MadameMarque
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For myself, I have a sore spot about friends wanting me to watch a movie that I don't want to watch, for the very reason that they would want me to do that. I feel like it indicates zero concern for whether or not I enjoy that time together, too. Watch with me, one of the zillion movies we would both be willing to watch, and watch the other ones when I'm not around. At bigger group gatherings such as parties, though, it's sometimes inescapable - if they're playing something you don't like, you either stay or go. I despair at the popularity, among my otherwise bloodthirsty friends, of "family" movies featuring talking animals. Conversely, for movies with grisly, nonconsentual violence, such as torture, or movies that are cynical and depressing in tone, I tell friends I have to really be in the mood, or else it's just too awful for me. Maybe I'm just more affected by them than a lot of people? For somethings, I will never be in the mood. For example, after watching Papillion with a date, I can realistically say that I will never be in the mood to watch a movie that features for much of its length, prisoners trying to survive in an especially hellish prison. Also, war movies and ones centered around horrible illness - almost universally, no no no. Depressing includes melodramas usually mis-engendered as "chick flicks" - what ever happened to, 'girls just want to have fun'? But there are various movies I consented to watch only because friends were so excited about them, which introduced me to movies or genres I wouldn't have otherwise seen. A friend had been wanting to watch Ichi the Killer together, and finally one night I said I was up for it. Now that director, Takeshi Miike, and the lead actor, Tadanobu Asano, are favourites. The first Hellraiser film I only watched to indulge a friend, and though I'll probably never watch it again, I thought it very artful. I enjoyed Buffy the Vampire Slayer, the movie, which I suspected was going to be awful. And there are others I've been introduced to, by agreeing to see them with friends.
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