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Ready, Set, Go... Where?! - 12/8/2008 6:01:56 PM

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I am a young-ish FtM who has not yet begun to transition. I grow despondent thinking that I may stagnate and never see the changes I so dearly need to feel free and content... to feel comfortable in my own flesh. My mother, ever supportive, has encouraged me to be proactive regarding my evolution. She's also said that it would make sense for me to transition as much as I can before the family moves. And I quite agree. A new start... with a new form... a new outlook. But that's where the engines start to stall...

I'm currently covered through my mom's work. The plan won't so much as touch Trans issues. I'm also partially covered through my work, and I have to sit down with all of the paperwork that I was sent by the company I'm working for. I do not yet know whether or not any of the changes I'm interested in pursuing will be covered.

I'm looking into local support groups. (Can't be a hermit and expect life to change.) I've begun talking to doctors. (But I don't know if I'm asking the right questions. Or if there are enough of them being asked!) I've had a therapist for over a year and a half.

I'm not sure that I have any specific questions for this forum. My therapist went on hiatus for several months to explore Africa. When she returned she was away on family leave for another month or three. I finally have an appointment with her later this week. So I may just be venting.

I may also be looking into finding a new therapist. My current nut-cracker has previously stated that she's not entirely up to speed regarding Trans issues. She doesn't know if she's the best person for me to be talking to. I guess I'm just lacking guidance. I dislike being so out of control... feeling this lost.

I appreciate comments, thoughts, suggestions, and/or epic poetry... er... scratch that last one. Maybe... suggested reading materials instead.

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RE: Ready, Set, Go... Where?! - 12/8/2008 8:32:57 PM

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I think I'm headed offline for the evening. I've got work pretty early in tomorrow. Please feel free to leave me a message... or mail me on the other side. I'd be much obliged for feedback, especially if you happen to have any personal experience with these issues.

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RE: Ready, Set, Go... Where?! - 12/9/2008 2:18:53 AM

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hi Bending Gender, welcome to the message boards. I am sorry I don't have any information in reply to your OP but just wanted to say that I am sure there will be some people who will be on later who will be able to provide some assistance. Please keep us updated on how things go for you. :)

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RE: Ready, Set, Go... Where?! - 12/9/2008 5:29:02 PM

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If your therapist doesn't feel able to deal with your issues, she should be able to recommend someone who can. Beyond that, call the gay community near you to see if there's a LBGTQ group. Just as your therapist should be able to recommend another therapist, a gay organization should know of an organization that will fit a trans.

Good luck, and I think it's wonderful that your mother is so supportive.

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RE: Ready, Set, Go... Where?! - 12/10/2008 10:22:06 AM

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Thanks for the replies. You are both great!
I'll be sure to update now and then whenever I get new information and/or reach a goal.
And yeah... having a mother who hasn't batted an eye is amazing. She's just awesome for all sorts of reasons. ^_^

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RE: Ready, Set, Go... Where?! - 12/10/2008 10:41:57 AM

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Welcome! As you proactively seek out resources, you will be amazed that the path to your goals will start to open up. This applies to so much, not just your transition. And that you have a parent that is supportive of you, that has got to be priceless. I wish you well!

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RE: Ready, Set, Go... Where?! - 12/10/2008 4:58:02 PM

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Thanks for the reply and the good tidings!

And thanks to those who have sent mail on the other side.

Little by little I'll see about finding myself. Just ordered a few titles that have been suggested to me by a friend/co-worker. She's got two friends, both transitioning in opposite directions. And now it looks like she's got a third. >_> could be that she's somehow managed to work out some sort of gravitational pull...

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RE: Ready, Set, Go... Where?! - 12/10/2008 8:39:51 PM

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Hi, BendingGender----
I would recommend talking with your local GLBT center and asking for some guidance/assistance.
Best wishes,
Davan

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RE: Ready, Set, Go... Where?! - 12/10/2008 9:31:58 PM

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Thanks again! Once I've hunted down a few places I plan on checking into them and seeing if any feel like a good fit.

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