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RE: Thrown into the pile of toy dolls? Help! - 12/5/2008 1:50:36 PM

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Hi Jupiterfalling
I did a search on previous threads by you, because I kept thinking you started one about having sex and it was painful. I was right, that you did start a thread on that.

Could those issues still had been in play? Perhaps it just wasnt something, he felt was going to work out.

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RE: Thrown into the pile of toy dolls? Help! - 12/5/2008 1:56:48 PM

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Hi Dalanius,

Yes, my post was indeed erratic and comprised of the sort of emotions teenage girls exhibit in the Vanilla world. Perhaps, I digressed because of being new to D/S. The more powerfull the connection, the more potent is the rejection - especially when your aim was to grow within it in some way. I'm not momentarily trying to escape a feeling of vacancy and despair, nor do I think myself an unworthy piece of meat. I'm carefull, picky, and I don't sleep around. I waited until I was presented with the opportunity to engage with someone I trusted as a friend. That's all I expected in the end. I do agree with you about finding a therapist. Luckily, I just found a famous BDSM kink oriented one in my area. I always do my best to approach these things with a clear mind and healthy body, but I'm also human and require clarity in return. On one last note: Half assed Domination = half assed Submission, and vice versa. I'm still sad that he and I never reached our potiential, and I just hope to find sexual chemistry again. Thank you for your advice.

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RE: Thrown into the pile of toy dolls? Help! - 12/5/2008 2:13:37 PM

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Hi Ocean,

I've been checked out and everything is normal. As I mentioned, I hadn't been penetrated in a long time. It didn't work the 2nd time either, so I'm thinking other things. I'm in a nervous and different state of mind during play. I'm thinking that this is causing my body to tense up. The desire and anticipation coupled with an almost meditative state of mind could have caused muscles to tense up? Just a theory. On the brighter note, I was able to have anal sex for the first time. Ironic. Thank G-D I took so many Sex/Psych electives in college. Otherwise I could never post this sort of thing.

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RE: Thrown into the pile of toy dolls? Help! - 12/5/2008 3:23:52 PM

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Thank you for answering Jupiterfalling
I am sure in time you will find the right person and have the right combo for yourself. In my life, those bumps on the road had always ended up teaching me very valuable lessons.

Best of luck to you
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RE: Thrown into the pile of toy dolls? Help! - 12/5/2008 6:34:16 PM

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Hi Ocean,

I've been checked out and everything is normal. As I mentioned, I hadn't been penetrated in a long time. It didn't work the 2nd time either, so I'm thinking other things. I'm in a nervous and different state of mind during play. I'm thinking that this is causing my body to tense up. The desire and anticipation coupled with an almost meditative state of mind could have caused muscles to tense up? Just a theory. On the brighter note, I was able to have anal sex for the first time. Ironic. Thank G-D I took so many Sex/Psych electives in college. Otherwise I could never post this sort of thing.

Perhaps you were just nervous.
However, wiitwd brings out the opposite in me.
It had been over two years since I had (uhmm...you know) when I began exploring this lifestyle, and when I finally opened up to someone the D/s stuff did things to me, that helped to erm...do things to me...

It's possible you need to be with someone a bit more special than this guy you describe. Maybe someone you can trust with ALL of you.

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RE: Thrown into the pile of toy dolls? Help! - 12/5/2008 7:22:02 PM

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