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foxglove716 -> happy girl (12/21/2005 11:35:57 PM)

The unimaginable has happened! I found a dom in my life to call my own! And its all thanks to this wonderful website. Sir is kind and compassionate, and Ive never felt loved like this before. And we havnt even met! I know some of you negetive nellies will be sure to warn me about the usual hazards, but im elated so shove off! j/k. The only problem is that I live in the states and Sir lives in England. We plan to meet in april. Sure, he could come here. But if Im going to do something of this magnitude, I am going to do it wholeheartedly with every detail in mind. So I am going to England, not only have I always wanted to go, but I feel as though being in a strange country where I know so little of the goings on will make me feel especially submissive as I will be dependant on Sir. Has anyone else had a similar situation?



OscarHargraves -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 12:12:36 AM)

I'm not a 'negative nellie' and I've never had anything like that happen so I'll just say congratulations to both of you and I hope this all works out for the best. I loved Great Britain when I was there several times and I would love to go back to visit. Do be careful though. It does rain a lot and the people drive on the wrong side of the roads!



EV -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 12:59:25 AM)

CONGRATULATIONS SWEETIE


Go For It.........

Let your instinct be your guide.



EV

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imtempting -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 2:01:31 AM)

Well ill be the first negative nelly. Foolish gal playing a dangerous game.

/points to all the internet stories about going over seas and not being what they said.

Get a cam and see him in real time. Your a fairly pretty gal so id want some secruity information before meeting him which to give to a close un-named ( to your dom ) friend of yours.

Otherwise... Good luck.



sweetpettjenny -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 2:02:40 AM)

Congradulations!!!



obis -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 2:03:39 AM)

That's fantastic, Fox! I've enjoyed your messages here on the board and hope you keep us updated.

I'm a cynical bastard so I'll tell you to do all the precautions you can, just make sure you have a backup plan of some sort if you get there and things don't work out -- money/ticket to get home, phone numbers for the US embassy to help if needed, etc. But life is about taking leaps of faith, and I hope everything goes perfectly for you. If it doesn't, then you've seen a lovely country, traveled a bit and have a better idea of what you're looking for.

As we say, hope for the best and plan for the worst. But keep putting one foot in front of the other [:)]



LadiesBladewing -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 4:10:25 AM)

No "negative-nelly" here... just a few words of wisdom, which we can all use when starting out a new life.

You'll have to have a round-trip ticket to travel. Hold on to that second part of the ticket in the event of an emergency. If nothing else, you'll have a nice chunk to contribute to your new owner's household when everything works out great... but if something happens, you'll have some backup (not necessarily something happening with him, but perhaps even something like getting so homesick for the States that you find that you can't live in GB without a mental breakdown... I've met people who, no matter how much they loved someone, just couldn't live in a certain place--it just sucked the life right out of them).

I love England, and Europe is close by, which is a -bonus-, but it is a completely different culture. Spend some time before you go, if you can, learning about the life and language there. While it's great to be completely dependent on your Owner, you'll actually increase your chances of feeling comfortable enough to stay if you are a little prepared for what life is like there.

Start drinking tea -now-. My experience is that coffee and soda taste completely different in England than they do here in the States... and perhaps it was the climate or something in the air (or maybe something that -wasn't- in the air, considering that I live in one of the most polluted cities in the US), but I found both of them to be -strange- tasting there, and actually came to really -enjoy- British teas (my favorite being Earl Grey --aka, English Afternoon Tea-- with honey and a little cream).

Set aside a little money for yourself before you go... an emergency fund. Again, it is something that you can turn over to your new owner down the road a piece, if you don't use it, but you'll want to have it in place, just in case something happens on your journey. There's nothing worse than getting stuck at Kennedy Airport when the plane is either delayed by HOURS or cancelled with no extra money and no place to sleep.

I know you already know about using common sense and making sure that this person isn't wanted by Interpol or something... about getting (and checking) some references and getting to know a few people in his life who -aren't- online before you pick up and go, so I won't reiterate those.

Most of all, if this is what you want, then enjoy it with every bit of your heart -- don't waste a moment of the joy, and cherish every opportunity to feel blessed by the Universe for the opportunity.

What a wonderful holiday gift for you.

Lady Zephyr



KatyLied -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 4:37:00 AM)

Please safe and remember.......you barely know this man.



quietkitten -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 4:52:14 AM)

congratulations, but please be careful.... The advice that has been given is wonderful.

You are a great person and deserve to be happy... however, always remember safety first.




LadyJulieAnn -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 5:03:36 AM)

Congrats on finding someone who makes you feel all tingly and happy inside. [:)] I hope that you have several ways of communicating (email, phone, webcam, pictures) so that you have a strong foundation for when you meet. I chatted with friends in England for at least 7 months before I decided to head over there to meet them, and it wasn't to meet just one person for a relationship.

I remember the excitement of finding subs online (all from England) who seemed to fulfill everything I was seeking in a boy, but it is indeed rare for that feeling to last an extended period of time with such a long distance between you. When you do find it, however, it's something worth going after. Just make sure the feeling is mutual.

Be well,
Julie



MHOO314 -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 6:06:11 AM)

dearest foxglove, I throw rose petals--here is a true story of My best friend: (though vanilla, it demonstrates life and the power of hearts)--

J lived in the UK, worked for the same company I do--she had been divorced and had gone through some very hard times--she met a man from Idaho on date.com Idaho!- where there are lots of body burying places--they communicated, exchanged pics, talked on the phone for 3 months--when she found herself attending an IT show here in Vegas, she made plans to take a weeks vacation and go to Idaho to visit him--they spent 10 days together, she met his family, the town etc.---it reinforced their feelings---she flew home--3 weeks later, he arrived, ring in hand--proposed and stayed with her for a few weeks--when she became part of a resource action, she took the package, rented her cottage out, packed and moved to Idaho--when all the visa, immigration etc is done ( approx April)--I will be standing at her wedding in Idaho of all places---she is marvelously happy, he is a dear and everyone adores her---(LOL imagine a Brit in Idaho---she's turned the town upside down--

You see, potential happiness as well as potential danger can be found next door, down the street or across the pond--but one will never know if we do not reach out-I work in international marketing so there are no borders to Me, only human limitations to choose to cross them---you have plenty of time between now and then to sniff out any creep factor if it exists and I know you will take precautions just as if you were travelling alone---BUT--bathe in the glow, smile, feel the warmth and all the very best to you--when the time gets closer, I have many friends I can give you contacts for should you need anything--

what a marvelous Holiday Present under your tree!



fyreredsub -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 6:07:17 AM)

good luck, many blessings be careful w/ the overseas thing



Phoenxx -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 6:12:09 AM)

Congrads and well wishes foxglove. I met fawn online. And while we lived in the same country, there where and are differences in how we think. Not a bad thing at all.
Just make sure you do have a back up plan. Maybe check out what BDSM goups are out there. Hope for the best and plan for trouble almost never goes wrong.
And if your new Master loves and cares about you, he WILL understand and agree ;-)
Tony



andrew77uk -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 6:21:22 AM)

Whilst I dont know anyone on this site, I hope you'll enjoy england. If you never been before, its a nice place, but very exspensive! People are arrogent and mostly rude. I should know I live there :P Any questions just ask, although I am sure your man friend will enlighten you just as well :)



happypervert -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 7:03:37 AM)

quote:

Ive never felt loved like this before. And we havnt even met!

Two thoughts:

1. I hope for your sake you can say the same thing after you meet, and mean it as a positive thing.

2. If you weren't involved here, I wonder how you would react to this tale from somebody else.

Oh, and telling the negative nellies to shove off doesn't work around here. That is simply an admission that you are acting insane, and if you don't want to hear about it then don't advertise it.



afmvdp -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 7:10:52 AM)

A good majority of my significant priors have been relocates coming anywhere from up the street to across the globe and while there may of been issues at times or complications, it was on a person to person basis and not at all relating to where they lived prior.

Of course safety is important, but safety is no more of an issue whether someone is your neighbor or a polar opposite especially when the internet is involved. So just keep the same sane head about you on this as you would with anything else and you will be fine.

So good luck and best wishes.



truesub4u -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 8:22:32 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: foxglove716

The unimaginable has happened! I found a dom in my life to call my own! And its all thanks to this wonderful website. Sir is kind and compassionate, and Ive never felt loved like this before. And we havnt even met! I know some of you negetive nellies will be sure to warn me about the usual hazards, but im elated so shove off! j/k. The only problem is that I live in the states and Sir lives in England. We plan to meet in april. Sure, he could come here. But if Im going to do something of this magnitude, I am going to do it wholeheartedly with every detail in mind. So I am going to England, not only have I always wanted to go, but I feel as though being in a strange country where I know so little of the goings on will make me feel especially submissive as I will be dependant on Sir. Has anyone else had a similar situation?


Having been here before. I say JUMP! I had the pleasure of being sent for when I was but 17 to Germany. I celebrated my 18th in Lampertheimn. I loved it. I spent 84-86 there being trained for my First Master I ever had. I know i throughly enjoyed the whole new concept of being in a place I knew nothing about and relying on him totally. That truely was my best experiance as a submissive. I've since moved on after his death. And know I'll never get that experiance again.

And as other have stated.. take all precautions. For alot has changed in 20 years. But go knowing you are there to meet the one you have decided to give yourself to freely. And enjoy that first. Just be comfortable knowing that you have a backup.

Enjoy....... and keep us informed.

Jessica



foxglove716 -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 8:29:31 AM)

Yes, we have chatted on cam, there is no doubt this guy is genuine. As for the rain there, no worries, I live in seattle! So yeah, Im probably going to trade in my coffee for tea. Thank you so much for the kind words everyone! [:)]



truesub4u -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 8:43:45 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: foxglove716

So yeah, Im probably going to trade in my coffee for tea.


BRAKES........ ok.. I know now my hardest limit!... LOL

Not giving up my coffee.... no.. no way.. no way in hell!

By God I'll quit smoking before I give up my coffee!.... LOL

Enjoy GB hun... I learned to love many thinks about Germany while I was there. Even their warm beer. (but coming home has made me not like beer all that much now). But the colavice was wonderful I fix it here at home all the time. And the food was wonderful. Had to laugh when i found out POM POMS... where french fries... LOL

Like I said. .. go... have fun.. everyone should be able to experiance something so new, and erotic.... live for the moment.



starshineowned -> RE: happy girl (12/22/2005 8:59:48 AM)

Congratulations foxglove!

May it be everything you have searched for and more.



starshine
Happy slave of Master Delvin



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