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Mercnbeth -> RE: Chinese Symbol for Slave (11/26/2008 10:13:45 AM)
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If such people ask what it means and I lie about it I don’t think that takes away the concrete meaning. I’m just taking advantage of their naivety. You can’t change the meaning of the tattoo. If someone capable of reading it sees it– ok fine, I’m not trying to lie about or pretend I got ‘taken’ by my tattoo artist. For me this is just a good place to hide between what I am and the vanilla life I’m stuck living.
sfs.
I'm going to live up to the 'subtle as a Steel warm-up' signature line - Don't get the tattoo. You're not ready to be identified with the commitment it represents. Because that is the only answer that's necessary. It means, or represents, my commitment to my partner.
Using any of the references provided for the symbol in question, including L&M's, or use them as a combined reference and you have the ability to answer truthfully at all times while maintaining decorum.
beth's and I have had these going on six years: http://www.chinese-word.com/data/0026-7.html . Everyone who's ever asked, including parents, relatives and anyone else has gotten an honest answer. As with the words husband, wife, spouse, life-partner; all have more than one dictionary definition. You can use whatever one is appropriate to the inquirer.
beth has hers exposed constantly . she has responded by answering anything from the direct-slave, to the more subtle - committed partner; to the basic - servant. her tattoo is something she is proud to wear. As proud as she is when answering a just as intrusive question, especially when we attend business functions; "So beth, and what do you do?" her answer every time pointing to me; "I serve him and try to keep him happy." It's funny to hear the comments and/or see the different reactions; especially between the other couples. Details? I think a request for them should be treated with the same deserving sarcasm as those who would be socially ignorant to ask a similarly invasive question to press beth on her 'career' response by asking; "well how much to you make?"
The questions and comments regarding the tattoos are easier when together. Giving generalities we say the characters represents our primary relationship dynamic commitment; me in charge and supporting the piratical. beth the 'domestic goddess' that she is; maintaining house, home, and my needs. However, the ongoing conversation and discussion gets much more interesting when we just share the basic 'slave' 'Master' representation.
Frankly those asking learn no more than they would when they hear her introduced as my spouse. To learn exactly what that label represents you have to know a lot more about them than what you'll determine by looking at the dictionary definitionS of marriage or spouse.
Appreciating you are in the research stage, make sure you include some self research too. Whatever you decide, in whatever language or form; if you are planning to represent your relationship and commitment to it by a mark considered permanent on your body - be proud of it, and what it represents to YOU and your partner, or don't do it at all.
Good luck!
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