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hopelessfool -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 5:30:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: hopelessfool

Icarys ive seen these games and ususally they end up with one or more girls needing to go to the hosptial. Mostly because in many cases like with myself i simply care so much about pleasing my sir i push myself way to far. In every case of such games ive needed multiple stitches, as have many of the competition.

Its nothing about being fragile, its about you IDIOTS, not realizing your not makeing a game
your fucking with peoples mentalilites, And in turn messing not only with them phyically but emotionally and mentally.

I live for the postive affection of a good girl or job well done. I know many people in the life who are the same way. Setting me up to get my self harmed just doesnt sound all that fun and entertaining. Because i literally shut off all the you cant do this until i get told i was a good girl.



Where adults are involved, I've never heard of anything bad happening. What if it was a game of cards..since he hasn't declared what type of games I think it's pretty stupid for you and others to assume the worst.



Yeah A game of cards would be amusing for you to watch, i mean if you wanted that you could just turn on tv.

The thing your missing here is it DOESNT MATTER WHAT KIND OF GAME IT IS. In the end with 95% of submissives its going to be messing with them in a bad way either emtionally mentially or physically. Hence why us WOMENS and SUBS Are saying THIS IS A VERY BAD IDEA!!!!!




Icarys -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 5:33:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hopelessfool

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: hopelessfool

Icarys ive seen these games and ususally they end up with one or more girls needing to go to the hosptial. Mostly because in many cases like with myself i simply care so much about pleasing my sir i push myself way to far. In every case of such games ive needed multiple stitches, as have many of the competition.

Its nothing about being fragile, its about you IDIOTS, not realizing your not makeing a game
your fucking with peoples mentalilites, And in turn messing not only with them phyically but emotionally and mentally.

I live for the postive affection of a good girl or job well done. I know many people in the life who are the same way. Setting me up to get my self harmed just doesnt sound all that fun and entertaining. Because i literally shut off all the you cant do this until i get told i was a good girl.



Where adults are involved, I've never heard of anything bad happening. What if it was a game of cards..since he hasn't declared what type of games I think it's pretty stupid for you and others to assume the worst.



Yeah A game of cards would be amusing for you to watch, i mean if you wanted that you could just turn on tv.

The thing your missing here is it DOESNT MATTER WHAT KIND OF GAME IT IS. In the end with 95% of submissives its going to be messing with them in a bad way either emtionally mentially or physically. Hence why us WOMENS and SUBS Are saying THIS IS A VERY BAD IDEA!!!!!


If you would be emotionally damaged from a friendly game of cards..you need to seek help i think.




SimplyMichael -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 5:37:01 PM)

Icarys,

Would you compete in a dom competition and if so, what sort of things would you have tested and how would you react if you lost?




hopelessfool -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 5:38:06 PM)

Okay, Icarys Do you not understand the mentaility of some subs or slaves? I mean have you ever been one by your responses im going to assume you havent.

I literly live and breath by my owner saying im a good girl when in a commited relationship. Friendly game or no, in my head it comes across as I need to win for everyone to realize how good of a girl i am, and to please my partner. So if i loose even if my partner says im a good girl its not going to matter because to me... Im not.. I didnt do my best to please my partner because I didnt win. He can pet and love on me all he wants but im going to see that glimmer in his eye that hes ever so slightly minutely disappointed i didnt win. because i know my partner. I know he strives for me to be the best. Even at a silly friendly game of cards. Sure i might need help but ya know what i think i serve fine just the way i am. And my partner understands and realizes my mentality and my triggers.




Icarys -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 5:42:04 PM)

I wouldn't have a problem with losing Michael. I play darts, video games, cards and a number of other fun activities that allow my competitive side to come out. I'm not perfect and I don't have to be, yes I wouldn't like losing but I wouldn't take a ride to the therapist from it. I enjoy competition and believe if it was done tastefully it's healthy..hell some of them just might have a good time if they took long enough to try it.




simpleplan2 -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 5:45:44 PM)

And some might not.  I agree with hopeless that it seems the majority of subs tend to think this is not a very good idea.  So they shouldn't do it.  If your sub and the subs of your dom friends want to...have at it.




Icarys -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 5:46:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hopelessfool

Okay, Icarys Do you not understand the mentaility of some subs or slaves? I mean have you ever been one by your responses im going to assume you havent.

I literly live and breath by my owner saying im a good girl when in a commited relationship. Friendly game or no, in my head it comes across as I need to win for everyone to realize how good of a girl i am, and to please my partner. So if i loose even if my partner says im a good girl its not going to matter because to me... Im not.. I didnt do my best to please my partner because I didnt win. He can pet and love on me all he wants but im going to see that glimmer in his eye that hes ever so slightly minutely disappointed i didnt win. because i know my partner. I know he strives for me to be the best. Even at a silly friendly game of cards. Sure i might need help but ya know what i think i serve fine just the way i am. And my partner understands and realizes my mentality and my triggers.


I don't usually say this to a slave but I think for you and females that believe so adamantly with you based on simple card games and the such.. I'd say a tiny bit of detachment would be beneficial for you.




Icarys -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 5:49:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: simpleplan2

And some might not.  I agree with hopeless that it seems the majority of subs tend to think this is not a very good idea.  So they shouldn't do it.  If your sub and the subs of your dom friends want to...have at it.

That's usually how it would go anyway. It's discussion at this point..the end result will be exactly like you have put it.




Icarys -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 5:51:38 PM)

I'd like to ask this: Do the ones that say Nay have the same problem playing against their Master in home games? What about beating Him at a game?




MasterFireMaam -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 6:47:40 PM)

Something like a slave Olympics? How about all those silly races you did as a kid? Egg in a spoon....orange rolled by the nose...bobbing for a particular fruit...etc. etc. Just had some kinky 'handicaps' and viola! Entertainment.

Master Fire




Icarys -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 6:51:12 PM)

Pole Vault?




E2Sweet -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 6:57:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Master1170

Does anyone has good ideas or expiriences for a "slave competition"? For example which slave can support the most weights hanging from clamps on their nipples.


For many (including myself) D/s is not a competitive sport. Personally, I like it that way, and I think being led into an atmosphere of "who's better" would reduce this whole thing down into something it was never intended to be. So, no.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 7:03:56 PM)

Allow me to be a balancer here- with the right people, personalities and perspectives, fun competitive games can be a great time.  At Leather Retreat they have games every year.  Things like seeing how many clothespins you can put on one person in a minute.  But this is totally voluntary, everyone gets into it with the spirit of just having a good time, there's no real prize for the winner except bragging rights.  Heck at the end of the event they give out awards like Camp Slut which is a highly sought after honor.

The issue with couples is that the sub really isn't volunteering and there can be a much more dense atmosphere of performing and being the best amongst friends- you aren't at some resort vacation, you aren't as relaxed, these are ongoing social relationships. 

So it would be wrong to say that it can't work and no one should try.  But it's a tenuous thing that unfortunately the types of doms who enjoy competitions are the LEAST likely to really understand a subs headspace or inter-relations between subs on the damage that can actually cause.




BitaTruble -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 7:10:02 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Pole Vault?


Who is going to be supplying the pole? I mean, I might be interested, but it depends. [8D]





Icarys -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 7:31:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Pole Vault?


Who is going to be supplying the pole? I mean, I might be interested, but it depends. [8D]



Maybe your Man's unit will do for you.[:D]




Icarys -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 7:35:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Allow me to be a balancer here- with the right people, personalities and perspectives, fun competitive games can be a great time.  At Leather Retreat they have games every year.  Things like seeing how many clothespins you can put on one person in a minute.  But this is totally voluntary, everyone gets into it with the spirit of just having a good time, there's no real prize for the winner except bragging rights.  Heck at the end of the event they give out awards like Camp Slut which is a highly sought after honor.

The issue with couples is that the sub really isn't volunteering and there can be a much more dense atmosphere of performing and being the best amongst friends- you aren't at some resort vacation, you aren't as relaxed, these are ongoing social relationships. 

So it would be wrong to say that it can't work and no one should try.  But it's a tenuous thing that unfortunately the types of doms who enjoy competitions are the LEAST likely to really understand a subs headspace or inter-relations between subs on the damage that can actually cause.

I understand what they are saying. i just think they are going way over with the emotional drama and would do better in life if maybe they stepped back a little..Not much..just a tad....I personally think this is tailored made for them. Just sayin.




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 7:41:07 PM)

There is a lot of emphasis on submissive insecurities and strong negative feelings toward competition between s-types, but have you ever really watched dominants interact?  Especially male dominants?  I don't think it is representative of roles, so much as human nature.  Let's face it.  There are some people you enjoy getting together to play competitive sports or games with, and those you would rather operate on yourself with a dinnerfork, than endure a night of gaming with them. 

I don't see any reason why some good hearted, fun and games, shouldn't or couldn't take place with those comfortable enough to participate without it becoming a downward spiraling vortex into emotional angst.  I seriously don't think that losing at 'pole vaulting' would cause me to question my value - although coming in last at cock-sucking would pretty much assure I'd be seeking a lot more practice to improve my game.

If I ever take myself so seriously, that I can't enjoy being the goofball I know myself to be, then its pretty much time to sit the bench.  Sprawled naked over it, would be even better.




Icarys -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 7:45:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

There is a lot of emphasis on submissive insecurities and strong negative feelings toward competition between s-types, but have you ever really watched dominants interact?  Especially male dominants?  I don't think it is representative of roles, so much as human nature.  Let's face it.  There are some people you enjoy getting together to play competitive sports or games with, and those you would rather operate on yourself with a dinnerfork, than endure a night of gaming with them. 

I don't see any reason why some good hearted, fun and games, shouldn't or couldn't take place with those comfortable enough to participate without it becoming a downward spiraling vortex into emotional angst.  I seriously don't think that losing at 'pole vaulting' would cause me to question my value - although coming in last at cock-sucking would pretty much assure I'd be seeking a lot more practice to improve my game.

If I ever take myself so seriously, that I can't enjoy being the goofball I know myself to be, then its pretty much time to sit the bench.  Sprawled naked over it, would be even better.


Good words..Especially that lol[;)]




IronBear -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 9:42:50 PM)

I like the idea of having slaves write their own serve for a specified type of serve like coffee or tea or any other area of service to encourage girls to extend their abilities. I also favour a slave dance competirtion. Goreans would probably look a pole dance, whip dance or chain dance. All are erotic and have a large area for creativity. 




starshineowned -> RE: slave Competition (11/28/2008 10:49:16 PM)

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  Does anyone has good ideas or expiriences for a "slave competition"? For example which slave can support the most weights hanging from clamps on their nipples.


Hmm..See who's cunt can hold the most water or extend that and see who can shoot out the water the farthest distance.

Have them face one another and let them affix clothes pins on each other where ever they wish until one gives in first from the pain.

I don't think the real problem is having competition between the slaves as much as it is about how you respond to them during and afterwards. While clearly there can be a reward for the winner..if there is no emotional support and interaction with the looser afterwards or some sort of out of bound gloating from the winner is allowed..then I think unintentional friction might arise.

Happy Gaming

starshine





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