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When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:10:26 PM   
AAkasha


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When submissive men tell femdoms they are hard, they often mean it as a compliment or are just trying to be honest.  But when timed poorly, it can be really inappropriate and earn him some points in the negative column. Femdoms, is there a rule of thumb for you when you like to hear that a man is hard because of your presence, your words, your photos, your voice?

I can think back to situations and it really can vary. There have been men that I did not know well yet who confessed to me they were hard, and it was quite alright, even somewhat charming. There were other men that I may have even known a little better, but when they confessed this, it came off as creepy and inappropriate.  The difference?  I guess for me it comes down to whether or not we're clicking and I am attracted to him.  The thing is, in some cases, a guy doesn't know if the lady is attracted to him.

The best rule of thumb?  Keep it to yourself, that's my opinion.  Like all things, you'll get the green light when she asks you, "Do I make you hard?" or "Are you turned on right now?"  Otherwise, to bring it up, you might shoot yourself in the foot.

Ladies, when you receive an introductary email that says "I got hard looking at your profile," do you think "creep" or "right on!"?

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:12:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		I always want to know.  That's a "weakness" I can exploit to my advantage and have hours of fun with.  If I don't want to do anything about it, knowing that I know and that I'm not doing anything about it serves to keep him in his place.  Win-win all 'round.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:13:36 PM   
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I always want to know.  That's a "weakness" I can exploit to my advantage and have hours of fun with.  If I don't want to do anything about it, knowing that I know and that I'm not doing anything about it serves to keep him in his place.  Win-win all 'round.


Do you want to know even if you met him 5 minutes ago?

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:13:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		An introductory email?  Bullshit.  I couldn't care less if the cock is hard.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:18:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		intro email?  that would mean instant ignore, to me.

As far as when, for me it would have to be after some sort of mutual connection/affection has been established.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:22:24 PM   
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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:24:18 PM   
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It's normally quite obvious. :-p

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:30:02 PM   
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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:30:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


Ladies, when you receive an introductary email that says "I got hard looking at your profile," do you think "creep" or "right on!"?



Thats always creepy in my opinion. I dont like being looked at as a sex object and nothing more. If the only thing you can think to send to me is a message about your hard cock (or worse... a picture of it) then you are already thinking with the wrong head and you ahve lost my interest.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:37:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

I always want to know.  That's a "weakness" I can exploit to my advantage and have hours of fun with.  If I don't want to do anything about it, knowing that I know and that I'm not doing anything about it serves to keep him in his place.  Win-win all 'round.


Do you want to know even if you met him 5 minutes ago?

Akasha



Why not?  I can then laugh my head off, if I choose to.  As I said, hours of entertainment.  Maybe I just don't take a guy having a hard-on to be that big of a deal.  It's sort of like him telling me that he has a headache or blue eyes.  It's just another physical characteristic.  It's only a big deal if I allow it to be a big deal.

Edited to clarify:  a lot of guys tell you about the status of their cocks thinking they're going to wind you up.  I prefer not to give them that power.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:39:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		my answer is "never".   I really don't care if they are hard or not...who cares.  The only time I care is if he is actually owned by me and that would only be in person and I think I would figure that out....lol

I get some idiot at least once a week saying they are hard because of my pic....I just think he's a creepy troll....so I just give them the patented "have a nice day"  and delete their email.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 5:39:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		If I ignored every msub who tells me my pics make him hard, I wouldn't ever find any to play with.  Yeah, it's kind of tacky and off-point, but it's pretty inoccuous.  Eventually, if he's someone I pick to train, his arousal will become a tool for me to work with.  That men of any stripe are sexually motivated and sexually focused, is really not a surprise.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 6:01:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		So many put up sexy pics then get offended when men react...go figure!

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 6:02:11 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: undercover00756

So many put up sexy pics then get offended when men react...go figure!


So if a woman dresses sexily that's an invitation to hear about boners?
Maybe we should all dress in trashbags.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 6:05:53 PM   
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So many put up sexy pics then get offended when men react...go figure!


Personally, I react a WHOLE lot better to "Your pictures are lovely" than I do to "my cock is springing outta my pants"

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 6:12:48 PM   
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So many put up sexy pics then get offended when men react...go figure!
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Akasha

Nope, no invitation. But no need to be so surprised or dugusted when revealed. Akasha, you always make me laugh!

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 6:14:53 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: undercover00756

So many put up sexy pics then get offended when men react...go figure!


1) Lovely pics!  - Yes
I just printed your pics out and squirted love juice all over them! -No

2) Nice body! - Eh, ok
I'd grab those tatas and f_ you all night long. - No

3) I like your pictures- yes
I can't look at pretty pics without wanking all over my desk. - Haha, fail on you


Learn how to complement people like an adult, and don't act like a horny highschool kid, and you will do much better.

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Nope, no invitation. But no need to be so surprised or dugusted when revealed. Akasha, you always make me laugh!


So if I wore a low cut shirt in public, I'm expected to put up with people like you pulling their cock out and showing it too me?

Please.


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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 6:16:11 PM   
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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 6:17:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		How about quivering anuses? Should they be reported?

Maybe it would be better to just blog about that.


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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/24/2008 6:20:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		This whole thred cracks me up. No, i don't tell women about my arousal out of context and you would be safe wearing alow cut dress around me. but if I look and smile take it as a compliment not as an opportunity to act like there is something wrong with me!

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