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OttersSwim -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/1/2008 11:49:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

150 is extraordinarily cheap... like... "it's not gonna happen" cheap, at least around this area.

It has not affected my business, or the business of others who work around me.

Again, why are you lecturing people on a profession you clearly know nothing about?



Baby doll, I love your pictures. You are incredibly sexy and you know how to pose. The only thing I would lecture you on is that I think you should show us in that librarian outfit. That would be mega hot and would probably land you some more business.

If I had the money I would pay you anything you wanted. Oh well, I don't live in your area and I'm sure I can't afford you. Good luck in whatever you do!



wow....just...wow...[8|]




LadyHibiscus -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/1/2008 4:08:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: Dalanius

yourMistress's reply is on target.  I don't mean to be mean here, but if you are looking for such an attractive femdom, you have to be honest with yourself here.  By your own admission, your financial capabilities are limited.  In addition, as clear from your pic, you are not among the top ten percent of lookers (sorry).  So ask yourself than what you would have to offer an attractive dominant woman?  You need to be realistic.  On the one hand you have a want to be dominated but wanting to meet the femdom of your dreams for free.  It is just not going to happen.  Your predictament is why there are virtually all the pro-dommes you are bemoaning existing.  They are not the ones with clearly limited opportunities and have to settle in this dynamic.  You are.  And that settlement will come at a cost for you--literally--if you want the model wtih a whip, or you readjusting your expectations in a more realistic manner.  Good luck. 


Most of the dominant women I know could care less if the sub is among the top ten percent of lookers. They tend to look deeper into a person than that.


Well, yeah, but we do demand tiresome stuff like personality, and whatever word means not-being-a-selfish-jerk.




stella41b -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/1/2008 5:34:23 PM)

Sorry, I thought this was a femdom all-in wrestling event.




RedMagic1 -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/1/2008 6:02:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
whatever word means not-being-a-selfish-jerk.

"gentleman"




AlexandraLynch -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/1/2008 6:58:38 PM)

All I ask is that he clean up decently well, and 70% of guys can manage that. The boy I met is last weekend is very cute, but that's entirely a bonus to the wonderful personality and the submissive heart that he displays.




Lynnxz -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/1/2008 7:16:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
whatever word means not-being-a-selfish-jerk.

"gentleman"



*points to Red*

Good example here. (Take notes)




RedMagic1 -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/1/2008 8:08:11 PM)

...would this be a bad time to mention how hot your pics are?

Historically, escapist and addictive behavior increases during economic downturns.  This includes porn.  The movie "Cabaret" is a good example, and a great film.  It shows how many Germans focused on bawdy entertainment to keep their minds off the rise of Nazism (which came about in part because of the economic collapse of the Weimar Republic).  And, hey, there's spanking incorporated into a dance scene.  I don't know if prodommes will ride a wave here in the US, but yeah, $150/hr seems like an unlikely price point.




LadyHibiscus -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/1/2008 9:47:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
whatever word means not-being-a-selfish-jerk.

"gentleman"



THAT's the word!  I get aphasic sometimes... it's a middle age thing. [;)]




Jasmyn -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/5/2008 3:01:12 AM)

Most dominant women I know aren't in the 10% of top lookers themselves.




FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/5/2008 4:30:15 AM)

Good to see you here again Jasmyn.  [sm=cheerleader.gif]   M




scvslave -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/5/2008 9:06:03 AM)

Many excellent points and suggestions. Thank you all for your replies.

-- Slave Ted




xodslave -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/12/2008 8:47:52 AM)

Dear scvslave,

Pro-Domme and real-life Mistresses are not mutually exclusive concepts. 
Currently, i am owned by a Pro-Mistress (Mistress Xena) who is also a lifestyle Mistress.  i did see Her the first time as a paying client.  She was also looking at the time for a domestic houseslave.  After 11 months of trials (as a non-paying slave), i became Her property by signing Her contract. 

Consequently, my own humble advice is: be patient, go to munches, make yourself known in the lifestyle community (which will include pro-dommes), and, more importantly, become a service-oriented slave.  That is, you as a slave should be about how you can serve the Mistress' needs and not the other way around.

i hope this has helped.

Regards,
xods




peppermint -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/12/2008 1:48:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: scvslave

I have been searching for a real time Mistress that I can serve on a regular basis. Problem is, it seems the only Mistresses in Southern California are pro dommes who want to charge a lot of money for a session. Normally, I would be okay with a session once in a while, but money's a little tight and I would like to find a Mistress I can serve on a regular basis.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how and where I can find a Mistress who is not a pro?



So you are looking for an on call Mistress who will spank YOU, do light CBT on YOU, put a blindfold on YOU, let YOU lick her privates while she sits on YOUR face.....and you wonder why there aren't hundreds of real time Dommes willing to do all this for FREE???

So...while allowing her to do these agreed upon actions to YOU....what are you willing to give to HER?   OH...you believe that allowing her to do these things to you is payment enough?  Guess what...she has a list of guys willing to allow her to do even more to them, as doing things SHE likes to do...AND...they are willing to provide her with some services too. 




thishereboi -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/12/2008 4:32:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

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ORIGINAL: scvslave

I have been searching for a real time Mistress that I can serve on a regular basis. Problem is, it seems the only Mistresses in Southern California are pro dommes who want to charge a lot of money for a session. Normally, I would be okay with a session once in a while, but money's a little tight and I would like to find a Mistress I can serve on a regular basis.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how and where I can find a Mistress who is not a pro?



So you are looking for an on call Mistress who will spank YOU, do light CBT on YOU, put a blindfold on YOU, let YOU lick her privates while she sits on YOUR face.....and you wonder why there aren't hundreds of real time Dommes willing to do all this for FREE???

So...while allowing her to do these agreed upon actions to YOU....what are you willing to give to HER?   OH...you believe that allowing her to do these things to you is payment enough?  Guess what...she has a list of guys willing to allow her to do even more to them, as doing things SHE likes to do...AND...they are willing to provide her with some services too. 



Ya, mean it's supposed to be about Her....wow, that explains so much.




Frostbite1715 -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/12/2008 9:20:48 PM)

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I have found that many lifestyle femdoms have higher earning potential than men the same age, and when subs realize no amount of money can "buy" their affections, they develop an attitude like azjojoba - it's a combination of fear, resentment and jealousy.  They like to believe that beautiful, successful femdoms can *always* be bought, whether through booking a session at the dungeon or playing the role of sugar daddy. When they come across a woman who earns her own money with a successful career, AND is kinky as hell and can have her pick of men, these guys get really bitter and you have seen the result. At the heart of it is rejection and the fact they cannot attain these women.

I think naturally born femdoms are intuitive, resourceful and tenacious - and they bring that zest to their line of work.  It's also why there are SO MANY good pro femdoms who earn a living or supplement a living by being a self-made boss - those who own their own companies know that this is no easy task and takes a certain skill set, as well as legal and accounting strengths.  Femdoms who do not choose to become pro femdoms often have very successful careers and so many are self-made and run their own small businesses, like me. Businesses that have nothing to do with kink.

I have not met a male submissive who makes more money than I do.  I'm sure they exist, but it doesn't matter, money never attracted me anyway.  I feel that earning the money is my preferred role, with a man playing the role of supporter.  It also makes for much better sex, since he's never tired from working full time.

Akasha

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Hi Akasha,

When you say that many femdoms have higher earning potential than men in their same age group, do you mean that they can earn more than men via working as a professional domina or they can more than men by working a "civilian or real-world" type of job?





beeble -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/13/2008 7:54:40 AM)

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Aakasha wrote: I have found that many lifestyle femdoms have higher earning potential than men the same age [...]

Frostbite1715 wrote: When you say that many femdoms have higher earning potential than men in their same age group, do you mean that they can earn more than men via working as a professional domina or they can more than men by working a "civilian or real-world" type of job?

The latter.

beeble.




HunterS -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/13/2008 8:19:33 AM)

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I forgot to mention in my previous post -- most pro dommes haven't wised up to the reality of our lousy economy. They are charging for a market that no longer exists. There are guys who will pay to be spanked, but they just can't pay $150 an hour for it.

Give it some time and these women will have to lower their prices. If they continue charging what they do they will just have to sit on their ass and complain about men who are cheap. [:)]


I have been keeping a price check on Craigslist and the prices are dropping like a stone...every silver lining has a dark cloud[8|]
 
H.




HunterS -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/13/2008 8:20:37 AM)

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ORIGINAL: manxcat

I support myself, tyvm, always have.


Just a wink and a nod...your post always brighten my day...such a shame we are GUD.
 
H.




RichieB -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/13/2008 8:25:49 AM)

That's very cheap. Most of the pros in my area charge $250 to $500 an hour depending on your fetish.


Diane


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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

150 an hour for a pro domme is already a little on the cheap side... especially if she has her own dungeon. Trust me, the market still exists.





MsMillgrove -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/13/2008 8:50:30 AM)

I am a So Cal lifestyle femdom with tools, experience and occasional dress-up for the "mistress look". 
My sub requirement are (to me at least) ridiculously minimum. Example: tribute often means tea and cookies. (seriously)
I would not respond positively to a query from you for the same reasons listed repeatedly in this thread. The repetition of the words "sexy" and "sex" tells me you have no interest in d/s.  You want kinky play privately according to your own terms.  This puts me into role as a service top.  I don't need it.
Unless you change your mind about what's possible and what you have to offer in the way of service...there's not much hope for you. "closeted" indicates you won't explore the local community where you could play to your heart's content, you'd actually have a hard time choosing between the events held on same day.
btw "service" does NOT mean body worship to most of us.  Service involves domestic chores, attention to our likes and dislikes or other barters as previously mentioned--like help with computer or secretarial tasks or errands.
I wonder if you will make any changes in your outlook. Love to get a followup here on what you decided.  Good luck.

(edited to say--this is in reply to the OP not Richie.. Will someone please let me know on the other side.. how to stop replying to the wrong poster.. it's making me nuts to look inept over and over again. thanks)




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