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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 6:48:07 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I believe that there is absolutely no reason as a Dominant, not to say please and thank you. And I would personally think less of a Dominant who thought it was wrong or un dommly to say Please and thank you.
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ORIGINAL: lynn1947

When your Owner uses please and thank you with requests for you? How does it make you feel? Do you not take it as an order if it has please after it?   Are you more eager to comply if you hear please?

this is the question my Master ask me. i answered it as honest as i could . how do some of you feel about please and thank you

thank you for your time from Master and i 

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 7:47:24 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Both. Getting a thank you, a smile, a pat on the butt is always good. But getting a growled order is hotter than a "Honey would you do this please?".

I would rather get a "Please get me some more tea" but I also love a "Get on your knees right now little girl and open your mouth". They both have their place.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 7:50:07 PM   
Sandyshores29718


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Status: offline 		I see it has him just having manners. Sometimes..please can get me to do JUST about anything. Does not make me think less of him as a Dom or any Dom in that matter.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 7:51:58 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: lynn1947
When your Owner uses please and thank you with requests for you? How does it make you feel?

It makes me feel as if I am owned by a Man who has common decency and manners and I love it.  He doesn't have to say "please," "thank you," "you're welcome" or "excuse me" but He does because His mama raised Him that way.  He says them to everyone, including me.  It shows me He's a perfect gentleman and not a boorish caveman.
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 Do you not take it as an order if it has please after it?   Are you more eager to comply if you hear please?

I eagerly comply no matter what the tone or if "please" and/or "thank you" are involved.  I take every hint and suggestion as an order.  He's Master and His wish is my command.  It doesn't have to be a loud, barked command for me to know it's what He wants.  He can whisper it oh so politely and it's still an order to be obeyed.  He knows He doesn't have to thump His chest and yell for me to catch on and do as He desires..................luci


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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 9:22:35 PM   
greeneyedreamer


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Status: offline 		My Dominant always says please and thank you and is very courteous always. He's a gentleman at all times and it's refreshing to have him be that way to me.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 10:18:57 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		I value respectful interaction on either side of the kneel.  Certainly, there are times for animalistic/carnal behavior and those are a delight but it costs nothing and, imo, shows regard when a person takes the time to phrase a request/order/statement/communique with politeness and grace.  It is also my opinion that formality is highly underrated and I enjoy the interjection of greater formality in speech than is standard or common. 
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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 10:27:29 PM   
hamster11


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Status: offline 		you know i just told a Dom the other day a man who can cane me and then say please and thank you is hot. i havent studied why yet.  it just for some reason gets me.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 1:15:27 AM   
porcelain26


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Status: offline 		My Owner is a gentleman (shhh...don't tell Him I admitted that hehehehe), so naturally He says please and thank you. He definately uses 'thank you' with me, far more often than 'please', but that's neither here nor there. When He asks me to please do something for Him, I think I take it almost more seriously than when He just gives a flat out order. If He's putting 'please' in front of it, it's generally something He needs done, done extremely well, and done in a hurry. I'm always thrilled when I can help Him with anything, so I'm always eager whenever He says 'please'. He always thanks me for doing anything He's 'please' asked me for, and He thanks me for other things too.

When He says 'please' it makes me feel special and important, like I'm the only person who could do this task for Him. When He says thank you, I feel gratitude, relief, and immense pride at having pleased Him.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 1:57:01 AM   
LickableLevia


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Status: offline 		I find it respectful to use pelase and thank you. It gives me even more pleasure to comeplte the request

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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 2:58:35 AM   
WyldHrt


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Status: offline 		As has been said, context and intent matter to me. It's lovely when mundane tasks such as bringing him a drink or clearing the dinner dishes come with a please or thank you, because it shows that he notices my efforts. Likewise, I appreciate things like having a door held for me, as they show consideration and manners.
That said, it's hot to get an order that is less than polite in a sexual situation, as "Would you please suck my cock now?" just wouldn't do much for me




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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 4:01:44 AM   
ishyB


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Status: offline 		Greetings all,
 
Well for me hearing ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ is not a normal event.
That is not however, because Master does not have manners.
I’ve never known him to be anything but respectful and polite when addressing a request at Mistress, but that’s the whole, difference, to her he is making a request, to me it is an order.
 
He wouldn’t say please to me anymore than he would say please one of his dogs. When he orders me to do something, it’s always very clear that it’s an order, not a question.
Now that doesn’t mean that he is rude to me on purpose, or that he yells or anything like that; it more that when he commands me he like a military leader would give orders to his troops.
Can you imagine a drill-sergeant training troops say: “now please troops, would you go run 20 miles for me?”, or tell them: “thank you so much”, when they get back?
The fact that he doesn’t use those terms has nothing to do with manners and everything with the hierarchy in which they relate to each other.
 
Then fact that Master doesn’t thank me for my efforts also does not mean he doesn’t notice them. While a ‘thank you’ is not something that I will ever expect to hear from him, he does often give me a pad on the butt while saying ‘good girl’, if I did something that really pleased him.
This is not something he’ll do with every task I’ve completed for him. I don’t serve him from the need to be rewarded for every little thing I do. But he still seems to use positive reinforcement of his commands much more frequently than negative ones.
 
I wish you well,
 
ishy

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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 4:02:12 AM   
sirsholly


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Status: offline 		i totally agree, Wyld. I do not want a please/thank you behind the bedroom doors!!

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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 6:24:09 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I say "please" and "thank you".  It was how I was raised and I see no reason to not show manners.  And my submissive better show them as well.

But "good girl" is more effcective than "thank you" ANY day.


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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 9:41:37 AM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: ishyB
I don’t serve him from the need to be rewarded for every little thing I do

Nor do I think many of us who have responded do either.  For me, it's not about obeying out of some "need to be rewarded for every little thing."  I don't necessarily even view a "thank you" as some sort of "reward."  It's about Him and how He feels like responding.  If He wishes to say "thank you" for yet another job very well done, by all means He does.  It's all about pleasing Him.  Obviously different methods work for different relationships and I would never presume to say why anyone else does anything.  Whatever works for ya.......................luci

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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 5:13:06 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I like please and thankful because it means he's a courteous and politeful human being. It has nothing to do with being a dom whatsoever.


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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 5:16:19 PM   
bound4more


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lynn1947

When your Owner uses please and thank you with requests for you? How does it make you feel? Do you not take it as an order if it has please after it?   Are you more eager to comply if you hear please?



I enjoy it very much when Master says please and thank you. Why not? Just because I'm His slave doesn't mean I don't enjoy common courtesy, some respect and dignity. Yes, it's still very much His command however it's said.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 6:42:22 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		i appreciate it very much to hear small bits of praise. our society often omits social pleasantry's it helps remind me to use them as well and makes me feel good.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/21/2008 8:41:42 PM   
pinkwind


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Status: offline 		We are a couple who have mutual respect for each other, and that includes the niceties of verbal interaction.

i am not one who does well having orders barked at me, i tend to be more eager to serve if asked decently and with manners. They cost nothing but go a long way to making a body feel appreciated.


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RE: please and thank you - 12/22/2008 2:31:32 AM   
WyldHrt


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But "good girl" is more effective than "thank you" ANY day.

True enough




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RE: please and thank you - 12/22/2008 4:21:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it shows good manners, which is always a plus for me.

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