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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/26/2008 5:04:58 PM

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Well sadly, although polite, I am no longer 53.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/26/2008 5:10:46 PM

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Well sadly, although polite, I am no longer 53.

Perhaps you could change your nick to Politesub114. You'd get a few more years' mileage out of it that way.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/26/2008 7:20:14 PM

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(laugh) It's a friend's shorthand for intelligent, witty, good sense of humor, etc. in someone...they have "spicy brains."

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/26/2008 10:01:36 PM

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I am stunned some guys even do this. Firstly, it lacks class, and secondly, it lacks class. Does it ever work ?

Not usually, but you should experiment with the idea anyway... I'm thinking a little crassness, a few pics... You just never know what will work.
<<<--- Just trying to be helpful,

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 4:22:54 AM

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when im with my mistress i always get hard for her

after all i am naked and freshly showered when she walks in the door ...and freshly enema clean too

she loves me hard because then she can use me anyway that she sees fit for her pleasure

when she fists me anally she also gives me a great hand job too and between her assault on my cock with one hand and the other hand massaging my prostate i start dripping cum for her almost once she enters me

she loves feeding me back by cum too once she has taken it from me one way or another ...love snowball kisses ..her sharing my cum back with me with a snowball kiss is quite erotic i think until i swallow it all

or if she allows me to cum inside of her then she sits on my face until i lick her clean after

could not imagine us playing together if she didnt get me hard ...love our times together

and since our fluids have bonded well together no condoms are necessary anymore ...thank gawd

thats one thing once she leaves she knows most of the time i have no cum left inside of me because she has taken it from me one way or another ..love her touch and her kisses too ..how can i not get hard from that ?

have fun mal

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 4:32:20 AM

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I think "creep".

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 6:42:02 AM

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LOL......I don't recall ever having to tell my Mistress I am hard......its always been rather clearly evident.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 11:58:12 AM

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Is he gonna have to tell me?

It's not going to be pleasingly...evident?

...actually, that's a pretty good gage. If you have to tell me or else, for whatever unfortunate reason, I wouldn't know, then mmm, don't.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 12:01:20 PM

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So many put up sexy pics then get offended when men react...go figure!

So if a woman dresses sexily that's an invitation to hear about boners?
Maybe we should all dress in trashbags.

Akasha

But with certain areas cut out, natch.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 12:34:37 PM

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So many put up sexy pics then get offended when men react...go figure!

So if a woman dresses sexily that's an invitation to hear about boners?
Maybe we should all dress in trashbags.

Akasha

Yeah. If you have to explain to someone why a good reaction to your looking good isn't whipping it out and waving it around, figuratively or otherwise,...
then you probably can't explain, to their understanding.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 1:48:21 PM

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I suppose it's marginally better than 'What are you going to do to me'.
I tried being sarcastic. It doesn't work.
I've tried patiently explaining that I'm looking for a real life partner rather than a purely BDSM partner. Very few people get it.
I've tried telling people that BDSM and D/s are seperate concepts.
I can't get anyone to understand that it seems we are all here looking for something different.
I've always been aggresive in my sexuality. A lot of men don't like it.
I expect people to treat all people with respect. A lot don't. You can be honest and still be polite. I manage it most of the time.
I used to enjoy having BDSM sex with strangers. I don't anymore.
We can assume way too much about people.
I spoke to one sub for months before I found out that all he wanted to do was take me dancing. He had met one Domme before who had made him strip in public. The guy had mental health problems which I am sure were exacerbated by her behaviour. He had been constantly put down and humiliated by his family.
I've been a social worker for 14 years until I got the sack for my profile on here. I keep writing it as a warning . A lot of vanilla people think we are all mad. They can not begin to understand.
Who can blame them when every question anyone asks has a different answer depending who you are.
The people who have found what they are looking for have my complete admiration.
The men I like aren't kinky. Kinky men so far I don't even like. Let alone want to be involved with intimately.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 1:50:39 PM

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When is it ok for a submissive to state that some of the topics on the collarme forums border on strange/dumb?

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 1:53:00 PM

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When is it ok for a submissive to state that some of the topics on the collarme forums border on strange/dumb?

Oooooooh, Irony from idiotmale.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 3:18:20 PM

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When is it ok for a submissive to state that some of the topics on the collarme forums border on strange/dumb?

It's okay for you to post your opinion on others' posts, whenever you want. And there's no doubt that topics common to this select group are even stranger than the strangeness of life in general, which itself is stranger than fiction.

However,
and it might have escaped your attention, but we're going on four pages of posts, now, mostly from female dominants who relate well enough to the topic of this thread, strange as it may be.

When men approach women in a context where the woman is acknowledging her sexuality in some way, such as by having a profile or photo on a BDSM site or by wearing something sexy out, often they approach us in disturbing ways. I won't go into it further, here. Suffice to say, when a man tells a woman with whom he has no sexual involvement, or a woman he doesn't know at all, that he's hard, it's the verbal equivalent of exposing himself to her. And, just as if he'd literally exposed himself, it smacks of some alienating, aggressive, and hostile attitudes regarding women and sex.

And I would suggest to you that, just because you don't share the concerns of a dominant woman and therefore do not relate to their interest in a certain topic of behaviour, doesn't mean that it's "dumb" for them to communicate with each other, about their concerns and feelings. Happily, if you find the conversation boring, you can move to another you personally find trenchant.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 3:56:00 PM

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Well sadly, although polite, I am no longer 53.

Perhaps you could change your nick to Politesub114. You'd get a few more years' mileage out of it that way.

Hopefully i will make it to politesub69 < Smirks a tad >

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 4:01:02 PM

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Well sadly, although polite, I am no longer 53.

Perhaps you could change your nick to Politesub114. You'd get a few more years' mileage out of it that way.

Hopefully i will make it to politesub69 < Smirks a tad >

Oooh, I think you may have missed one of Darch's posts, PS. I won't be doing 69 again, not without a chainmail codpiece, anyway.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 7:13:29 PM

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When is it ok for a submissive to state that some of the topics on the collarme forums border on strange/dumb?

You're being too kind in referring to this topic as "strange/dumb" love. I see your nick is an ironic one; it takes not just intelligence but balls to tell the presumed would-be emperors they have no clothes. Alas, sadly, these courts are filled more often with jesters than wise men.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/27/2008 7:43:51 PM

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Well sadly, although polite, I am no longer 53.

Perhaps you could change your nick to Politesub114. You'd get a few more years' mileage out of it that way.

Hopefully i will make it to politesub69 < Smirks a tad >

I shall keep my . . . err . . . fingers crossed for you, but, alas, will not be here to witness your success. I've noticed that the boards lately have attracted some real low-life (even worse than PforH, if that's possible), and I don't want it rubbing off on me, so all the best to you, dear PS.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/28/2008 1:39:20 AM

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alienating, aggressive, and hostile attitudes regarding women

Now, what could you mean by that, MM? Surely you see no evidence of that on this thread, at least?

Well, not after the moderators have wiped the odd post, anyway.

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RE: When is it ok for a submissive to tell you he's hard? - 11/28/2008 1:52:25 AM

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I would think a submissive would have no reason to tell his owner that he is hard unless she asked. And it's my opinion that if a man approaches a woman and tells her he is hard,he is not submissive but a jackass.

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