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RE: What questions should a Dom/Master ask of a sub/sla... - 12/29/2005 11:10:47 AM

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Little Italy here I come!

Can I come too!!!!!

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RE: What questions should a Dom/Master ask of a sub/sla... - 12/29/2005 11:23:19 AM

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A question for you?

Is Umbertos Clam House still on Mulberry Street?

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RE: What questions should a Dom/Master ask of a sub/sla... - 12/29/2005 11:39:52 AM

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I don't know.
I always go to Positano Ristorante. It's on Mulberry too.
They have the best spiedini.

And of course you can come too Q.

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RE: What questions should a Dom/Master ask of a sub/sla... - 12/29/2005 3:19:06 PM

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Does she play cello, naked?

Oh, I LOVE that question!

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RE: What questions should a Dom/Master ask of a sub/sla... - 12/29/2005 9:58:54 PM

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Well I agree with most on here and you need to get to know all you can the inside and out of who you concider. I will point out this one thats new on Me. If they contact you and are looking to relocate you need to find out if they have a local Dom they are considering and how serious it is. Its great to make friends But to find out a month or 2 later that You bascally where bsed so the other Dom would make up Their mind.

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RE: What questions should a Dom/Master ask of a sub/sla... - 12/31/2005 9:09:11 AM

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So back to the original question at hand in the OP.

If you're considering someone to be *your* sub/slave/whatever, I'll assume you've already done all the 'getting to know you' stuff. Otherwise you've no business even having the discussion.

The advice you got about asking the same questions you'd ask of someone you were dating defintely apply.
Becuase no matter how much people like to romanticize & fantasize over it, a D/s based relationship still is only just that - a relationship - albeit with some added variables.

As far as getting to understand the BDSM side of them, I prefer to ask 'how' and 'why' questions, not 'what' questions.
Rather than do you like this, would you do this, etc., which are all closed end questions which can be answered briefly and often without much thought, and therefore, little revelation, I like open end ones. Were such and such to come up, how would you make a decision about it? You said 'yes' when I asked if you liked ___; why do you like that, what interests you about it?

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RE: What questions should a Dom/Master ask of a sub/sla... - 12/31/2005 11:00:22 AM

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First conversations are about coffee, if it isn't Folgers it's a deal breaker :)

Relax, enjoy the conversations of the norm, do you like sports, what hobbies do you enjoy and of course, do you work, have children, close to your family and friends and so on. This list is huge, are you religious, enjoy animals (get your minds out of the gutter), like the outdoors?

If your in a chat room, a munch or dungeon well it is at least slightly obvious you both have the same interests there, and I agree with Kevin, I prefer the open ended questions on the emotions and beliefs of this life.

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