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RE: Why is it.... - 11/23/2008 12:02:12 PM   
moonvine


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Status: offline 		Well, they both want an exclusive relationship, so I can't just date both of them indefinitely.

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RE: Why is it.... - 11/23/2008 2:52:26 PM   
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that I can be alone for years, yet the minute one D-type shows interest, numerous other D-types show interest as well? (all of whom I've met in person, btw, so I know they exist, at least).


Hmm,  sounds alot like buses.

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RE: Why is it.... - 11/23/2008 3:17:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think we put out signals when we really are interested in meeting someone as opposed to thinking we want to meet but actually having subconscious reservations.

As far as which? Whichever one turns you on more is the one to focus on now. But if you aren't ready to go exclusive, then tell them. If they want a good relationship, they won't mind you talking only (no fun and games) for a bit longer.

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RE: Why is it.... - 11/23/2008 3:33:14 PM   
Aszhrae


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Status: offline 		Ask your self this:
Do you find your self waiting for that particular dominant to log in and when they do, do you get positively giddy with delight?
Are they prompt with wanting to get to know the real you deep inside? Not just physically either.
Do you find comfort in their words?
Do you find your self drawn to them like the hummingbird to the nectar of a flower?
Do you feel that you could relinquish your will and become like putty to their will?
How do they make you feel inside?
Are you relaxed or stressed when they want to speak to you?
Do you feel any apprehension or anxiety when you chat with them?
Do you feel warm, that your skin becomes flushed when you know they have logged in?
Do you find yourself wanting to be touched by them, if only for a moment?

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RE: Why is it.... - 11/25/2008 12:43:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: moonvine

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ORIGINAL: lally3

over here in england we call it the 'bus phenomenon' - you wait and wait in the pouring fucking rain and then 3 buses turn up at once.

i know where youre at totally - in the end its the one that works into my brain the quickest - the one i find myself thinking about the most.




But that's the one who lives the closest, and can come over to spank me Sunday.  As opposed to the ones who live further away, and can't necessarily do that. 



and so the problem is....................?

go for the one closest.

what i tend to do is tell the others what im doing and why (ie this guy is closest to you), so it makes sense, but..., that its early days.  usually what happens then, is that the others wish you luck and tend to say, 'if it doesnt work out, give me a shout' - everyone knows how it works and is usually sympathetic and supportive.

best of luck... and erm, its tuesday, did you get your bottom spanked on sunday - just being nosy

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RE: Why is it.... - 11/25/2008 12:54:08 AM   
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RE: Why is it.... - 11/25/2008 6:37:14 PM   
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Now I'm really confused, and I've never been good at making choices!


What i have done in the past is this, Make a list of all the things in a Dom that is necessary for you to be happy. Could be anything you need. Then when you find a dom that you like, or two or three, check them against your original list!!!!!

Make sense??? it' helps you weed out the "BAD CHOICES" really fast!!!!
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RE: Why is it.... - 11/26/2008 6:03:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		pheremones.  If you can't decide from a menu, you should not be evaluating a life partner.
 
Make a chart--needs, desires--cross reference the interested parties against that, NO EXCEPTIONS, no overlooking bad habits etc. When you find one that really has more of what you need versus desire--you may be on to something.
 
Confuscius says, wise men learn from mistakes, fools embrace them.

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RE: Why is it.... - 11/26/2008 6:18:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: moonvine

No, he had the flu...sigh.


is it just me - but when i hear of a sickly D i get all kinda mushy and want to rush over with some lemsip and tickle his toes with a long feather just cos he's weak and cant do anything at speed!

its probably just me


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RE: Why is it.... - 11/26/2008 11:20:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lally3

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ORIGINAL: moonvine

No, he had the flu...sigh.


is it just me - but when i hear of a sickly D i get all kinda mushy and want to rush over with some lemsip and tickle his toes with a long feather just cos he's weak and cant do anything at speed!

its probably just me



I actually took him some meds last night and some food.  He is better now, but I do not think he is at a point in his life where he is ready to form a relationship.

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RE: Why is it.... - 11/26/2008 11:30:42 PM   
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pheremones.  If you can't decide from a menu, you should not be evaluating a life partner.
 



I can order from a menu, it just takes me a long time to decide.  Wise advice.

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