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AAkasha -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (12/15/2008 11:57:51 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Frostbite1715
I don't understand this observation. Do some men really get this attached to a professional domina?
I'm 33 and have sessioned with many Mistresses who are both younger and older than me. While I do not know how much money these women make, I've never felt that lifestyle dominas have significantly more earning potential than me and have never developed feelings of resentment towards any of the dominas that I have visited.
Also, most of the pro dominas that I have come across work exclusively as a domina as they are available during both day and evening hours. I really haven't across any women that run a company, practise law or accounting and then do domination to supplement their income. Most of them are doing it full-time and are more than happy to book an appointment.
I'm sure there are circumstances where they may refuse to see a client, but does that really stir emotions of fear, resentment and jealousy?
Sorry, let me clarify.
I think that many lifestyle femdoms (ie, we do this because we enjoy it on a primal, natural level) have higher earning potential in their real world jobs and careers (not pro femdoms, I am talking about non-pros; of course, there is an overlap); so many are self employed, are highly academic, are successful authors. When I think of the lifestyle femdoms I know that do not work in any field related to kink, most either own their own business (outside of kink) or work but have their own business on the side. I think that the common trait among femdoms is a very ambitious nature.
What the earning potential of a full time, professional dominatrix is - I am not sure, it varies by region. I know when I was suffering my first round of corporate-burn-out around age 25, I entertained the idea of becoming a professional dominatrix. I'm sure every femdom has at least thought about it when you are sick of your boss, sick of the rat race and enamored by the idea of being self employed and having a full dungeon as a side perk. But I crunched the numbers, weighed the pros and cons and decided to continue the corporate ladder route and work toward being self employed as a consultant one day in my field. It took a long time and a lot of migraines but I did it.
I knew that in my mid-20s I could make as much money working in a dungeon as I did at my corporate job at the time; but when you add in job security, health insurance, retirement, sick days, vacation days, and not *being forced * to be kinky on a day that I wake up feeling too-vanilla, I decided the best route for me was to stay corporate. Plus I didn't want to waste all those years earning a degree.
Of course when I am feeling burn out in my career I entertain the idea of being a full-time kinky something - dominatrix, author, toy seller, whatever. But by now my earning potential as a consultant is so much higher, I'd be crazy to take that risk. Most of the time I do love my job, too.
The resentment comes from men who think they can buy my affections and they cannot because I make enough money on my own. And, I love my work, so there's no trying to buy me by promising me a life of luxury - I really prefer to be the one working and have the boytoy who does not work. There are men that are used to getting what they want with money, and they get a kick out of 'controlling' their 'femdom' in that manner. That's what I am talking about.
Akasha
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