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ORIGINAL: moonvine

Ok, so I have had a friend for 6.5 years.   We were friends for  a good bit of time until one day we decided we weren't just friends anymore, but something more than friends.  Shortly before Thanksgiving he got back with his old girlfriend.  I didn't hear from him and finally tracked him down in jail.  Apparently he was stopped due to out of date license plates, a routine check was run on him and 2 old warrants were discovered, 1 a felony criminal mischief complaint for leaving a rental house in bad condition, the other for a bad check written to a funeral parlor.

So I went to see him today, and he tells me he is being committed to the state mental hospital because they do not feel he is competent to stand trial.

He doesn't understand why he is being sent there and not having talked to his doctor neither am I.  I see him 20 minutes twice a week and he is lucid but I am not there other times.

At any rate once he gets out I have told him he can stay here if he follows rules (get a job, keep house semi clean - don't throw food trash in floor).   He will have nowhere else to go.  I guess I'm not sure how to get to somewhere  from where he was in charge to where I am, of necessity, in charge.

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ORIGINAL: moonvine
His attorney won't return my calls.   

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

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ORIGINAL: moonvine
His attorney won't return my calls.   

This one fact says to me that he instructed his attorney not to give you any info. He signed papers for you and then told people to ignore them. That means he is lying to you.

As far as not finding prescription medication for mood disorders? Means he refused to take them, not that he doesn't need them.

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ORIGINAL: newleafintx

My advice on this one is RUN. But of course you will not do that or abandon your friend. However, it is the BEST course of action. I do not know this person, but he sounds like a user to me. First off he left you to go back to his old girlfriend? So where is she, and who is to say that after you have invested a lot of time , money and emotion into this guy, he won't up and do the same thing again. As far as him not having a place to go. If you do not take him in will he find some place to go, the answer, I will tell you, is yes.  Many times there are people who know how to use the system as well as other people. A stint in the state mental hospital is preferable to a stint in jail. I get the idea you are in Texas, if that is so your friend will be probably be committed to Rusk. It is an unpleasant place, but beats a Texas jail. He could go to Vernon, a much better place. I am not sure of current law, a person can spend YEARS in one of those places before finally getting declared competent to stand trial at which time they still have to answer for the charges. The fact that you can not get answers is a RED FLAG. This situation is probably much more serious than you realize. Ask a lot of questions , as people have said, check public records, and be prepared to invest a lot of time , money , and emotional stress. Good Luck

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ORIGINAL: M4STER

moonvine, it appears to me that you are in a complete denial. I think that few if any of the things people have written in this thread are getting to you. The last update you gave about him spending your money on calls to his girlfriend just confirms that he is using you. But no one here is going to control your actions, I see many wake-up calls for you in this thread and somehow it seems to me that you are snoozing all of them, justifying his behaviour and avoiding the harsh truth of your situation. I wish you good luck and remember to actually be careful.