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KnightofMists -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 12:39:18 PM)

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....(or doms/masters), have any of you experienced that level, where between direct stimulation of the clitoris and harsh verbal instructions-you can cum on command?



It doesn't have to be harsh verbal instructions... it can be like a soft gentle breeze with out any direct stimulation as well.

but... what is your point of the thread? 



NuevaVida -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 12:39:23 PM)


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ORIGINAL: sobayblackmaster

that means neither she nor I preplanned it.



Many, many people do not preplan their BDSM activities.



DesFIP -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 12:48:32 PM)

Harsh verbal commands? Never

Him softly growling "Cum for me baby" when I'm already very aroused will however push me over the edge.

I find anger a turn off. Always.



sobayblackmaster -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 12:53:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

I wasn't aware that to qualify as BDSM, something had to be "preplanned."  But I guess if that works for you, more power to ya.


Cali



despite the fact that my use of the term "preplanned" opens up the door to additional nitpicking imo DBSM involves conscious choices, it's a path that requires some planning by definition. that doesn't mean no spontaneity, hell I don't know. obviously each marches to the beat of his/her own drummer.



CalifChick -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 1:05:45 PM)

Despite your accusation of "nitpicking", I was actually trying to figure out what the hell you were talking about.  If you want to label your activities as 'edgy vanilla' or 'bdsm' then fine, who are we to judge you?  If you feel that it doesn't qualify as Bondage/Domination/Sadism/Masochism/Submission/anyotherthingsthatstartwithBDSorM without conscious choices, then good on you.

I have never heard anyone take the stance that you have, hence the "what the hell???" comment.


Cali



Aynne88 -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 1:14:06 PM)

Yep. Same here. He can control me not cumming or to withhold orgasm while playing ( usually [;)] ) but to make a woman have such an intense physical reaction from some sort of Pavlovian word game? I think not. No matter how much you guys want to think it can be done.   

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Sure I can....just so long as the command comes at the same exact moment I am about to cum.[;)]

I have had quite a few girlfriends who swore on their mother's graves that they could cum on command.....only to have them confide to me later that they really could do no such thing and that they were stroking their dominant's ego by faking it.


same here.




Aynne88 -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 1:16:20 PM)

Exactly. Big difference between that scenario and a verbal command without touching to cum.


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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

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ORIGINAL: sobayblackmaster
let me clarify. we had physical contact. I was manipulating her clit, directly and roughly. it didn't happen instantaneously but took only a few strokes and the words:cum now bitch! she wasn't faking it, trust me.



Technically, I personally wouldn't list that as cumming on command, or even with command.  Cumming on command is more a pavlovian response.
 
the.dark.



sexisubi -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 2:29:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Sure I can....just so long as the command comes at the same exact moment I am about to cum.[;)]



[sm=agree.gif]

In addition it's hard for me, it always has been so sometimes it even blocks it and i have to go say i lost it, and it has to start all over again! it can be very frustrating but is ok just means W/we have to play longer =D.



hejira92 -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 2:40:01 PM)

I doubt I could cum on command from cold, but there have been several times when the conversation alone has gotten me to the point where Master has ordered me to cum and I have done just that! [;)] So, I would classify that as cumming on command with no physical stimulation.
 
As for cumming-, or not cumming-, on-command with permission- that is a daily part of my life! The one time, and one time only, I lost it and came without permission (I tried to stop myself, I really did...), I felt His cane. (The cane is used only for punishment.)
 
Another thing that Master is very fond of- requiring me to orgasm after I feel my body is done. He will continue to stimulate me (whether by fucking, manually or electronically) way past my tolerance and force me to reach deep down and go back into buildup mode. He has gotten me to the point where I can cum again even after the stimulation has become painful (such as keeping the hitachi wand on my clit after I cum. Now, THAT can be sensation overload.)
 
So, He has trained me for a several different types of cum-on-command. And I'm not faking [8D].



GreedyTop -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 4:02:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

dark (you gorgeous woman you), I've faked so that it would be DONE.. If I was worn out and ready to be finished, I'd fake so that we could STOP....

I can cum just looking at how yummy GT is...(opps did I say that out loud).



*puddles*





pinkwind -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 4:50:46 PM)

i am of the opinion that along with good timing coupled with the ability to read pre-orgasmic reactions, speaking in that tome of voice known to make a body shiver, and odd times a little fakery on the part of the orgasmic victim it can look like cumming on command.

Being realistic i doubt that there are any real exponents of the art of controlling autonomic reflexes to enough stimulation to cause an orgasm to happen, although there are some for whom the ability to orgasm can be lost if the sequence they get used to, the stimulus they find works best for them stops.

i know there are women who break up with a partner who uses his wiles to help create crashing orgasms who find that they are almost incapable of having them for ages after the break up, and have to retrain themselves to react to other stimulus.

But orgasm on command, it's just a combination of circumstances that makes it look like a damn good trick.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 4:59:43 PM)

Dang I really see what NV was talking about.

Yes- most chicks are faking it, no matter what they say

Yes- submission has nothing necessarily to do with it

Yes- it's not really anything other than a nice parlor trick and most people use it to show off and get an ego trip

Yes- most of the time people are talking about delayed or controlled orgasms, not on command

But sheesh people- to deny that it exists and that people can and do orgasm immediately from command with no pre thought, no pre touch when they are in an emotionally and spiritually balanced place?  That's just silly.  Of course it exists, it's just not common and not really a big deal.



Passion357 -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 5:23:24 PM)


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Yes we do, especially when it leads us to make a public spectacle (ass) of ourselves. The other thing that bothers me about it is that every one of the women that I have talked to about it has said they could do it because they have this "amazing" connection to their dominant. Well, that to me implies that those of us who can't manage it must just not be connected deeply enough.
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Greetings, All,

Dude (just a saying I use), I have a whole new concept of this now! I used to think the same. On some forums here girls would tell me that since my ex (then Owner) could not make me cum by flogging me he simply wasn't good enough or we weren't *that* connected. Well...
They were right. But ONLY because we weren't *there* with each other. I thought we were but I was so wrong. I was wrong. WRONG I say...lol I think back now and I think he was my Owner. Not my Master and I'd venture to say he'd agree. We're not enemies.

Drake..my Master.. actually made me cum once without entering or touching anything down there. We were playing around and got kinda intense and heavy. We were both clothed and he merely pressed his body to mine. I was excited of course but I had pants on! And so did he. I started to get really moany (new phrase?) and he asked if I thought I could cum like that and I said "I don't know." (no..) within a few minutes and a lot of paying attention on his part, he said the words and I did. Without the connection we have (and I say that now because of so much else he's been able to do err make me do physically) it wouldn't work. And I was also very aroused. It wasn't exactly "on command" because as someone pointed out that would mean instant and it wasn't. My body just listens to him AND he knows how to play into it and when to say what. If I'm close he can command and it happens when he says. Others have tried and it usually stopped it. I think its my dominant-defiant-you-can't-tell-me-what-to-do nature.

Master actually made me go into labor. Not instant, no, but within several hours of him strongly expressing his desire for me to have the baby I was having mild contractions and within a few days (2) he had her in his arms. He did not "tell" me to go into labor. But I wasn't close before he said what he did. Though it could be coincidence *shrugs* we like to believe otherwise. He admitted he was *trying*.

Neither of us make something out of nothing. If he tries to make me cum and I don't when he asks I tell the truth. I don't sugar coat crap. I learned that is not healthy at all. We are open, honest, deeply intune, and try to have fun. I guess you'd just have to see how he is able to control me and how we work to "get" it. Happy Cumming!!

Well Wishes,
~Passion~



sobayblackmaster -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 6:26:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Dang I really see what NV was talking about.

Yes- most chicks are faking it, no matter what they say

Yes- submission has nothing necessarily to do with it

Yes- it's not really anything other than a nice parlor trick and most people use it to show off and get an ego trip

Yes- most of the time people are talking about delayed or controlled orgasms, not on command

But sheesh people- to deny that it exists and that people can and do orgasm immediately from command with no pre thought, no pre touch when they are in an emotionally and spiritually balanced place?  That's just silly.  Of course it exists, it's just not common and not really a big deal.


going forward I'll choose my words more carefully. "on command" never meant instantaneously. thanks all for another lively repartee.



NuevaVida -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 6:43:35 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross


But sheesh people- to deny that it exists and that people can and do orgasm immediately from command with no pre thought, no pre touch when they are in an emotionally and spiritually balanced place?  That's just silly.  Of course it exists, it's just not common and not really a big deal.


Thank you. Nor is this necessarily BDSM related.



sobayblackmaster -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 7:01:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross


But sheesh people- to deny that it exists and that people can and do orgasm immediately from command with no pre thought, no pre touch when they are in an emotionally and spiritually balanced place?  That's just silly.  Of course it exists, it's just not common and not really a big deal.


Thank you. Nor is this necessarily BDSM related.


there again I pretty much agree. the concept could generally apply to sexuality and is not specific to BDSM however in my case it symbolized the opening of a door, a step onto the path that led me to BDSM. additionally though I agree to point with the post that said it was likely more about the physical contact and her sensitivity than the words, I dare say the "pillow talk" exacerbated the event. that theory remains open to debate. thanks again for your input.



Lockit -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 7:01:26 PM)

I always cum on command!  But I guess it doesn't count when you are playing with yourself.



GreedyTop -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 7:08:50 PM)

*snort*



LadyHibiscus -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 9:40:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I always cum on command!  But I guess it doesn't count when you are playing with yourself.


*adores Lockit*

*doubleSNORT*



CFslaves -> RE: on command (11/28/2008 10:24:12 PM)


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ORIGINAL: sobayblackmaster

as an addendum to my previous post on the subject of keying in on the most sensitive part of the female body, I shared that my "initiation" onto D/s was primarily owed to a woman I was seeing who had a very sensitive clit. we used to spend a lot of time fooling around in her car (she never wore panties), and it got to the point-as I became more bold, where I pretty much trained her to cum on command.

among the subs/slaves out there (or doms/masters), have any of you experienced that level, where between direct stimulation of the clitoris and harsh verbal instructions-you can cum on command?



yep as long as they coinside with my body being ready and me not able to fight it back i sometimes could even come on command even if i was ralled up and never touched but that harsh "Cum Pet" growl of my master or how ever master would say it to my wimpers of on edge would make me cum in certain situations.



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