Mercnbeth
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this slave is extremely grateful that someone coined the term "lifestyle" to describe the alternative community of D/s, M/s and BDSM practitioners.
almost 6 years ago, at the reccommendation of the MD this slave sought out to quit smoking (He said..."You need to change your lifestyle") this slave googled "lifestyle" and got a few hits...some were sites promoting a healthy "lifestyle" regarding such things as veganism, abstinence from alcohol or smoking, daily exercise regimens, some promoted the swinger "lifestyle", complete with local clubs and national conventions and then there were a curious few (Alt, AFF, BDSM Personals, etc.) that popped up with regards to D/s, M/s and BDSM "lifestyles".
it was the first this slave had ever heard of a D/s, M/s and BDSM "lifestyle", and she was very eager to learn more. all of her life she had been trained for and desirous of such relationships and interactions...but had no idea people actually used terms like...Dom/me, M/s, power exchange, authority transfer, safewords, protocol, slavery, lifestyle, Master, 24/7, switch, slave, bedroom submissive, etc. etc. to describe it (or certain aspects of it) and therefore never knew of it's existence either at a community or personal level.
seriously, this BDSM stuff that this slave had fantasized about for decades was all part of a bunch of "sick" fantasies that had no place in a vanilla relationship...or at least that was what she met up with when brave enough to bring up the subject with a vanilla partner. it had been this slave's experience that outside of the bedroom, submitting to a vanilla partner was viewed, by them, as an even better "indicator" of mental illness that needed to be addressed through counseling, medication or intervention.
this slave views references here to "the lifestyle" as a shortened version of "alternative lifestyle of intimate relationships incorporating specific power exchange(or authority transfer, if you'd rather) with or without elements of BDSM".
it isn't generally meant as a stand alone statement, but as a descriptor of a different version of how one goes about their intimate relationship(s) than the conventionally accepted one.
this slave views it as a choice one makes, to either enter into relationships with folks in a traditional manner(often referred to as "vanilla") or enter into an unconventional/alternatively styled relationship, which covers every orientation and grouping NOT considered to be the accepted practice, conforming to the established standards of one's society.
the intention of the relationship foundation is what this slave thinks some are referring to when they refer to participation in "the lifestyle".
for other folks, the term "lifestyle" means dungeon/play parties/discipline/sadism&masochism/wearing latex and corsets/bondage/going to fetish clubs/fantasies/etc. and has little if anything to do with establishing an alternatively styled intimate relationship with anyone, and they pursue the conventional practices of dating, courtship, engagement/marriage to a member of the opposite sex for their relationship needs.
it's merely this slave's perspective that the term “lifestyle” is
a) Subjective, and with more than one definition, like “submissive”, for example
b) not inherently better or worse than a conventional model
c) a loose one, and possibly a hasty choice of word, that doesn’t adequately explain the specific alternative that is being represented by the individual using it
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RE: Leaving the lifestyle and coming back. - 
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