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the possible "date", the "tests", argh - 12/15/2008 4:54:39 AM

pahunkboy

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Hello.

I must be so cemented into the lone grandier of my opulent existence.

I hesitated to give the local (1 hour away) guy my phone number. I was leary cause while he asks questions, I dont gett equal info back. I have to say that it is annoying.

So I let him call me last night.... argh.    many things in life just are.   he wants to know why I am single. (as tho that is a bad thing) Finally I asked him, where are all these wonderful guys that I have said no to?

I feel .....icky, that we spend too much time on memory lane.   It is in the past.... thats where I want it to stay.

I dont know what goes from here.    But he has a few strikes.,..   1 he is the youngest child ..which wont work with me an oldest. My friends are almost entirely oldest.   2. he lives with mom.   He has no idea that a house doesn clean, maintain itself....what am I possibly busy with. 3. he seems to think all life choices are what we wanted instead of the best options at the time.

Hows youur dating going? I dont like this prying. It isnt hard to get me talking... but it has to be a topic I WANT to discuss!

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RE: the possible "date", the "tests"... - 12/15/2008 8:13:18 AM

LinnaeaBorealis

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I hate what I call the Dating Dance!!! The getting to know you stuff. If you're not comfortable with this guy, I would suggest you just move on. There are more out there with whom you'll be more compatible. Don't ever settle!!

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RE: the possible "date", the "tests"... - 12/15/2008 8:31:16 AM

pahunkboy

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Lin, thats the thing. I wont settle. The fact is, I have improved my life MORE when it has been just me.

I am not sure why I feel, icky over talking about the past... I mean, I am pretty straight forward with my friends.

He is mystified that I bought a big house. But that is what came up at a good price. A smaller house would have cost more. I get the impression he expects a house to be finished. This place will never be finished. I can accept that.

I am interested in precious metals and the monetary system. I could talk for weeks about it.   But instead, to dredge up the past... is... well, I am about to become very busy.

I dont hate my past. At one point, I even wanted to write a book. But I find that to move on in life- I learn from my bad decissions and try to do the best I can.

Put another way.... no one delivered on a promise to give me a rose garden. So I now grow my own rose garden.
It may seem like a cold thing to say... but nothing gets done good, unless I do it.

On the flip side- I wont live in the future... "some day" "some day".

This dude might not know that good dating skills isnt necessarily a good LTR.

I don't think many men could match a buddy of mine Brian in OK. We almost dated, but I have my life here, his there. So thats best.

I have a few close friends, I have some family. So, I dont really "need" a LTR.

I take great pride in my garden. OH- he has a degree in horticulture, and he is some type of newspaper columnist.   Yet, it seems to me, a guy with a horticulture degree should have a garden?   indoor plants... graphed trees...

I happen to have a degree myself. Funny thing, it hasnt come up yet.   My degree is "nice"... but I doubt Iwould do that again.

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RE: the possible "date", the "tests"... - 12/15/2008 1:44:50 PM

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