Madame4a
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I agree with everything LadyPact has said -- I also try to find ways to get around the 'shortened' scene that is necessary in public. I tend to go late and play later; that often means the dungeon has cleared out. You do have to watch time to some extent usually, depending on the space because they often wish to close at some point.
Sometimes I work to just find the right corner and start my scene before I get on a piece of equipment -- we are nothing if not creative, right? Sometimes, all I need is a chair to sit in and every bit of fun can begin as far as I'm concerned.
I also tend to play at spaces where I know people well and they have some idea of how long I'm going to use some equipment and they might give me a break. I tend, however, to take in the space carefully and think about how many people and there who is going to play --and I'm courteous. If its a light night, you can usually play longer.
That's my take on enjoying public play and not allowing the idea that you be limited by time to stomp on your good time.
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So, really, how DOES that work? If you only have an hour or so... how does one go about getting their sub into proper place (bound) or into subspace (right mind set to enjoy a beating) in less than an hour? Besides, Westie and I are quite sexual. Is Intimated contact discouraged in a public place? I know I saw a MDom working over a fsub with insertables pretty good at Frolicon. No one else (during the day) was doing anything very intence. Mostly what I saw was some light flogging, suspention and hot wax demo type work. None of those people were rushed. They were taking their time and were more than happy to discuss what they were doing with those of us walking by. I did not venture back down to the dungeon after it got crowded because my husband was not comfortable in that setting. So, yes, full on public play is a whole new experiance for me. I don't quite understand the whole 'get in, get at it, clean up and get out of the way' concept.
Let's see what I can do to help. As you might be aware, I view public play and private play differently. I do not do any type of public sexual play that involves any exposure of My person. That's a private thing to Me. Depending on the venue, I've done things such as used insertables on clip, but not to the point of orgasm. That's usually frowned on in public settings.
As to what's allowed and what's not, at an event like the one you were at for Frolicon, the dungeon rules are normally available prior to play. They will usually say if sexual play of any type is allowed and how far you are allowed to go. There's usually a line drawn at the exchange of bodily fluids, all insertables must be covered by a condom, yadda, yadda. That stuff that the event holders are trying to avoid a liability if something should go wrong.
Many times at a large gathering, if there's limited equipment and many people want to play, the organizers will request that people keep the time using various things to a limit. Things like a wax scene might not have worked during the evening hours and done during the day for that specific reason. If you're going to do a canvas, you can't put that into an hour. Well, not if you do them like Mine, anyway. During the day, when most people are going to presentations, there's more time that you can put into it.
So, how do you get your work done in an hour? You use the advantages at your disposal. Some bottoms have an elevated sensitivity because it *will* be public. A great way to get them already partially revved up during the day. In those kinds of settings, you do little things to start the motor all day long. Little bits of pain here, something whispered in the ear there. Long before you even get to the play space, you make sure the boy notices the wicked look in your eye and the evil grin in your smile. Get his head space going long before the actual play space. It's the dance before the dance. Use the anticipation factor. Exploit that craving for the upcoming scene. Build those desires much like you would if you were teasing someone who couldn't have you right now, but will later. Use those methods to your best advantage. I think you hear what I'm saying. 
*** To all submissive males reading this post. Stop it right now! None of you are allowed to know the tricks of the trade. Go read something else right this minute! Unless, of course...... it appeals to you.
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But you f*ck so good, I'm on top of it
When I dream, I'm doing you all night
Scratches all down my back to keep me right on
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