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RE: for what purpose? - 11/25/2008 6:19:43 PM

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I believe this is where the trust and communication really come into play. If it's something I really don't like, I would have to ask why? What purpose? What lesson? If the answer is lame, then I may or may not do it. I know, a bit feisty it sounds, but you see, if you can come up with a good enough reason for me, then why bother doing what i don't like???

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RE: for what purpose? - 11/25/2008 6:32:35 PM

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I do as Master requires whether it be something outrageous or not..unless it goes against my morals or safety for my family/friends. At that point I would have to make the decision to not obey and as to my relationship. While I may be his slave I have not lost my senses..ok, maybe temporarily but not enough to endanger myself or others around me.

Otherwise I obey..whether I know the purpose or not. There's a point in a relationship where you have to just jump and learn to trust your partner. If you can't do that then really imo you have to question if you really want to be with that person.

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RE: for what purpose? - 11/25/2008 6:48:32 PM

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One possible option is simply because you are desired to be used in that way. You don't need to love to cook in order to cook something great. You don't need to love women in order to be great at oral sex.

Another possible option is that it can help curry favor towards the dom, you can be bartered with and used to make him look better so he can ask for favors in the future.

Those are just two- there are many others.

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RE: for what purpose? - 11/25/2008 8:31:07 PM

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i obey without question as i trust my Master to understand my limits. At times i feel as though i am being pushed too far (usually because i'm embarrassed in a public setting)...well the lesson i have learned is that i have exhibitionist tendencies i never knew where a part of me and so i am grateful for Master's innate understanding of my psyche. The beautiful thing about this is that i set off to perform a task with the sole purpose to please my Master and in doing so am given the gift of pleasure in return. Win/win.

My blind faith in Him as taught me to see. Trust is a powerful aphrodisiac.

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RE: for what purpose? - 11/25/2008 9:17:49 PM

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i had a Dom friend tell me, when He does something to a girl that pushes her limits and she went a long with it with little hesitation but total discomfort... (he was actually someone who didn't like to share but lets say hit them harder then they liked or had them play with 'icyhot',) the things he would get out of it was the fact the submissive would go that far out of their comfort zone just for Him. He would then feel bad and love them more and want to do something to make him feel better.

i dont know how much this holds up or holds true... but i can see how it works. there is also a fetish that some people have called exibitionisim (sp on that, i have no clue) the excitement of watching or having someone watch. For some people it is just their kick and fantasy.

So lets say its not the submissives kick but it's the Doms kick, if i were in that place, (since i actually like girls i'll say i do it with another guy cause i was asked to) the only enjoyment i would get out of it would be that my Dom was there, he was watching, He was making sure i wouldn't get hurt, if he saw i was uncomfortable maybe He would stop the play.. maybe He would so something to me to ease me... who knows, but at least i as able to give that fantasy to Him. He was able to do something he wanted to do, even if it wasn't for me, if it's not a hard limit (and oh yes i have limits) i am totally up to do it or try it.

To ask a submissive 'How far will you go?' is kinda silly... not really... but kind of because the how far will you go should be answered with 'How far are you wanting me to go?' Just have to start testing the waters and see where it leads in my opinion.

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RE: for what purpose? - 11/25/2008 9:21:46 PM

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Just because a person "likes guys" doesn't mean they will like or want to fuck the guy they are told to. Gosh how many doms could NOT get it through their head that just because I was happily bisexual did NOT mean I wanted to happily jump on every cunt that passed my way? (Oh I'm sorry, they like to call themselves "really bi")

For me the question is not silly at all- it's extremely important for a person to know who they are and what is and is not right for them and what will damage their sense of self. My partners greatest strength is when he can tell me no and I cherish him for that. Some people might be into pushing limits, I'm into being fulfilled.

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RE: for what purpose? - 11/25/2008 10:08:52 PM

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It has been asked of me a few times, would you serve a master 'no', would you serve a couple 'yes', even if it meant that you would have to serve the master as well 'only if the mistress of the house ordered me to' not to please the master but to please the mistress. Would girl like it, perhaps, but only because it did bring the mistress pleasure. Girl could not care less what the master thinks.
Now if, girl was in service to a mistress, she knowing full well how girl feels towards men, ordered to pleasure mistress by pleasuring a man, yes, girl would do as she was ordered to do, its not for girl, its for mistress.
Part of me would tell my self, when its done you can bathe afterwards. Another part of me might perceive it as a punishment.
Either way, girl would do it because it is by mistress' will.

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RE: for what purpose? - 11/25/2008 10:13:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Just because a person "likes guys" doesn't mean they will like or want to fuck the guy they are told to. Gosh how many doms could NOT get it through their head that just because I was happily bisexual did NOT mean I wanted to happily jump on every cunt that passed my way? (Oh I'm sorry, they like to call themselves "really bi")

Lol, my Dom is male and would rather i not play with other males, however there is a touch that a women can give that a no Dom man i have met can, it could be a Dom woman a submissive woman whatever... and i have promission to play with women.

Does this mean i want to jump on every dick or lick every clit that passes me by.... gee let me think.. no!

However i had to put myself in the shoes of the question, if my Dom did ask me do that guy (a guy that i didn't find attractive, or i know that im not suppose to do that because that is a rule that he just told me to break... is this a test should i say yes.. should i say no... hard question.)would i do it for him... the answer is yes... However, i'm also a bit of an exibitionest, (yeah, spelling still didn't look it up,)so my thoughts are bias (i could put an evil grin here but why bother it's whatever floats the my boat.)

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RE: for what purpose? - 11/26/2008 12:40:20 PM

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The original Question restated:
Why would a Master/Owner ask a sub/slave to do something outrageous? Would you do it?

The first question would be interesting to post on the Ask a Master section. I'm sure the answer is much different from the replies here.

i know from my own personal experience: my Master asked me to do something to test my STRENGTH. He wanted me to say no and to stand firm. This was not easy for me. i want to please Him. i was tempted to say yes...i almost caved in and agreed to do it even though i felt it could potentionally harm me. in the end i respectfully refused. AND--i was rewarded.

In my life--i have fallen victim to those that like to manipulate my need to please people. my Master knew that if i could learn to say NO to Him--then saying no to others would be a piece of cake. Also--learning i had the strength in me to say no and stand firm to my decision was a lesson i NEEDED.

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