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RE: Help Me - 1/21/2009 3:25:42 AM

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Darlin', the relationship hasn't changed a bit. He's getting exactly what he wanted in the first place--pussy on tap.

That stuff he said about church on Sundays and dreams...the technical term for that is "LIE"--a common tactic for prying a girl's legs open.

I wouldn't quite put it this harshly, but it is exactly this harshly he's treating you.
Dear Freedslave,
If you enjoy this kind of slavery (where you are emotionally tortured), than by all means, accept his offer, and do as he asks. If you want to be an adult accountable for yourself, than ask yourself what you want/need, and go from there. I cannot imagine loving someone who treats me this way, as you say you're in love with him. But, I imagine that if you are indeed in love, a few months of this treatment, you will prompt you to change your situation one way or another.
Good luck, M

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RE: Help Me - 1/21/2009 5:15:42 AM

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You have been discarded, deal with it, move along.

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RE: Help Me - 1/21/2009 5:37:03 AM

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It sounds like you are in love and he is in lust. You two are obviously singing from different pages of the hymnal, and he seems disinclined to do anything about it. Frankly, that is he choice.

You have two choices; either accept the reduced status he has offered you or else end it and move along with your life. If you do the former, you will likely be emotionally hurt repeatedly. If you do the latter, you will suffer extreme emotional pain for the next few weeks / months and then it will be over. This is like removing an old Band-Aid; do you slowly pull it off or yank it quickly and get it over with. Only you can make that choice.

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RE: Help Me - 1/21/2009 8:12:45 AM

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What are you worth? Now before anyone goes off on me... give me a moment to explain. You already know you love him and don't want to lose him... you are vulnerable and scared maybe... you want to hang in there and see if this turns out the way you want it to. You don't like the new way he wants to do things and cannot accept some of this, thus your post. It isn't a matter of what you are supposed to do or what is expected of a slave/submissive or even what any of us think. It is a matter of what you feel you are worth and how strongly you believe it and expect to be treated as if you are worth something.

Are you only worth a fuck buddy situation... waiting on him to pay you some attention? Are you worthy of a loving dominant that treats you well rather than you are worth something when no one else is around? Are you worthy of love, lust, service and all that you want, dream of and thrive on or are you worthy only of what he wishes to give to you?

Don't think of what he did before to make you fall for him. Some can say he just changed his mind and wants different things here. While that could be true... I must ask you... What kind of person can treat someone they cared about as nothing more than a sit at home waiting to serve babe... while he searches for what he wants in life and you get the tid bits he offer's and his control in keeping you in that place... so he can get what he wants with no real concern over your own well being?

I don't see this as a change of mind, but more a bait and switch... a man covering his ass... keeping back up or a spare in life in case his amazing self cannot convince another, other than you, that he is amazing. It is a cheap shot and cruel and he knows it because he knows how you feel about him.

Stop being more hurt than upset over how he is disrespecting you and consider all you are worth. If you aren't worth much... take the emotional beating he has for you. If you are worth more and I happen to think you are... I don't have to know you to think that... tell him he needs to find another spare... and go find yourself the type of dominant/lover you really want and are worth!

What's done in the name of love and proving you love by waiting... often comes off as something far different and not something I would want to be considered. Like... weak... foolish... she will wait and do anything I say... hahahah... I am so powerful... she is such a fool. I know it is harsh... but if you stand for this... you cannot blame him. At this point... it is your choice in how you are treated and that has nothing more to do with him or love. It is up to you. I do wish you well... it is painful... but so worth getting through!

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RE: Help Me - 1/21/2009 9:00:49 AM

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Celtic can you give me lessons on prying open a womans legs. Some of them can be quite stubborn about it.

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RE: Help Me - 1/21/2009 9:04:44 AM

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He sounds like a jerk to me. I would say that you are better off without him! I have been in situations like yours and only went back for short time...was so not worth it! Once a jerk, always a jerk...and if you love him, and he doesn't...you can't make him change his mind (esp if he is "exploring" on his own). Sorry, but there are lots of Masters out in this world...find a better one.

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RE: Help Me - 1/21/2009 3:30:21 PM

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Well said, myotherself!

Saves me from writng a similar post, and you said it better anyway!

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RE: Help Me - 1/21/2009 6:03:14 PM

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I wouldn't

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RE: Help Me - 1/21/2009 10:41:55 PM

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Common sense: You both leave, or you both stay.

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RE: Help Me - 1/22/2009 5:14:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Celtic can you give me lessons on prying open a womans legs. Some of them can be quite stubborn about it.

In extreme cases, use the jaws of life.

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RE: Help Me - 1/22/2009 5:29:42 AM

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My take on this post is people trying to give advice to someone who is not going to listen to it.

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