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MistressDREAD -> RE: Labels in BDSM: Harm or Enhance? (8/7/2004 8:21:15 PM)
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Labels in BDSM:
Harm or Enhance
I beleive neither word
discribes how I feel about
*Labels as you call it. I call
it Roles and Positions that one
has either gained thru experiance
or thru position with in a Alternate
Society and the honorifics given by
such or a poistion desired to be in
or naturally fit into and includes
ones kinks and desires as well as
presents to those of Us precomputer
a status with in Our Lifestyle Societies
and even here want the respect of such
a * label as you call it. I know I earned Mine.
There were steps into partaking of BDSM
and the other Alternating Lifestyle thats been
incorperated into BDSM over the past 16 years
or so. In essance many things that are not accepted
by society have been pushed into Our Lifesyle simply
by association to those of the kink world even tho
sum folks of those alternate ways of thinking would
never partake of a BDSM situation or turn that around
and those of BDSM would never partake of any other
alternate way of living but the fact is that We all now
are a part of one great big not always wanting to share
our space family of freaks as the vanilla world looks at
us tug for Our spot of acceptance. Takeing away labels for Us
would be equal to watering down Our Lifestyles ways in order for
Society on a whole to be more accepting on the vanilla end
and I feel this is just what any group of those whom think
they are right would want of all others around them. We with
in this Lifestyle no matter what end also are totally
differing in Our experiances Our take on whats good
and bad, accepting or not and being human will always
stand up against all others for what We feel just
and right even if it is for that which is not accepted in
general anyway. Yes here We are suppose to be more
tolerant in what others enjoy with out judgement but We
all know that everyone holds biased views about sumthing
and either the differance in whats experiance or lived or the
biased attitudes of anyone will sumtimes get in the way of the
simplist of things here. Politically correct is not always right by
the way of Alternate Thinking. Takeing away labels will not help this
but only make it worse as We no longer can associate Ourselfs
with our positions and kinks, likes and dislikes and acceptance
from Our diverse groups in Alternates. Yes anything that Society
does not accept always takes joy in seeing it have turbulance
within but We all come to this way of thought because We were
allready in a state of turbulance and non acceptant when We
came to the Alternate Lifestyle and hence in walking into a place
not accustomed will always step in fists first so to speak and of
course those of Us Protective will put Up Our dukes n swords as well,
however the labels We use with in actually help Us determin what
those around Us are so that We can choose if We will interact or
not with them or have sumthing in common or move on because
We have nothing in common. A house divided falls and the vanilla
world would like to see US become a watered down confused group
of discerning folks whom enter into a Life that has had set ways but
those whom have come into it rather new want it to conform to what
they want the life to be for them with out thought to the past. I suppose
I can be called that of the Older Guarded ways in that for years We had
to hide the things We did because it was deemed a offence of law for one
and two We fought hard and long and many of Us sacrificed much to have
the lifestyle come to the place that it is today and dident do such just to see it changed for the worst and not the better or away from its roots or beginnings for all kinksters and disassociated people outside of society.
I was taught growing up that this was the chain of command so to speak in the Lifestyle by My Parents and that is what I have followed all My life in My terms of association of Labels and also taught My children as They grew up in the Lifestyle and I was told this also was what My Granparents also beleived in, and yes I come from a mulitgenerational BDSM and Poly Family and Our beliefs are that:
Top n bottoms = beginners or casual players into the partime
bedroom side of the kink usually a year or less experiance. Stays
to their self in thier play and are in essance closet players. learn by
trial and error with out any outside assistance or mentors.
Dominants n submissives = passive players also partime but into the non sexual lifestyle kinks as well as the sex in the bedroom with usually more then a year and less then five years into the Lifestyle. Will meet in a group setting of like minds for play and learning. Usually hide what they practice lifestyle wise when crossing back and forth from a vanilla side of life.
Master/Mistress n slaves = experianced players in the lifestyle whom are
commited to its ways usually full time and incorperate it into their daily lifes. Experiance most everything thats a kink and are usually in position of Teaching and passing on their learned experiance and tecniques and have been in the lifestyle from five to fifteen years and usually have their
Own munchies groups or public dungeons and mentor others in the Lifestyles ways. Are members to long established BDSM Societies and earn Thier positions of Power with in such and should be given the respect earned in Their Living of the Lifestyle. Will usually have both Dominant and submissives They are mentoring or go out across the Country and mentor from Group to Group.
Lords/Ladys alphaslaves = Hardcore Lifestylers with 15 plus years 24/7 into the lifestyle in all aspects of their life and are the Leaders in bringing
acceptance to the Lifestyle in manyways publicly and usually hold positions of Power both in the Lifestyle and in Business and are Public in Their practices. Fund Major Projects Lifestyle related and Teach the Teachers with in the Lifestyle as well as assisit other Well established in ways to gain Power with in the BDSM Societies for strenth towards the Vanilla World. Assist Masters n Mistresses in Their establishments of Munchies and Dungeons and in changing the mindsets of communities that the Lifestyle is being brought into and are experianced public speakers on
such issues as the Lifestyle and what positive impact it has on the general public at large for acceptance.
There are those whom have kinks (spanking, needles, rope ect,)
Those whom feed phycological or physical abnormalities ( Sadist, Masocist, beasties ect )
Those whom have fetishes ( foot worship, cross dressing, infantilizem ect )
Those whom are sexually diverse ( bi , tri, gay,abstanant, ect )
Those whom live alternate ways of living or roleplay ( Poly, Gor, Vamp, naturallists, wifeSwappers,cuckolds ect )
Those whom combind any amount of those above into their way of living
if not all of them and every part of the whole has sub parts and many ways they are experianced, enjoyed and learned and practiced.
It takes a whole lot of blocks to not only build a foundation to hold the swell of people whom have been introduced to these Alternate ways of Life
since the inseption of the internet and more public acceptance of such but to keep those Blocks that were allready holding up the previous and older in place foundation for those of Us whom have been a part of this Life for many more years then those whom are entering Our way of living even have in age is not a easy task. Add to it those whom have a desire to enter and then change that which has been around for a very long time as time and society as a whole does naturally and this makes for sum heated
reverberation across the boards, the Groups, the Homes and the Public on a whole. Get use to it. Us Long time Lifestylers have been fighting Our causes for a very long time and do at times take things personal as it is Our life that We have lived thru for many a year and It will not be long befor Us Old Folks will be out of the pictures and it will be the new generation fighting their younger up and commin know it all's in the same ways to keep that which they had established and also what We taught them to keep in tact of the Old ways from falling from yet another layer of bricks added to the top while keeping the wrecking ball at bay. JMO
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