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ISOHOH49 -> How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 10:43:55 AM)
I need a little encouragement, How long did it take you to find your other half? I have met a lots of good people on line and I have just started to go to the local munchies. I guess I just need to hear some kind words to keep me still believing that I will one day find that person. No I am not sitting at home depress. I do lots of things with friend and family that bring me joy.

utopicus -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 10:51:15 AM)
Hello Are you are seeking the other "better half" in the scene,or in vanilla life? What are you looking for in a partner? What are your expectations? What would you like from life, from a life shared with your partner? All of these are questions you could ask yourself and once the answers are given - you have a profile in mind. There's one "trick" you should always keep in mind: the more intense you expect something to happen the less likely it would. It's best to let things go, enjoy yourself, be merry and optimistic and your dream will materialise when time is right, and not when you expect it. Regards,

SingleRarity -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 10:53:17 AM)
Months..years...Looking for "the one" can take just as much time in the kinky world as it does in the vanilla. I was lucky. I found my Sir's profile in the first ten minutes of googling 'kinky people bdsm, etc'. We're coming on two years. Daddy's Ballerina, e

FlamingRedhead -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 11:07:16 AM)
About a week.

Lynnxz -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 11:14:36 AM)
I wasn't seeking, we just kind of happened on eachother. [:D]

LumusandtheLady -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 11:18:57 AM)
Ran into Daddy within a couple of days of joining the CM boards. However, we weren't looking, we just became friends. I was happily single for many years and not looking for the other part. [;)] Look where I am now..... Rain

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 11:23:20 AM)
Took me 3 years to finally find a Man who REALLY understands where I come from...

monywildcat -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 11:26:18 AM)
It took me "damn near 30" years, with a marriage, a cross-country move, relocation back to my hometown, and a divorce along the way to make things interesting. And me and Daddy were right under each other's noses since we were kids. And here we are. Life is truly amazing. It can take one just a few days, weeks, or the search could span into years. One day, dear OP, you will find that person that completes you.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 11:40:50 AM)
Daddy found me about few months after joining another site ...He sent me a long message which wasn't the typical let's meet and fuck kind filling up my inbox. we instantly connected ...chatting online and phone - finally meeting in person. those blue eyes had (and still do) me melting. gradually our friendship moved towards a Daddy-daughter D/s dynamic. currently i'm collared, owned and loved for 2yrs now. likewise with my pet - he found me here. we had a rocky start at first and broke things off. however we re-connected earlier this year ...the 2nd time around is much better and stronger than the 1st time. soon i'll collar my pet (hopefully on his birthday) and then in 2010, we're "eloping" to Vegas.

porcelain26 -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 1:44:53 PM)
I think it's very dangerous to compare your search to anyone else's. It's a dead end down "What's wrong with me?" road. Besides that, you may very well discover that if you look back through your life you've met "the one" several different times. I know I have. There was "the one" that helped bring me out of my shell and give me the confidence to even talk to boys (he's still one of my best friends). There was "the one" who made me realize that I was beautiful and wonderful, and would be that way whether I was in a relationship or not. There was "the one" who ripped my heart out, tropped all over it, and made me understand that not everyone will take my soul and be gentle with it. There was "the one" who taught me to own my own darkness, love myself for who I am, and to embrace all of me, not just bits and pieces...this "One" of course, still owns me. But is He "the one" I'll settle down with? Extremely doubtful. We both know that, but that doesn't make Him any less "The One" for me, either. I'm sure I'll have many more "Ones" throughout my life.

akisha -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 2:22:12 PM)
I met my first Dominant when I was 17, i wasn't even looking. I met my former Dom a year after my seperation from my nilla husband. I met my current Master 14 months after my former Dom and I parted. Is this one "the one" no idea but then again I don't believe in "The One" I think we meet a range of partners, some for a long time, some for a short time, some are so we can learn something about ourselves, some so we can teach someone something they need to learn about themselves. I'm hoping my current Master is the one I spend the rest of my days with but if not, I plan to love ever minute we have together.

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 4:50:07 PM)
To find the right one...... about10 months after I sort of officially started looking, although at the time He and I found each other, neither of us were looking. So many people seem to have that happen...... they're stop looking and they find someone.

pixidustpet -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 5:24:29 PM)
i think that each of us has someone that fits us like a puzzle piece. but remember, even a corner puzzle piece has a few different fits. i fit well with fallcon, but when he passed away he made me promise to find someone else. fallcon though...it took me 3 years waiting for him to sober up and come back to me. then it took about a month and a half for Daddy (whom i met here) to break down my resistance and capture my heart. i've been his for roughly a year and a half now. TheEngineer....i've known for some 9 years now. and it took till this past march to say "love you, marry me". now we're close to the marry part. eek! its not the destination. its the journey and what you learn along the way, even if all you learn is "whelp, dont want THAT!" [:)] kitten

littlewonder -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 6:46:09 PM)
I was single for about 8 years before I met Master. I dated others during that time but no one seriously, no one where it lasted past a couple dates. You can put yourself out there but in the end you just have to have patience and enjoy your life in the meantime.

kristileigh -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 6:59:08 PM)
2 months. Was meeting with another Dom when Master contacted me. He is the first and the last one to collar me.

DesFIP -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 7:09:11 PM)
Took me about a month, took him over three years. The thing is that I did the hard work beforehand. I decided before starting to talk to people what it was I needed in a partner; both vanilla and kinky stuff. I knew the moral values that I had to have in a partner in order to respect them. And if people didn't match me with a very high level of compatibility I didn't spend time talking to them. I used profiles, posts, journals before writing back to see if this was a person I had the slightest amount of click with. It may have been easier for me simply because I knew I wasn't compatible with a sadist. Playwise we are bondage enthusiasts.

SimplyMichael -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 7:14:39 PM)
Took me only forty years but it was very much worth the wait.

MarksFantasyGirl -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 7:26:20 PM)
It took me 20 years. I am now 22. lol Sweets and I met when we were just wee ones. We have been friends for a VERY long time. And all it took was one kiss to realize that we love each other. (ok, for me to realize that I love Him. He's loved me for like ever). I wasn't looking at all. I was actually with someone else. I was engaged. It takes a second to meet someone. A minute to make friends with someone. An hour to like someone. A day to love someone. And a lifetime to forget them! (or something like that! lol) Don't give up hope. But don't push it.

Usako -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 8:13:11 PM)
I don't need "my other half" because I'm already a whole person. I also don't believe in "the one" either. How long? Who knows, I'm happily single right now. It took me about a month of searching through BDSM to find the person I currently play with though. Finding romance, depends on the situation. But I never search so I don't have a "how long" any relationship I've had usually just happened because the click was right. Friends turning into more, etc. I don't look, it just happens.

peppermint -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 8:16:46 PM)
I was never looking so can't name a length of time. We just happened to meet at an event. Stayed in touch. Spent hours on the phone...and....he started to grow on me. From meeting to moving out of state to live with him was 6 months.

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