck for the future.


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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 3:38:15 PM   
MmeGigs


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What requirements do you have for accepting new live-in slaves?


Anyone I would consider would have to meet the following criteria:
1.  Must have excellent communication skills.  I need someone who listens well and can say what's on their mind in a constructive way.  We talk things out in my domain, we don't fight them out. 
2.  Must be low-drama.  For some people personal drama and gossip and all that is invigorating, but for me it is stressful and draining.  I don't like being around people who tend to attract drama, and definitely couldn't have one in my house.
3.  Must have decent table manners.  I'm not talking Emily Post, but I can't have anyone around who holds their spoon like a shovel and chews with their mouth open and such.
4.  Must be a low-maintenance, do-it-yourself-y kind of person.  Anyone who was not like this wouldn't be likely to be happy in my domain, because we're very much like this.
5.  Must have a work schedule that leaves most if not all of their nights and weekends free and doesn't require frequent travel.  I like a lot of face time, and I'd be disappointed if their schedule interfered with our social life.

These are all hard limits for me, but just meeting these wouldn't be enough.  They'd have to meet enough of my softer criteria to be a good fit, and more importantly they'd have to be someone(s) that the hubby and I both connected with closely enough on a personal level to want around all the time. 

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 3:42:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		Your Mileage May Vary..but for Master and I there are many criteria for a live in slave not the very least of which is they are tolerant of dogs and cats, understand that I will always come first in Masters heart and considerations and that they are a good mix personality wise with us. Dear Lords and Ladies protect the person who is going to creep about like a mouse and apologize for having a thought or breathing.

So what else falls into this:

Female..while I have nothing against males and enjoy torturing them..Blackphx would prefer a female SUBMISSIVE ( since I ain't..submissive that is)

Leave the Drahma at the door. It doesn't enter this house.

Self sufficient a job even part time is important so they have their own money to spend, save or contribute.

Non Drug using.. if it ain't a prescription that you are seeing a Doctor for, it ain't here and that includes excessive alcohol use.

Self Starting.. Neither Master or I have the time or energy to micromanage someone. Here are the rules, your chores, and your schedule for certain things to be performed, don't make me stand over you to ensure you do them.

Honest about what you want and need. Don't come to us as a pain slut if you are primarily a bondage barbie and shy from a hand.

Able to communicate, verbalize it, or write it, don't hide it. If something is not working for you we can't correct it or help you deal with it if we don't know.

Able to hold an intelligent conversation. We have some real rounders Master and I and enjoy debating nearly everything. If a Slave cannot contribute and hold their own (respectfully) then they are not going to fit in. Our topics range from Assignations to zoology and everything in between. Pick up a book, peruse the internet but don't stop learning and contribute your point of view. If the sum total of your conversation is What are we going to do now Mistress or what happend on the Soaps and with Brittany, you are going to bore us to tears real fast.

An Ability to accept that while BDSM permeates every part of our lives, it is not ALL of our Lives. We do have to live in the real world and enjoy more than just a whip and tickle. One of our favorites is to get an annual pass to one of the attractions and enjoy ourselves there. We have a friend who loves having her hair pulled ( I hate it) she goes with us and BlackPhx pulls her around the Roa Rapids at Aquatica by her hair for hours. BDSM in public where no one thinks anything of it as they can't see his hand in her hair as she floats. But it is hiding BDSM in regular life... lots of fun.

Be flexible. Realize everything doesn't always go the way you planned for it to...sometimes you have to go with the flow.

Honest. Lie to me or Blackphx and the first time it's punishment. The second time it's release. Telling the truth MAY get you punished, but a lot less than lieing to us will.

Health Checked and disease free as far as STD's  go we understand other physical limitations and can work around them, but things like Herpes, HIV, and a few others if left untreated are permanent or killers and my immune system sucks as it is..wander past me with a cold and I will catch the damned thing.

A willingness to try new foods.. I cook. I LOVE to cook, I love to experiment with cooking ( so far no disasters) and Both of us enjoy exploring new cuisines..Found an Ethiopian restaurant in Orlando that we love.  Unless you are allergic to an ingredient at least give it a try before you reject it.

Would love someone with a green thumb as well...

poenkitten



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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 6:25:09 PM   
daddysliloneds


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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 7:01:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well are they going to be a long term investment, or is it more like a kennel?

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 9:06:34 PM   
KnightofMists


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I'm considering taking on a couple of new full time live-in slaves. What requirements do you have for accepting new live-in slaves? What is the regimen for new supplicants before allowing them into your private world?



I must say that I am curious to why you ask these questions and what your consideration for taking on a couple of new full time live in slaves has to do with what the requirements and regimen was for accept my two live in slaves.  I just don't see the connection here.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 9:42:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		By experience my live-ins were all people I desired LTRs with,  Even in the 80s with up to 5 in the stable, they were all relationship material.  From your tone, I think our target goals are different than mine.  If I weren’t going for love relationships and just looking for service, my primary requirement would be a trust fund, my second would be obedience. . .   fuck the table manners. 

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 10:15:24 PM   
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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 10:29:29 PM   
Coupleofwhats


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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

I won't have anyone live with me and serve that I don't know WELL. A roommate is one thing...a slave is entirely something else. They'd be collared first...and I no longer collar someone that I HOPE will work out. The collar happens when there's a relationships established, they petition and I accept. So, live ins aren't something I do casually.

Master Fire



Exactly. You can't move someone in and then wing it.

OP: The way you're approaching this sounds like a bad idea, frankly. If you meet someone, get to know them, grow close and then decide you'd like to do a live-in situation, that makes sense. But bringing some strange person into your house and hoping you click seems like an invitation for trouble.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/19/2008 10:33:39 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		Eh, I'd want them to be neat, have a thing for vaccuming since I hate doing it, and like my cat (AND not think it's odd that I buy hats for him)

That's about it....


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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 12:28:43 AM   
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Eh, I'd want them to be neat, have a thing for vaccuming since I hate doing it, and like my cat (AND not think it's odd that I buy hats for him)

That's about it....

Spank me and call me Dr. Seuss, you have "a cat in a hat"??? 

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 6:36:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Eh, I'd want them to be neat, have a thing for vaccuming since I hate doing it, and like my cat (AND not think it's odd that I buy hats for him)

That's about it....

Spank me and call me Dr. Seuss, you have "a cat in a hat"??? 


Dear Dr. Seuss,

i make mine wear reindeer antlers during the holidays...makes up for all the times she knocks crap off the damn tree.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 6:52:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: persephonee

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Eh, I'd want them to be neat, have a thing for vaccuming since I hate doing it, and like my cat (AND not think it's odd that I buy hats for him)

That's about it....

Spank me and call me Dr. Seuss, you have "a cat in a hat"??? 


Dear Dr. Seuss,

i make mine wear reindeer antlers during the holidays...makes up for all the times she knocks crap off the damn tree.


    

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 7:07:39 AM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		1. Police background check
2. Credit check
3. at least 6 months of a relationship with much of that time weekends or overnight time together
4. A commitment that this is going to last

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 7:11:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: justgemmie

quote:

ORIGINAL: persephonee

quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Eh, I'd want them to be neat, have a thing for vaccuming since I hate doing it, and like my cat (AND not think it's odd that I buy hats for him)

That's about it....

Spank me and call me Dr. Seuss, you have "a cat in a hat"??? 


Dear Dr. Seuss,

i make mine wear reindeer antlers during the holidays...makes up for all the times she knocks crap off the damn tree.


    


laugh it up, chuckles...youll be sorry when i drop her off....

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 7:18:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would have to know the really really well first. Then if I felt we were compatable, I might consider it.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 7:20:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		In order to have a slave move in with me (or, for that matter, to have a slave at all since the concept of a slave who doesn't live with me is meaningless to me), I'd need to want to marry her.  In order for that to occur, I'd need to love her, think that she had excellent relationship skills, and feel that she would be able to contribute significantly to my overall life happiness outside the scope of her servitude.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 7:23:27 AM   
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I'm considering taking on a couple of new full time live-in slaves. What requirements do you have for accepting new live-in slaves? What is the regimen for new supplicants before allowing them into your private world?

Regards,
Mistress Penelope St. Devi


We have an extensive probationary period, and for the most part, our probationary servants are required to keep their own domicile and serve in progressively increasing increments before we accept them as full-time, in-house servants. The vetting process, for us, is long and drawn out, but basically amounts to making sure, over time, that they're really ready for the intensity of full-time, in-house service.

The other thing that is a consideration for us is whether or not we can -afford- full-time, live-in, dependent servants. How will we manage health insurance, food, shelter, clothing, uniforms, training tools, body-fluid-personalized toys and equipment, collars, etc.? How will we plan in case something happens to us or this person chooses to return to life outside the House? What other contingencies will need to be in place, and does this person have any special needs that have to be addressed if we bring them into full-time, live-in status.

Right now, we're not keeping -any- live-in servants because of the 'contingencies' aspects... there are things going on in our lives that make having live-in servants impractical if not impossible, and until those are resolved, we will not take on the responsibility for the equivalent of another dependent.


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