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Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 11:26:30 AM   
SleightofHand


Posts: 4
Joined: 12/1/2008
Status: offline 		Looked around, perused and sought other's opinions.
Read books and articles.
And I feel a little out of step.

I have an aura from the depths of my being to be submissive.

Although, I am burdened with conflict as I am generally strong, assertive
and know what I want. I have strong dislikes, likes and opinions. But, at the
same time feel I must let these traits and feelings give way to the
hand of a deserving other.

I feel letting my strong will go, letting it be absorbed and
overruled by another creates an overarching energy
that raises both my hand and the hand of another
to amazing heights in a journey shared together.


However, it seems this is out of step with other subs. Thus I feel out of step.

Is it possible to be a strong sub?
Although, I feel submissive, do these strong traits suggest my feelings deceive me?
Mistress' how do you feel about such subs?

S

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 11:27:53 AM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		Hmm.  It seems to me that we have covered this turf before... 

Short answer---yes, most of us like strong men with brains.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 11:32:27 AM   
OttersSwim


Posts: 2860
Joined: 9/1/2008
Status: offline 		Why do you feel you are out of step?  There is nothing wrong with submitting from a position of strength, in fact I believe that one way of creating a D/s dynamic (not every way, mind you...just one).  When a submissive, male or female, is strong and secure within themselves - powerful in their own right - and chooses to engage in power exchange and give that power over to another, it can be a pretty wonderful thing.

You don't have to be a wimp to be a male submissive. 


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I am on a journey of authenticity and self.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 11:35:39 AM   
thetammyjo


Posts: 6322
Joined: 9/8/2005
Status: offline 		I've never understand the attraction of a weak person submitting to me... what do I gain when they do?

Being strong in mind and will, being strong in self-motivation, can work great in a Ds dynamic if you find a good match and you both take the time for solid training.

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And my LJ where I post fiction in progress if you "friend" me at http://thetammyjo.livejournal.com/

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 11:37:28 AM   
sleuthingsub


Posts: 68
Joined: 1/30/2007
Status: offline 		Dude, you're fine.  You can be a confident and strong person, and still be personally submissive.  Don't be so dramatic.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 11:53:58 AM   
SylvereApLeanan


Posts: 8275
Joined: 11/1/2007
From: Hell
Status: offline 		Oh, garçon...
 
I'll take a strong sub with a side of personality, please.  Oh, and can I get some honesty and intelligence with that?  Thanks.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 12:30:42 PM   
MistresseLotus


Posts: 443
Joined: 9/19/2008
From: (aka LotusSong)
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SleightofHand

Is it possible to be a strong sub?
Although, I feel submissive, do these strong traits suggest my feelings deceive me?
Mistress' how do you feel about such subs?

S


I've always appreciated that my submissive has been strong in his gentelness and gentle in his strength.

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I leave it to the 20-somethings to do the "open-minded, total unconditional acceptance thing" for it's how THEY learn that all the things others older than they have deemed BS, are in fact BS. What a waste of a decade.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 1:19:53 PM   
Dilseachd


Posts: 53
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		My last Mistress used to say "its better to have a tiger on a leash..than a tabby cat"...so yea..its good to be a strong submissive.

Regards.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 1:22:55 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		I love a man in a kilt...

Just sayin', I am hijacking randomly today.

Honestly, OP, have you seen any lady on these boards wish for a limp little milquetoast?  Why would you think any of us would NOT want someone strong?

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 2:55:22 PM   
Dilseachd


Posts: 53
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		*re-enacts taunting..um..flirting..scene from Braveheart*   *FLASH*.. :)   Seriously though.  In all my years in this lifestyle...I have found few female dominants that prefered doormats to someone with some spunk.   Whats better...a Knight..or a serf?  both serve a higher cause...but not  the same by a long shot.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 3:02:58 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		My former slaves SN was HerCenturion.  MAN do I miss that.  (Not HIM, just having a centurion!)

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 3:51:13 PM   
Dilseachd


Posts: 53
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		My second Lady gave me the current name I use in the lifestyle..but she called me her Chevalier.   Yea..I can sympathize with you. ..and no..Im not trolling...your way up there and I am way down here.. :)

Respects and Regards.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 3:56:06 PM   
SleightofHand


Posts: 4
Joined: 12/1/2008
Status: offline 		Thanks for everyones feedback.

Good, shows what I know, I guess I am not
a step off after all, and instead now I have a
bounce in my submissive step.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 3:56:31 PM   
MsStarlett


Posts: 1879
Joined: 12/23/2007
Status: offline 		I always wanted that bumper sticker "My sub can beat up your dom."

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It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
It is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed,
the hands acquire shakes, the shakes become a warning,
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 4:28:33 PM   
AlexandraLynch


Posts: 778
Joined: 3/24/2008
Status: offline 		Absolutely I want a strong sub, male or female. Submission as a gift is much more valuable when it comes from a person who can stand alone, but chooses to give their submission to me. I value the horse I ride for his strength, his grace, his agility, his stamina.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 4:34:54 PM   
chaos9071


Posts: 38
Joined: 5/8/2006
Status: offline 		I guess I am what you would consider a strong sub.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 4:35:30 PM   
DominaSusan


Posts: 75
Joined: 3/29/2008
Status: offline 		You are just like my slave and it’s wonderful to tame a strong man. Where’s the fun in caging a pussy cat anyway. Seems though that you might want to connect on the sub pages-you’ll find lots of folks just like yourself.   I love a man in a kilt too! there is something sexy about having ready access to the naughty bits.   Oh I want the same bumper sticker as Ms Starlett and I have a mighty big sub. How about my sub is an honor roll student at SpankU.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 4:39:37 PM   
Lockit


Posts: 11292
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline 		LOL I love the bumper stickers!  We may need a thread of ideas on them!

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 4:41:08 PM   
chaos9071


Posts: 38
Joined: 5/8/2006
Status: offline 		Do you need another kilt wearing sub? Because that sounds really hot.

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RE: Strong Sub - 12/2/2008 7:15:40 PM   
LPslittleclip


Posts: 1163
Joined: 9/29/2007
Status: offline 		as a submissive in the army and a nurse it is a great relief to be able to submit to another.  to be able to go from being in control and responsibility and the worry to releasing it all and simply enjoying how i make my M'Lady feel. she enjoys the fact i have a personality and opinions, respectfully stated of course. enjoy the gift of submission that you can give.

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