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RE: Aww Protocol...Teehee - 12/6/2008 12:49:23 PM

Viridana

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ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

Find another Master named Bob?

C-Bob-D

Or convince the next master to legally change his name to Bob.... either way it's a sure win :P

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RE: Aww Protocol...Teehee - 12/9/2008 10:00:45 AM

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This is why I refuse to ever get a name tattooed on me.

yes, and now she is stuck looking for another guy named Bob..

could be worse,

she could have to look for a Melbert or a Malvin.

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RE: Aww Protocol...Teehee - 12/9/2008 11:59:37 AM

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I think it might be more helpful to an op if the responses were tailored to her/their mindset rather than ones own. If the ops mindset is that of a slave then she/he doesn't have control of their body and what marks are placed there. These are the choices of the Masters or Mistresses. As a switch for example or a submissive you retain far more choices than does a slave.

To the op, you're in a period of very raw emotions. It's never a good idea to make decisions when angry or during emotional upheaval. Right now in all probability you are feeling betrayed as well as feeling rejected. Time frequently provides perspective. If you see yourself continuing to be a slave (but being more cautious in choosing a Master) then what to do regarding an existing body marking will be up to him. As others have mentioned you may be fortunate to find another Master named Bob who has integrity and character to whom you would like to serve. Bottom line give yourself some time to think calmly and logically about what you want and want to do and be. It's fine to gather information like how the marking can be altered, the cost etc. but wait to act on it so you don't do something else you may regret later. Next time you think you've found your Master/Mistress (should you journey that way) ask friends and other long time posters if he or she is what they claim to be.

I wish you well,
T

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RE: Aww Protocol...Teehee - 12/9/2008 12:12:34 PM

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i too am covered in small scars and see them as stories...things that happened significantly in my life...tattoos while i don't have any at the moment will also be of events that significantly altered my life good or bad.

Master Spyder has talked of getting a small tattoo saying " property of Spyder"

Whether it's a good idea or not i live for the moment, the past is what shapes me to be who i am, for better or worse.

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RE: Aww Protocol...Teehee - 12/9/2008 12:13:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Totalmaster4you

~FR~

I think it might be more helpful to an op if the responses were tailored to her/their mindset rather than ones own.

I agree with this. I find myself somewhat disappointed in seeing some of the jokes being made on this person's behalf. But then this situation strikes a personal note with me. I think it is sad to poke fun of someone's emotional state following a break up.

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To the op, you're in a period of very raw emotions. It's never a good idea to make decisions when angry or during emotional upheaval. Right now in all probability you are feeling betrayed as well as feeling rejected. Time frequently provides perspective. If you see yourself continuing to be a slave (but being more cautious in choosing a Master) then what to do regarding an existing body marking will be up to him. As others have mentioned you may be fortunate to find another Master named Bob who has integrity and character to whom you would like to serve. Bottom line give yourself some time to think calmly and logically about what you want and want to do and be. It's fine to gather information like how the marking can be altered, the cost etc. but wait to act on it so you don't do something else you may regret later. Next time you think you've found your Master/Mistress (should you journey that way) ask friends and other long time posters if he or she is what they claim to be.

I wish you well,
T

This is great advice. I hope the OP returns to this thread to read it.

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RE: Aww Protocol...Teehee - 12/9/2008 2:58:05 PM

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When I faced the end of my relationship I decided to get a tattoo (my first). It did not have his name, which I would not have done even if we were still together. It did have a symbol, a heart torn in two, on a bed of thorns.
I never understood why anyone would give someone permanance by inking them into your flesh. 7 yrs.. is nothing.
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ORIGINAL: Usako

Only names I'd ever get inked into my body would be my children (if I ever have them) or maybe one of those MOM tattoos. No partner is getting their name forever printed on me, I don't care if it's been ten or twenty years.

Though I don't see what this has to to with your title on protocol. You get it removed whenever you want. You do whatever you want. If you're single and free then just be you.

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RE: Aww Protocol...Teehee - 12/9/2008 6:59:03 PM

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Like most of the replies that I've read, I agree that there is no time period to wait. It is not a mourning ritual for when to start dating again, or some other thing. It is a tattoo. The only thing that would stop me is, do I have a design yet to cover it, and, do I have the money. Timing is just a question of my mood or attitude.

To the original issue of getting a tattoo. My mark is not my name. My name is a symbol given to me by my parents and resides on my driver's license, birth certificate and every other government document I can think of. My mark is a symbol of who I believe myself to be, and, in my case is a very specific and meaningful symbol. Not to be taken not given away lightly.

That being said, one can always explain away a symbol. If you wish to tell the next person you're with that it is the symbol of someone, then so be it and the relationship will be stronger for it. If you choose not to because it is to hurtful or something, then don't say it was his. It is your option. However, it is a representation of your past. A mapping of your path and should be nothing to be ashamed of. Rather, each mark or bruise, or cut, or wrinkle is a story. A lesson in life good or bad. Rejoice in them and move on.

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RE: Aww Protocol...Teehee - 12/9/2008 8:10:44 PM

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For me, I'm coming from a totally different perspective and thus wouldn't ever consider removing my tattoo.

Master is Gorean, and Goreans have the habit of marking all slaves as being a slave. Usually this is done by branding or tattooing the Kef, but there are a whole host of other brands out there that can be used. The 'Dina' a flower shaped brand is another common motive and there are a couple of other mentioned.

The biggest difference between a Gorean's way of looking at such marking and the way BDSMers tend to see them is that they do not denote personal ownership. Personal ownership is made clear by the collar a slave wears and can thus be taken of and replaced.
The brand (or tattoo) does nothing more than clearly mark a slave a slave.

When I first met Master offline, we had been talking for about 3-4 months offline.
I spend a month with him over the summer and within 3 weeks of me arriving there; he tattooed a cattle brand mark he owns in the form of his initials on me.
Now some people might find that crazy and very fast. But in the end from the Gorean perspective it's just a brand nothing more. Though in this case it's a personal brand it does not denounce his ownership so there would be no reason at all to ever remove it even should I be released.

Even if he decided over the summer that he wasn't going to keep me, he still would have marked me a slave, though with a less personal brand like the Kef or the Dina.

I wish you well,

ishy

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RE: Aww Protocol...Teehee - 12/11/2008 6:50:29 AM

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I have a tattoo above my right breast of an indian feather and the initals of my now ex. However since we only did get the initials i find it easy enough to find other acryonms for them lol . His initials are JS so now i say i'm just sexy*Grins.

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RE: Aww Protocol...Teehee - 12/11/2008 12:54:10 PM

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You are not what you wear, over your skin, or on it.

You are a beautiful person--slave or otherwise.

There will come a day when you won't think about MASTERBOB anymore and if you do, you won't feel the way you do now. The tattoo will be far from your mind. That is when you will know it is time to see the man with the ink and let him fill in those flowers. Until then, let yourself heal and remember who you are--not whose mark you mark wear.

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