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pnut8377 -> How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 9:40:18 AM)
How did you come apon this lifestyle and scene? For me it was a book, until then I had no idea this lifestyle actually existed. And how did you know that you were a sub/slave? For me I knew immediately that I wanted to be the one to serve even though I am extremely dominant in my vanilla life. I was just curious if it is the same for everyone. If it is something you just know.

mc1234 -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 10:13:07 AM)
I became more aware of BDSM and D/s relationships from erotica. I just knew I was submissive - never questioned it. I wanted to be the one kneeling, crawling, serving ...

IvyMorgan -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 10:56:27 AM)
I got onto the scene through an ex of mine. He took me to a munch, and that's how me and the scene started. How I got to know about kink is a whole different story.

ElectraGlide -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 11:04:22 AM)
I dated a bottom 20 something years ago for a year. We were not scene people, we just did S & M play. We had no education on the terms of the lifestyle. After a few long term vanilla relationships, I decided I wanted to be involved in the lifestyle. I went to my first munch 3 years ago by myself. I was nervous, but it was the start of a nice thing.

littleone35 -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 11:44:26 AM)
I was introduced to it by a friend who became my mentor. I was always submissive i just did not have a name for it. That was 10 years ago he sadly has passed away but i carry his lessons with me to this day. They helped me find a wonderful Master who i am crazy about. Matt's littleone

WestBaySlave -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 1:31:52 PM)
I hit puberty at thirteen and my mind began filling with strange thoughts... [:D] Thankfully, this being the internet age, I found out about "the lifestyle" only a year later, and knew from then on that it was pretty much what I wanted. However, I had a lot personal issues to work through, first about being gay, and then about being a submissive drawn to the more extreme end of things, so I only began to be involved in the real-time scene this year.

Phoenixpower -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 1:39:36 PM)
I used to be very assertive all my life, but people I was close to I enjoyed to please and to spoil. At home it was abused that I enjoyed to please and so I locked this attitude away for a while...and now since I am living in england I met sometimes partner from this lifestyle and ended up deeper and deeper into it. Also from my almost 5 year which I am now living abroad I am pretty much worn out and my fibromyalgia got about 300% worse...therefore my prospective TPE future with my prospective Master which I am going to meet is likely to benefit me as I dont have to worry about certain things anymore as he will deal with it (e.g. sorting out the bills with our finances which simply is a huge strain for me as a student in expensive UK) and so my stresslevel should decrease over time again...so from the medical aspect I think this lifestyle is better for me, particular knowing that I am unable to return to my country with my course I am studying (as this is ridicioulusly low paid in germany) and continue my assertive life in another new country again would continue to wear me down more and more. I really somehow reached the limit with what I am able to cope with and therefore am happy to accept that this lifestyle does fit my needs well. I do have my rebellous moments against it at times, but to 80% I am happy with my decision about this lifestyle and thats why I am moving forward into this direction :o)

LumusandtheLady -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 1:50:10 PM)
I was always kinky and on the edge but discovered the Lifestyle through a club many years ago in the South Bay area of California. Asked a friend to go with me to check it out who it turned out was wanting to discover it as well. He became my first dominant. [:)] Rain

oceanwynds -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 1:58:33 PM)
Sir introduced me to it two and a half years ago. oceanwynds

Mercnbeth -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 3:08:45 PM)
quote: How did you come apon this lifestyle and scene? an MD this slave sought out to quit smoking encouraged this slave to adopt a new "lifestyle". she googled "lifestyle" when she got home and lo and behold... quote: And how did you know that you were a sub/slave? after reading a bit up on it, pretending to be dominant in the "alternative lifestyle" world made as much sense(none) as pretending to be dominant in the world of conventional/vanilla relationships. at least in the "alternative lifestyle" world, there was a place for those who are submissive, as opposed to struggling for acceptance in the world of conventional/vanilla relationships where dominance is shared and expressing a wholly submissive nature is reviled. this slave was/is stoked!

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 7:09:38 PM)
Fell into an online kink chatroom on AOL while looking for cybersex.

mummyman321 -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 11:35:21 PM)
Came across an ad for latex clothing in the back of a magazie. Sent away for the catalog. Then found out they made kink bondage latex clothing.

E2Sweet -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/8/2008 11:58:02 PM)
I became aware of my kinky leanings mostly though the combination of naughty tid-bits within mainstream films and a somewhat adventurous high school sweetheart (she and I were both avid movie fanatics). Soon after came the internet explosion so to speak, and I began to do some 'research'...

maatsubJ -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/10/2008 9:01:09 PM)
I read too much lol. Seriously I'm extremely dominant in my day to day life, but had read books that had instances of BDsM in them. Once I became sexual active I kept having these urges to have the guy totally control me, so I started reading, and I found out about it. I did not become active until about 6 months ago when I met Daddy. He's be showing me the ropes.

rubberpet -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/11/2008 1:38:42 AM)
I took a wrong turn on the net and was helplessly led astray. God bless the internet! [:D]

NextDoorMan -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/11/2008 6:08:33 AM)
I realized I was a bottom before I realized there was a "scene". I grew up in the day of corporal punishment in the schools, that is where I developed my penchant for being a smartass. Any spanking or whipping scene on television sent my mind racing and my face blushing, often fantasizing that it was me in that situation. I found out there was a "scene" when I saw a femdom magazine in a bookstore about 20 yrs ago. The realization hit me ... "I'm not the only one!"

bdaile -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/11/2008 6:53:08 AM)
i first started thinking about it because of the romance novels i read. i realized that i was much more drawn to ones involving a D/s type relationship. my first boyfriend was also into it to a certain extent and we played a little. However, he became insanely abusive and i ended the relationship and wound up very scared of dominant type men. i only recently decided to give it another try as i have never been happy in a vanilla relationship. As to knowing that i was a sub, i'm not sure. That's just always been the way my mind has worked. brittany

kristileigh -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/11/2008 7:34:00 AM)
i first got introduced by an ex-boyfriend. A couple of years ago now. I have since met the most wonderful and caring Master! W/we have known each other now since February, living 24/7 since August.

SingleRarity -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/11/2008 3:29:40 PM)
When I was fifteen, in 1996'ish, I saw an episode of "Real Sex" about BDsM dungeons. Up until that point in my life, I'd never understood the lure of sex or sexuality. I became wet for the first time. Of course, due to being quite involved in church, I repressed my desires for years, but they never went away. Finally I broke down one day, typed a random search string into google, and found the kink community...which led me to Daddy....and pain....and mmmm goodness. Daddy's Ballerina, e

leadership527 -> RE: How did you get into the scene (12/11/2008 4:08:27 PM)
Well, my wife and I aren't really into "the lifestyle" or "the scene". But we became aware of the potential for authority dynamics in relationships via the internet... Secondlife specifically.

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