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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 11:27:03 AM   
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Andddd, I'm pretty sure someone could top your story as well. It's not a contest dude. People have bad days.


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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:00:13 PM   
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Andddd, I'm pretty sure someone could top your story as well. It's not a contest dude. People have bad days.



LOL, it's not a matter of "topping stories", Lynnxz, it's a matter of  proportion and taking responsibility for one's actions, imo.

Yes, people have bad days and sometimes, bad things happen to good people. Ce'st le vie .


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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:02:22 PM   
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Look, a couple of things in theOP set me off. First, she took her dogs camping, unleashed, in a national park. Then, rather than notify the rangers that they were loose, she abandoned them. It's ( maybe ) still not too late to notify themin the hope that they may be found and not suffer or cause suffering to other critters. It's the age-old story of "what did you THINK was gonna happen "?

Then a short litany of whining from slipping on a rock and getting a boo-boo, to a one-sided story of domestic chaos. As usual, I'm sure that there is more than one side to this story.

Finally, I happened to read the OP on a morning when I got the news that my brother , who has been suffering a long and painful death due to cancer had his lungs collapse last night and is on a respirator in intensive care. I'm leaving in the morning to gather with what's left of the family to be with him and each other when they pull the plug. So, perhaps I'm a little annoyed when someone whines about the small shit asks for "a kick in the butt" and refuses to take responsibility.

Finally,  in answer to the OP, if you really want to feel better, try what never fails instead of feeling sorry for yourself. Reach out and help someone worse off than yourself. Volunteer at the local homeless center to feed and comfort the suffering . Take a box of food to your local community pantry. Volunter at a church or community kitchen to feed the hungry and comfort the lonely this holiday season.







I'm sorry to hear you are going through a bad time. But taking out the anger on a stranger who is having a rough time herself is not justified, no matter how trifling you find her problems.


I wish you well in your difficult time.


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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:08:20 PM   
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Well, I guess I am just a cold and heartless bastard.

Btw, I wonder what those lost doggies are up to, not that it matters to anyone.


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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:09:06 PM   
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What she said.

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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:18:41 PM   
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Andddd, I'm pretty sure someone could top your story as well. It's not a contest dude. People have bad days.



LOL, it's not a matter of "topping stories", Lynnxz, it's a matter of  proportion and taking responsibility for one's actions, imo.

Yes, people have bad days and sometimes, bad things happen to good people. Ce'st le vie .



So, if it's proportion we're after, someone could come by with... I dunno say a sick family member, a bad week, AND lost dogs, and tell you to suck it up and quit complaining?

As far as the doggies go, she mentioned one was a pitbull, they are off eating squirrels and poo.


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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:19:46 PM   
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Pretty soon we are going to have all the makings for a bad country song.........

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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:25:53 PM   
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What she said.


I respect LaT and her opinions, based on reading her posts for a year or so. Taking that into account, and realizing the value of someone's opinion whom I respect and acknowledging that my state of mind is off balance at this time, I apologize if my anger has hurt the OP.

The rest of you, with a few noted exceptions, can blow me.

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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:28:01 PM   
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Pretty soon we are going to have all the makings for a bad country song.........

Surely the word "bad" is superfluous there?


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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:41:44 PM   
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What she said.


I respect LaT and her opinions, based on reading her posts for a year or so. Taking that into account, and realizing the value of someone's opinion whom I respect and acknowledging that my state of mind is off balance at this time, I apologize if my anger has hurt the OP.

The rest of you can blow me.


Cjan, I am very sorry to hear that you are hurting also. Loosing a loved one is very painful. It seems this year is a trying one for many people, in more ways than some of us can imagine.

Not one thing I can possibly type will probably help you, I realize that. Just don't forget that you do have alot of friends here that care. I've seen it in many of the threads that I don't even actively participate in.


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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:45:00 PM   
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Well, I guess I am just a cold and heartless bastard.



far from it, CJan
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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 12:46:28 PM   
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As you can see, you are not the only one is a bad place at this point in time.  This is a rough time for even the strongest and heartiest and most well adjusted of us... its bad for me, and those around me...

for the most part, I can only tell you how I manage.. I do for others.. I spread money around to those that provide me a service (massage, my fav waiter/bartender, nail person, hair person etc.. you know the list) they are hurting more than I am...

I have two people very close to me who are on the verge of... well the verge of the verge of the verge of suicide.. despite my crap.. they need me more...

so help someone else.. cook something, take it to someone... go help someone.. really, it will do you a world of good...

I try very hard, when I'm in a bad place this time of year, to take it in stride and remember, its just one day.. it will be over soon and a New Year, a chance to start over in a big way.. will be here soon...

good luck.. my heart goes out to you

and ETA ... the best way to get OFF yourself and move on is to do something for someone else...

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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 1:11:17 PM   
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While I figured the mean replies were from a temper tipped off from other peoples problems, it did still hurt. That being said, both dogs are tagged, one is micro chipped, the park rangers were notified (and the woman actually saw us walk them so she knows who they are) no later than an hour after we stopped looking for them, the shelters were notified, all vets in the area were notified, and if I knew the area I'd drive up there and post lost posters on every single house door but I'd most likely get lost and money is tight for that sort of gas. I'm also not sure about other national parks, but this one did allow pets (as well as horses), since my boy is an Eagle Scout and a stickler for the rules of the outdoors. The pit bull is also very well trained to voice command (she never leaves my side, my constant companion) and the dal will follow her everywhere is 90% of the time will come to me when I call her. This is why I'm so upset. They knew better, I knew better, but yet it still happened. I've spent years preaching at people to never trust their dogs to not run off, always be on top of their dogs, always have them perfectly trained, and I let this happen to them.

I've been doing some house work today and playing with my cat. My boy stopped in for lunch unexpectedly, so my day has been a nice one. Even the weather has stopped being dreary.

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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 1:24:39 PM   
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Catchy, perhaps I misjudged you. Apparently, you are a responsible pet owner. I'm glad that you have done everything that you could to try to recover and protect your dogs and other critters.

Again, I apologize for my harsh post. I wish you and yours all the best. I hope that your dogs come home safe and sound.


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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 1:46:57 PM   
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The local police (both state and county) are another source to notify. Anytime i have captured an untagged dog in my area, they're the first ones i notify that i have them.
i don't have any advice to help in general but i do hope you get your babies back. As a dog nut, i can sympathize with the worry.

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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 2:02:48 PM   
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Since your profile says that you are a switch - SWITCH! Tell boy he is top for a day and that you don't want to think about things or deal with things. He plans everything and you just baby girl along. Have fun!!!

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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 4:54:31 PM   
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ROFL

Just to prove everybody wrong, up comes a wonderful CountrySong with some good advice. Lol.

I'm also one of many perhaps who have had a crap time of late, and there's nothing I could ever hope to say or words which would have the magic effects of bringing the dogs back, other than to say that the dogs are probably intelligent enough to look after themselves, and while they were with you they were happy and loved, and if ever there was a chance they will find themselves back to you.

As for the rest... well it's over, and you're alive enough I guess to be able to read these words, and also in a position of some sorts to access them.

Why dwell on it? It's the past, gone, over, history.

I still remember three years ago in a December which was also crap, I was street homeless with frostbitten feet. But I can remember the first night perfectly. It was a warm night, about 9 degrees, I had a bit of money and bought myself a SIM card for my cellphone and a weekly bus ticket. I travelled around London looking for somewhere to sleep, and ended up finding a place behind a parade of shops in North London. Beside some bins I found a lot of cardboard, got together some pallets and within about an hour I had a wooden hut which looked like pallets stacked against the wall insulated by cardboard.

Behind a charity shop I found some old clothing thrown out which I put above the flooring of cardboard and a couple of books. I also found a battery powered radio. From behind the supermarket in a large plastic dustbin I found a pre-packed microwave-ready chicken curry with pilau rice, a four pack of jam doughnuts, and three cans of Budweiser beer. Round the corner in the nightshop I bought a small pack of candles and some cheap batteries.

I then proceeded to have a decent night, my homecoming party for one, with the beer, the curry, the doughnuts, the books, and a comfortable night's sleep. I had arrived in London that midnight on Friday, this was the end of my first Saturday, and the wooden hut was my home for the weekend. I was warm, safe, comfortable, had light, something to read, something to listen to, somewhere to sleep, and I could rest. I also had contact with the world through my cellphone, means of transport, hell... at that moment in time it didn't matter that I was homeless, because I probably had more than quite a few people passing me on the streets with homes to go to. I even forgot how sore my feet were until I started walking on them.

People were right, feeling sorry for yourself and dwelling on the past just keeps you there. But you know, even when it's really bad, in the times when life really kicks you in the teeth, the only thing which can prevent you from finding happiness and positive experiences is your own mind.

The only people who are proud of their misfortunes are victims. Survivors continue living, and they're either happy, or they're looking for positive reasons to be happy. That means going out into the world, living life, and creating happy memories.

Here's some ((((((((hugs)))))))))) to help you get started.



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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 5:47:24 PM   
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I jest.  Of course I have one or two of Mr Cash's finest in my collection.  In fact I enjoy ALL types of music - country and western.


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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 5:56:11 PM   
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All that notwithstanding: Oh hell, Stella, I hope you're properly housed now.

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RE: Any ideas to kick my butt into gear? - 12/22/2008 6:00:55 PM   
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I was in a bad mood after they ran off and I wanted to go home


I am sorry that you are going through such a hard time right now.  But I know,  if I lost my beloved fur baby Georgie.  No power on Gods green earth would make me leave until I had found her, or had an answer as to what had happened to her.
I hope that your angels are safe and returned to their loving home soon.


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