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agirl -> RE: Accepting oneself as a pain slut (12/18/2008 9:30:17 AM)

The term *pain slut*, like lots of other soundbitey phrases don't sum a person up. They don't even go very far as a description of someone's ability to find pleasure in pain.

When I read it, I always STILL need to ask....* What do you mean?*

A light spanking?
A  restrained flogging with a soft suede flogger?
A sensual caning with light stinging?
A whipping with a single tail that lightly cracks on your skin?
A heavy spanking that causes you to bleed?
A violent flogging with plaited leather tails?
A hard caning from cold, that welts, breaks the skin and leaves blood trailing?
A whipping that slices into your flesh?

I still want to know what they call a 'craving'. Is it the pain itself, or is it everything surrounding the pain........the attention, the intimacy, the shared experience, the suffering, the challenge?etc etc.

Painslut....says very little to me, really.

agirl







oceanwynds -> RE: Accepting oneself as a pain slut (12/18/2008 9:48:38 AM)

I am not sure but perhaps used the wrong terminolgy in writing this post. I have never been hit prior to Sir. I have been a victim of sexual abuse more then several times. I was long ago involved in an emotional abusive relationship, that is it.  I was never struck though in a relationship.

My father did not believe women should be hit, so we didn't get spankings. My sister and I just never got hit. My brother did though.

When I first experienced pain through the use of Sir's belt, though it hurt, I liked what I felt afterwards. It was for me more of release of tensions, just to name one result. This left me craving for the next session, and the next..

I was surprised that I craved this type of play, and find it sometimes confusing that I do. I learned a lot from the people who posted, and am turning my thinking around.

oceanwynds



agirl -> RE: Accepting oneself as a pain slut (12/18/2008 10:00:12 AM)

I've never been in an abusive relationship, ever...and never been a victim of anything.

I'd hazard a guess that it's simply new experiences that are creating feelings you haven't felt in the same combination before ...........and as they are attached to your *man*, they have a positive connotation. You seem to crave what it brings you, rather than the activity itself. But to get that , you have to go through the activity.

I'm not the type of person that suffers a great deal of angst about anything I find enjoyable. I just head off along there and go with the flow.

agirl



oceanwynds -> RE: Accepting oneself as a pain slut (12/18/2008 10:14:10 AM)

I tend to have to take apart everything and analyse. I ponder many things to the point it can lead me to nowhere land. Because of this, I started to ask other submissives/slave questions. The Dom view is always welcome too.



myotherself -> RE: Accepting oneself as a pain slut (12/18/2008 11:24:32 AM)

My first dominant was a sadist, and I found through him that I enjoyed the effects of pain.  It hurts - god it hurts! - but the other sensations were fantastic.  I had never had an orgasm through sex, but now I have multiples if pain is involved.

I now identify as a pain slut.  I have played with more than a few tops/partners and each has said how impressed they are at how much pain I can take, and how strong my sexual reaction is to the the pain.

To begin with I thought there was something wrong with me for wanting pain.  I did a lot of soul-searching, and it was only when I got involved in the local scene and started talking to people, I found out that being a pain slut is something to celebrate, and I find I never lack for the company of sadists, lol!

It's part of me, and I've learned to love it and be proud of it.  You should too!



oceanwynds -> RE: Accepting oneself as a pain slut (12/18/2008 2:32:50 PM)

I am working on it myotherself. I found some great advice on the thread and on the other side. Think just knowing that I wasnt the only one to got through this type of processing has been a major help.

I do thank those who never had to adjust to it and those who did and replying to my post.

oceanwynds



kyraofMists -> RE: Accepting oneself as a pain slut (12/18/2008 5:41:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: cpK69
Is it wrong to think that not all things that people enjoy to make them feel good, are good for them? Is there nothing to say for intent?


I think this is an important point.  Motivation plays a big part in whether an activity is healthy for you or not and things that make you feel good are not always good for you.

Knight's Kyra



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