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HeavansKeeper -> RE: Inpressing a Mistress.. (12/21/2008 5:38:08 AM)
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ORIGINAL: boytoyinatlanta
when a Mistress says that you are topping from the bottom is usually means that the Mistress can't cut Her own mustard...it's a blank check for the untalented, bitchy, and wannabes
From your profile: "i am a hard bottom who is not so interested in submission because it annoys me considerably when Dominants expect too much or give little in return."
I understand that in a playmate, complaining about "You're topping from the bottom" is a cop out. If I'm the top and she starts telling me how she wants it, or what she wants to do for me (This doesn't happen often, sadly.) I consider that to be Topping from the bottom. I don't end the relationship, I simply rev up the dominance and respond with "Listen, HotHoles, you're getting used how I choose to use you."
One way a D/s relationship differs from play is that the respect for one's superiors is key. The act is simply a way for that respect to manifest. The D/s "mind games" like corner time and bondage must really piss you off, because that's time spent with no one slapping you in the testes. It's not all fun and cum in D/s. There are hard moments in which a submissive is learning to (or engaging in) put the other before themselves.
I saw it in someone's signature here, and I like it... "For a submissive to submit, he must first give up what brought him to submission in the first place." It means, to me, your fantasy needs to be put on hold while you put someone else before you.
All that said, there's nothing wrong with S&M playtime, but because it tolerates two greedy parties makes it different than D/s.
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