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porcelain26 -> RE: For Dominants and submissives (12/11/2008 12:25:48 PM)
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Wow.....okay then.
First, I have to admit I had no idea the can of worms I was opening up or the feathers that would be ruffled....damn.
I'm not suggesting anyone read and adhere to the advice offered in this book...I was simply asking for personal experiences based on ideals contained within it. I love this book, I've read it more than once actually, because for me (let me repeat that: FOR ME), the advice is very sound and appeals to my basic nature. I, in no way or form, suggested that this would be so for everyone, though I did figure it would be true for some.
Also, being feminine has nothing, whatsoever, to do with wearing lipstick and skirts. It's about glorying in the fact that you're a woman. I know that for myself, I LOVE being a girl...accepting and embracing that fact is fun for me and I enjoy it. I love that I'm soft in all the yummy spots, just like I love that men are hard in all those yummy spots too. And I do think there is some truth to the fact that the more a woman enjoys and embraces her womanhood (or feminine side) the more men are going to be attracted to her. Is this ALWAYS the case? Of course not.
Let me remind everyone that nothing is ever always or never. As with anything, you have to take from things what you can, learn and apply those aspects that fit for you, and then discard the rest. I find this book interesting because it's not written from a D/s perspective (at least not that I'm aware of), yet for me and in my personal practice, it applies readily. I was simply wondering if this happened to be the case for anyone else, dominant or submissive.
I am not, and never would, suggest that this is the only way a woman can attract a man. Nor am I suggesting (and the book doesn't either if you read it), that you be anything other than who you are. Suggesting that remaining quiet so you can listen to your own heart and feelings during a date, rather than jabbering like a nervous magpie, is not suggesting that you be something or someone you're not. Suggesting that you smile at people on a regular and consistent basis isn't telling you to 'play games' or adopt a new personality...it's simply stating the fact that someone who is smiling is much more approachable than one who is scowling.
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