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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/3/2008 4:03:43 PM

PrincessDonna

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We have only heard one side of the story and until I hear why He blocked her Im not suggesting to anyone that they cut and run.I have had to put a few subs on ignore because they became whiny or always wanted to get on and tell me what THEY wanted to do as a sub so Ive had to block them until they came back to who is in control.

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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/3/2008 4:09:30 PM

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I don't believe when people are making plans to be together without having met, with a situation with a um and some lashing out after poor communication, a situation worth taking the risk. I am more than willing to take the heat for my stand and I won't feel bad about it. Fair or unfair? Who the hell cares when you are seeing red flags that have nothing to do with putting someone on hold for some behavior I don't like. I actually find something wrong in that if the person doesn't know why they are on hold. Big picture to look at and anytime someone gets passive aggressive and blames and then punishes after not communicating... well... I see that as valid reasons for concern.

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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/3/2008 5:50:31 PM

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She has never met him and he keeps talking about a collar but never sends it and blocks her from showing up online on his messanger. He makes up excuses as to why. Thats a relationship you would want? I would bet you with 85% certainty that this will never be a face to face meet.

Yea I would have to agree with that. I have had AOL and you can't accidentally block someone. If she was blocked, it was because he set it up that way. It's just too bad for him, that he didn't block her daughter as well and got caught. Then he blames her?

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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/3/2008 8:38:44 PM

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She has never met him and he keeps talking about a collar but never sends it and blocks her from showing up online on his messanger. He makes up excuses as to why. Thats a relationship you would want? I would bet you with 85% certainty that this will never be a face to face meet.

Yea I would have to agree with that. I have had AOL and you can't accidentally block someone. If she was blocked, it was because he set it up that way. It's just too bad for him, that he didn't block her daughter as well and got caught. Then he blames her?

He didnt know my daughter has an AOL screen name I would add him to it when she was on and then take it off her buddy list when she got offline. I did this because if anyone has as preteen daughter would know, she is always on the computer. If he would sign on I would make her get off so i could get on....Imagine my surprise when I go to my screen name and he isnt showing up on my buddy list the I would go back to hers and he was there.

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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/3/2008 8:45:58 PM

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How do you add someone to a buddy list without their approval and be able to see them before said approval?

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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/3/2008 8:49:08 PM

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aim is different than yahoo and msn, as long as you know a screen name you can add it to your buddy list,

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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/3/2008 8:50:28 PM

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Wow... I would not have aim! lol Oh and thank you!

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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/3/2008 8:50:37 PM

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How do you add someone to a buddy list without their approval and be able to see them before said approval?

You don't need approval on AOL

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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/3/2008 9:00:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I don't believe when people are making plans to be together without having met, with a situation with a um and some lashing out after poor communication, a situation worth taking the risk. I am more than willing to take the heat for my stand and I won't feel bad about it. Fair or unfair? Who the hell cares when you are seeing red flags that have nothing to do with putting someone on hold for some behavior I don't like. I actually find something wrong in that if the person doesn't know why they are on hold. Big picture to look at and anytime someone gets passive aggressive and blames and then punishes after not communicating... well... I see that as valid reasons for concern.

When i was meeting people online. There were alot of things I considered red flags. If I saw them it was a no go for me. Could I have made a mistake? Sure but I felt better safe than sorry and there are plenty more where that came from to be worried about someone with red flags showing up. I was called a crazy bitch more than I can count because of my stand on things. Oh well!

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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/3/2008 9:07:11 PM

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When online we are working half blind. We can't see expression, denote tone of voice and so many other things. It is cool when we can be fair and give a chance or some understanding, but why risk much and why be too understanding with certain types of red flags? There were just too many red flags in this one to be too fair. If they yell and punish that quick... after hiding and not communicating, they fit the patterns... but I don't want to elaborate on that or some might think I am just a man hating... women's liber who got tainted working in domestic abuse! lol

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RE: My Dom is avoiding me - 12/4/2008 3:10:20 PM

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This romantic notion that we can ignore red flags has provided the need for shelters all over the states and for a death about every seven minutes. I can live with advising she walk... can you live with it if you are wrong, she enables him and believes him and he isn't the best love of her life and might do harm? I would rather this early on be safe than sorry.

Also, we cant ignore red flags just because we are submissives, and they are the Mighty Doms... I get frustrated when I hear Doms' poor behaviors, even abusive behaviors, get excused because they are a Dom... I dont think we should wear blinders to inappropriate behavior just because they may be our Dom... or A Dom

Combining romantic love and submission can make for a sad or dangerous combination if we wear blinders, if we ignore red flags, if we excuse behavior that we would never accept from anyone else.. The risk to our physical, mental, and emotional well being is too great...

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