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Musicmystery -> RE: Automatic Lie Assumption (11/22/2008 10:13:00 AM)


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ORIGINAL: marie2

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ORIGINAL: HisPhedre


Okay...I have a question...   Is it right to cut off communication because of an automatic assumption of a lie?
 
Scenario:
 
I was contacted by an individual from CM and we traded a few emails in the process of trying to connect.   When we connected this am, we started with the usual chat and then I was asked if I have a webcam.   I don't. (I tried once it, did not work, so I gave up.  I'm more software savvy than hardware.  No double entendre is meant. [;)])   So I sent/shared a picture with "That's me".  The response I received was "Yeah sure."    At that point, I was offended by the automatic assumption that I was lying that I cut off communication.
 
Your thoughts?
 


This person may as well have said  "you're a liar". 

If he was merely skeptical because he's been burned in the past, and he shared that with you, and/or he admitted his unwillingness to put in the time or take a risk, I might consider further communication with him and a resolution to the issue.

But "yeah sure?" 

Umm.... No way.  

Don't let the door hit you in the ass,  buddy....


I agree. Caution is one thing. Deliberate obnoxiousness is another.

Next.




HisPhedre -> RE: Automatic Lie Assumption (11/24/2008 5:14:41 PM)

Woops...apparently I posted in the wrong place.  My apologies to the moderators. 

Thank you everyone for your reply's.  I apologize I did not answer sooner, but I was having the PC looked at for speaker issues, and was not about to bring up CM on the library computers.  [:D]  Anyway you all have given me food for thought and I appreciate it.

I hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving.






Termyn8or -> RE: Automatic Lie Assumption (11/26/2008 8:50:59 AM)

Interesting, that because of recent events.

While back started corresponding with someone local. Probably not the prize of the year but neither am I. Plans to eventually meet, the phone call. After the phone call I get an automated response to a cmail, that she wasn't interested, however that apparently blocks me, or does it ? Actually it might as well if all I am going to get is an automated response.

So of course I am not going to bug her but later under another screen name I get contacted again, and lo and behold it is the same phone number. I mentioned that to her and she claims not to remember. So she's not all there, but if she doesn't ruin everything well, OK, I am not always all there either, or at least I am told, mainly here.

We talk on the phone a few times and each time when it got really good she got tired or something and had to cut the call short. Not that short mind you, but just when the discussion gets thick.

So anyway this gets taken to regular email in the meantime and I just don't check it every day anymore. She is having trouble with the neighbors, one of those things I might be able to deal with, and in the email is CALL ME ! OF course we have been through the details of the neighbor problem, and I figure yes, I'll call her. But when I read the email I had to get to work so it had to wait.

A few days later I reply to the email. I am still doing a bit of brainstorming, but all the sudden she is ready to meet in person. Whoa, she's been holding off and holding off and now it is urgent ?

So I get an email back and in it she accuses me of being a troll and that I should have called her last week, and to piss off.

Being a genteman (until you get to know me) I shall do that. I shall piss off. I am not pissed off, but I am starting to think the urgency of this phone call was to let me hear some whining and crying to spur me on to action.

My point ? Mama didn't raise any fools. I know how people are. How can someone turn from aprehensive to eager so quickly ? Only one answer comes to me.

My point ? I dunno exactly but I will say this, aside from the true fakes there are fake fakes. What I mean by that is that sometimes someone is totally misrepresenting themselves on the net and therefore that precludes a real life meeting by it's nature. On the other hand there are fake fakes, those who really are there but have hidden motives or something like that.

Then I get contacted by a sub in the UK, and an out of state Dominant. First of all I'm not flying anyone here, and I think somewhere in my profile it says that I am dominant by nature, switching is a temporary release. It might not, I shall check and edit it later. For now it is getting time to go.

Perhaps I should change to looking for friends only, because if I just wanted sex without friendship, I know the neighborhoods to go to and look at the streetcorners. If I wanted that I would not bother filling out a profile and all that.

Just for the record, I rarely lie, only to the government. But I have had an interesting and unusual life.

T




Owner59 -> RE: Automatic Lie Assumption (11/26/2008 9:33:09 AM)

It may have been that he found you so attractive,that he didn`t believe it could be so.There`s a lot of dogs here,both men and women.I have been a victim of fake profilers,maybe he`s also been.

It may have been a sincere compliment that was bungled badly.

If he`s worth your time,give him another chance. This is the net after all.




DrkJourney -> RE: Automatic Lie Assumption (11/26/2008 9:50:28 AM)

I understand where you are coming from.   I understand it's the internet and it's probably healthy to be a bit skeptical, but I don't believe it was cool at all for his "yeah right" comment, even if that's what he thought.    He could've tactfully continued to talk and find out if it was a real pic or not. 

I can say from experience that it's no fun to have to explain and prove yourself in every sentence.   All meaningful communication stops, they seem to jump on every word and you spend your time defending yourself, or you walk on eggshells weighing every word you say, which is no way to have start a friendship.


I think I probably would've asked what he meant by it, and gone from there.  Actually, you are the only one who can judge whether to continue with your present course or try talking to him again.  You were there, we weren't




Owner59 -> RE: Automatic Lie Assumption (11/26/2008 10:11:23 AM)

True,he could have handled it better,and might have missed a great catch.His loss if that`s the case and a learning experience for everyone.

Personally,I would never say something like that in that way.

There really are attractive,real people on date sites,along with average folks and the rest of the rabble like myself.





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