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tsatske -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 7:32:25 AM)
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actually, I don't mind flirting in the first email. What I mind is...
wait, I just had an ephany here. Everyone has a line drawn in chalk, and everyone's line is differant. I don't mind 'nice tatas' in a first email. (except that, in reality, that is usually the WHOLE first email and it never progresses FROM there...
'nice tatas. sighned, 21 y.o. Domlymanman
'thank you. Is it cold up there in minosota?'
'cold enough to get nipples hard. nice tatas'
'you mentioned that, but, thank you. Who is your favorite artist'
'one that does tatas')
I don't like invitations to fuck in the first email, and I don't like to see your Mr. Happy being Happy in the first (dozen) emails.
But, - and, sorry, i know I'm dense, but I think I JUST GOT THIS! Everyones line of chalk is differant. There are people out there who would be offended by what I think is mild flirting! and others who are actually collecting Mr. Happiness pics!
So, what to do with these things? Uhm - I think - redirect, and see if it is salvagable.
I have to be honest here, though. I ALWAYS write back EVERYONE who writes me. If the first letter is too insulting for words, I still write back and try to redirect. If it stays to insulting, eventually I block. (yea, that's a lie. If they keep writing back, but stay very, VERY insulting - I just have fun playing with them and slapping them around and insulting them, till finally it goes over the magic invisable line and Master writes them and offers to kick their ass if they wanna write HIM and talk about getting their asses kicked, (which they never do), and then HE blocks them, and then I walk around whining that Master took my new toy away!) (NO, this doesn't happen a lot. once or twice. But, they are so much fun to bat around. Why Master takes my toys away?)
But, I always TRY to redirect. And, overall, it basicly NEVER works. In over a Dozen years being active in Online BDSM community (and RL and F2F ones, but this is an online phenomonom we are talking about here), I have had ONE DommlyMasterMan Dom write me and say, essentially, 'ON YOUR KNEES NOW, BITCH', who responded to my blowing him out of the water by going ' oh, excuse me, i thought subbiesubgirlygirls liked that sort of thing. I'm sorry, my mistake. wanna talk?' who became a good friend. ONE. so, for that ONE, I keep doing it (I feel like God talking to Lot about Sodom and Gommorrah, here. 'for the sake of ONE, i will keep pretending they are not all idoits', said God, and tsatskeLot went off to find the one....)
But the inbetween kind - the 'barely over the line, I didn't care for it but many people would have been fine with it' - for them, redirecting might actually work. GL.
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