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RE: Financial Control in D/s - 12/15/2008 12:14:44 PM

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I personally would not allow them to control my finances, as they are mine and mine alone, and I am quite capable of controlling them, and should I become unable to control my finances, because I chose not to and make irresponsible choices, then there's a problem that needs dealt with on a deeper level than him controlling my money..

But It can work and people can be happy with it when all people are on the same page about what's allowed and what isn't and just how the finances are to be controlled.

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ORIGINAL: berrysurprise

Just wondering what the thoughts are regarding financial control in D/s?

In your opinion when and how do you think it can work?

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RE: Financial Control in D/s - 12/15/2008 12:17:13 PM

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Yes, but instead of relying on others to manage it for you, shouldn't you learn money management for yourself. There won't always be someone looking over your shoulder making sure you're managing it properly. Money management is a life long skill of any adult, and should be learned so one may manage their own money and not rely on others to do it.

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Daddy has helped me figure out a budget in the past. When we move in together, it's likely that he'll control all the finances. We'll have a joint account that I can use for groceries, etc, and an allowance for other things.
Quite frankly, I'm relieved. I'm terrible with money.

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RE: Financial Control in D/s - 12/15/2008 12:25:56 PM

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I understand what you are saying, but wouldn’t you also consider if one party of the relationship both is inept with finances and really wants the other one to handle them it is reasonable for them within their dynamic?

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RE: Financial Control in D/s - 12/15/2008 12:36:55 PM

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Nope, if both of you are inept with money then neither one has any business controlling the others finances I feel.

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I understand what you are saying, but wouldn’t you also consider if one party of the relationship both is inept with finances and really wants the other one to handle them it is reasonable for them within their dynamic?

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RE: Financial Control in D/s - 12/15/2008 2:34:12 PM

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I agree but that was not what I said..

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RE: Financial Control in D/s - 12/15/2008 6:35:52 PM

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Your question was kind of unclear, so that was my take on what you were asking. If it's not a correct take on the question please explain what you meant:)