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lizi -> RE: IMPOTENCE (11/27/2009 1:35:21 PM)
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ORIGINAL: KateyCaine
If there is genuine, pure trust, love, respect and commitment, ED and associated issues SHOULDN'T MATTER.
If it does matter to the other party, then their acceptance of you is flimsy and comes with conditions. That will be the true test of your partner's authenticity - love should transcend genitalia or whether a person can "get it up" or not. Be up front about it, if there is an issue or a hang-up about your ED, you will know at that moment that she is not the slave girl for You.
Never lose faith in true acceptance. TRUE beauty can't be seen :)
k :)
I don't really think this is fair. So those of us who have preferences regarding the people we fall in love with are not really in love with them because the emotion doesn't transcend the physcial limitations or appearance or whatever of our partner? Attraction is based on several things including the lofty (morals, intelligence, personal qualities) and the not so lofty (physical appearance and/or capability). Relationships that last seem to have a mix of the cerebral and the animal.
There is a selection process that we individually follow regarding the partners we end up with. If I totally ignore my own good intuition in favor of following my heart I could end up with someone who is homeless and abuses me on a regular basis besides being impotent. Not following my heart could be called flimsy and conditional or it could be called having common sense. Why pull out one aspect - impotence - as being not important to love? We all have different standards on what is romantically acceptable regarding the physical as well as financial status, societal rank, religious preferences, etc. There are so many things to match up in a good relationship...penile hardness is just one and each person has to decide for themselves if it is important or not.
I just think that someone who has a preference for penile penetration and wants that as a part of their relationship shouldn't be told that their love for their partner isn't as twue as someone who finds it unimportant. It's part of the package for both people. This young girl isn't being dealt with honestly so who knows how she feels about it. I'd find it difficult to deal with if I found out a potential partner had ED but I'd want to know and I'd want the chance to make my own choice as to what to do. Honestly if it were the beginning of something I might choose to pass that person on by as I really like penetrative sex but it if happened in a relationship of some time I'd be likely to find a hard penis less important.
*edited for spelling
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