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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 7:28:25 PM

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Speaking from the perspective of someone who has been accused of being a slut, because of my perceived promiscuity, I would say that one can act slutty in a stable relationship, i.e. sexuall assertive, but that real slut-dom cums from the number of people you've rolled with.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/9/2008 8:22:58 AM

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NuevaVida,

for your explicit response. it has given this slave much food for thought!

Hehehehe...It gave me something too.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/9/2008 8:43:24 AM

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Greetings..

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He current comfort, confidence, and acceptance that she now has a partner at least as "sick" and seeing the "disgusting" as exciting is pointed to the reference of the personal 'freedom' she's achieved through her 'slave' identity as our relationship dynamic defines it.

Okay this hit home in a big way and made all the difference in the world as to how words like bitch, slut, cunt, whore, etc. would of at one time not been taken so well..but because I found a Master slut who's been capable of showing me the positives of those it's been a very liberating and freeing experience, and continues to thrive and have a never ending appetite for more.

Let the juices flow

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/9/2008 2:23:47 PM

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a question for all orientations:

those of you who have experience being considered another's "slut"(in a good way, of course!), what sort of specific activities or mindset did/do you and/or them perceive as "slutty"?
on edit: even if you have no experience with it, but have an opinion regarding it, that would be welcome as well!!!

considering the current usage of the word in our society, this slave understands the obvious component of indiscriminate promiscuity, either with everyone on the block or random strangers met on Craig's list or each and every one of the other partners' friends, or whoever is in authority over you directing you to,etc., but for those who have experienced "slutty" for your Owner/Master/Dom/otherwise- labelled partner, in a monogamous setting...how did/does that flesh out, both physically and/or mentally?

is it even possible to be "slutty" within a monogamous D/s, M/s or even a conventional relationship, without,at the very least, having sex or participating in scenes with others?

thank you for taking your time here!

imo, it is not possible for one to be a slut or "slutty" within a monogamous relationship. but then i tend to be more of a literal thinker, and i define "slut" by standard dictionary terms...sexual promiscuity, indiscriminate about sexual partners, being "easy," etc. being sexually vivacious, having an insatiable sexual appetite, being sexually aggressive...these things have nothing to do with being a slut in my view. one can be a slut and love sex, one can be a slut and loathe sex.

but i am intelligent enough to understand that when most in the lifestyle use the term slut, they are not using the word in the literal sense, but rather they mean something entirely different...most often, they mean a female with a strong sexual drive and desire, able to be easily and highly aroused, and most often they display these characteristics only with The Great One, and no one else, deeming them not simply "slut," but Master SoandSo's slut only. this confuses the heck out of me, but i do realize it is the current state of affairs.

my Master is the type of man who adores sluts, sluts in the literal "dirty" sense, and that was one of the main things that initially attracted him to me when we were first getting to know one another. He helped me to feel pride and value in being a slut, as opposed to the shame and feelings of worthlessness i dealt with previously. He also made sure to cultivate and enhance my slut nature by having me serve many men sexually...friends of his, acquaintances, total strangers...it was (and is) very important to him that i view myself as a piece of a meat, a tool for the pleasure of men, that i am available to whatever man has need of me and makes the demand. and yes, he calls me "slut," not "MY slut," but simply slut. because, that is simply what i am.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/9/2008 2:42:57 PM

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but i am intelligent enough to understand that when most in the lifestyle use the term slut, they are not using the word in the literal sense, but rather they mean something entirely different...most often, they mean a female with a strong sexual drive and desire, able to be easily and highly aroused, and most often they display these characteristics only with The Great One, and no one else, deeming them not simply "slHe also made sure to cultivate and enhance my slut nature by having me serve many men sexually...friends of his, acquaintances, total strangers...it was (and is) very important to him that i view myself as a piece of a meat, a tool for the pleasure of men, that i am available to whatever man has need of me and makes the demand. and yes, he calls me "slut," not "MY slut," but simply slut. because, that is simply what i am.

Daddysprop247, I understand your views and have read your posts often. I know you mean exactly what you say and I admire that. But here is the place where I differ with you. You are not simply a slut; you are his slut. It could be that he wants you to fuck others and so on, but that doesn't matter. You only do it because he tells you to do it. I believe you could be pristine around an army of men unless your Master told you to play and sluts can't do that. Yes?

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/9/2008 3:22:46 PM

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Daddysprop247, I understand your views and have read your posts often. I know you mean exactly what you say and I admire that. But here is the place where I differ with you. You are not simply a slut; you are his slut. It could be that he wants you to fuck others and so on, but that doesn't matter. You only do it because he tells you to do it. I believe you could be pristine around an army of men unless your Master told you to play and sluts can't do that. Yes?

You are correct in that i am indeed not only "a" slut, but also "his" slut. i was only making clear that when referring to me, he does not preface such terms with "my." as far as only being sexual with other men because my Master tells me to, that is not so. because i am his property, he has control over my life and over the situations in which i am placed. i am not free to roam out and about as i was before i was owned, or even before we lived together. so if he wishes for me to be used, he will send men over to use me, or take me someplace to be used, etc. that is the only way such a thing could happen, given my current circumstances.

however as i explained in the previous post, i have always been a slut. being submissive as well, this translates into never being able to refuse any man who made sexual advances towards me. never in my life have i approached a man sexually (that's why the whole "Samantha" Sex in the City idea of slut always makes me cringe)...but if a man desired me, i would always give in, regardless of whether i wished to be with that person sexually or not. the closest i could come to saying "no" would be to avoid being in such situations in the first place...not going out to clubs or parties, not answering the phone, basically becoming a hermit. even when going out to such places with my Master, if he is not in a mood to have me touched by any others, he will not leave my side, going so far as to take me with him to the restroom. otherwise he knows that i will bend to the will of any man who makes a move.

so could i be pristine and untouched around an army of men? only if none of those men made sexual advances towards me.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/10/2008 6:19:01 AM

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daddysprop247,

thank you for your response.

this part of your post:

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...if a man desired me, i would always give in, regardless of whether i wished to be with that person sexually or not. the closest i could come to saying "no" would be to avoid being in such situations in the first place...not going out to clubs or parties, not answering the phone, basically becoming a hermit...

is something this slave can definitely relate to, regarding her past before Master. being "a slut" or "slutty" isn't something this slave necessarily took in a bad way outside of the context of being "someone's" or "his" slut, because it seemed to be inherent to this slave anyway.

the concept of slutty, within a monogamous relationship, is something this slave has been trying to wrap her head around...and the reason for starting this thread...(in spite of those who think it was started for wanking purposes!!!)

thanks again for your contribution.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/10/2008 7:13:22 PM

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Is it even possible to be "slutty" within a monogamous D/s, M/s or even a conventional relationship, without,at the very least, having sex or participating in scenes with others?

Embracing my inner slut is something that I have been tasked with by my Owner. It's one of the most challenging things he's ever asked of me, given my puritanical, uptight, prim and proper upbringing. Simply verbalizing that I need cock makes my insides twist, sometimes. Others, I can let loose and talk like a filthy, cum-obsessed whore. Oddly, it depends on how my self-esteem is doing at the time: if I'm feeling beautiful and confident and strong, I can be filthy more easily, and be the slut he so desires. If I'm feeling small and insecure, it's much harder to be in that head space... but get there, I must, to please him and to live more honestly. There are truths in my whoredom, that while difficult to face, I must learn to be honest about.

For our dynamic, (ymmv) expressing the slut within a monogamous relationship has a lot to do with communication: verbal, non verbal, written... it's text messages sent on a regular basis (whether we're both at home or not) that share intimacies: thanking him for the pleasure of the new toy he surprised me with, or my need to drink his cum, or my desire for the comfort of a throat fucking. It's taking every opportunity to express desire for him: "accidental" contact of my tits against his body; the slow, lingering kisses pressed passionately and hungrily anywhere within reach; sexualizing of simple things, like dipping each nipple into his hot coffee before kissing the rim and serving it to him. It's working myself into a state of lust, through reading erotica or viewing porn, or daydreaming of that perfect train or gangbang, and then expressing those thoughts to him in whispers. Its eagerness in bed, spreading myself just a bit further, coaxing out his inner beast, encouraging and begging him to take, to do as he pleases, to use the holes that belong to _him_...

He has a saying about our life and our lifestyle and our marriage: “If it was easy, then everyone would do it." For me, living in that level of honesty is really damned hard... but it's what he needs and desires.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/10/2008 7:34:16 PM

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Virgin at the supermarket ... maid at home ... administrator at work ... and slut in the bedroom ... the perfect woman ... :)

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/15/2008 8:10:49 AM

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I prefer my subs to dress and act slutty. Then I put'em in their proper place!

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/15/2008 8:28:43 AM

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YAY SLUTTY SLUTNESSS

*big evil grins*

For me being slutty for Sir tends to be defined more to my clothing choices. No panties under short skirts, or if i do wear panties, your definitely seeing the tops of my stockings and the clips of my garter belt. Or a particularly low cut top, especially tube tops, anything in leather, ESPECIALLY leather. Even if im bundled up for the cold nights lately you best believe I've got drop dead sexy under things on.

Or if I'm in an especially slutty mood, and I'm out with Him, I'll randomly walk by and grab his crotch..not forcefully or meanly mind you, but I'm definitely making sure its still attached to him. Or singing along to provocative songs and looking very pointedly at him. Or making extra sure, that cherry in my drink is eaten as slowly as possible.

It's the little things in life really huh?

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