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ORIGINAL: califsue

I know there is much talk about LDR and those who do or do not participate in such. Was curious to see what people consider a LDR.
Is it 100 miles or more or the ability to see each other daily if you do
not live 24/7 with your partner. I think most of us want to find someone
local however depending on our location we may find that to be a challenge.

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I used to consider myself lucky when I only had to drive an hour and a half to meet.
The twenty minutes I travel now is a dream and I can't get to what's waiting at the end fast enough or often enough.   I no longer have to waste energy on travel or scheduling or any of that bullshit.  I'm so spoiled....

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ORIGINAL: lateralist1

Long distance for me is when I have to consider the time and cost of travelling.
However I would rather have a good long distance relationship rather than a mediocre relationship with someone local to me.

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ORIGINAL: lateralist1

However I would rather have a good long distance relationship rather than a mediocre relationship with someone local to me.

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*waves
Pleasure to finally meet you. We have heard so much about you!

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

We were about 150 miles apart, depending on traffic getting on or off Long Island that is a 3-5 hour drive. We aimed to see each other every three weeks, but every six was not uncommon, especially in winter when it appeared that every time we planned a meet snow was forecast.

For me, if you aren't close enough to ever be able to spontaneously get together, that's a LDR.

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ORIGINAL: kallisto

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ORIGINAL: lateralist1

However I would rather have a good long distance relationship rather than a mediocre relationship with someone local to me.

I think this sums it up quite nicely.  It's the quality of the relationship that will make the distance worthwhile.  

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

See, I don't see it that way, yhma.  Sure, it means I can't screw around (I probably wouldn't anyway due to My own standards) but there are things more important.  I know who I'm growing old with.  To Me, that means I can wait until a later time to have him sitting with Me every day.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I do certainly see your point.  I think we just view it differently.  No, it's not like either of them can run to dinner at the drop of a hat or run across town when there's an issue.  The thing is, I had already accepted that when I met each of them. 

One of the things that I love about both of them is their commitment to serving their country.  It is part of who they both are and I certainly can't deny it.  I knew there would be periods of separation.  I accepted that and I have no regrets.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
One of the things that I love about both of them is their commitment to serving their country.  It is part of who they both are and I certainly can't deny it.  I knew there would be periods of separation.  I accepted that and I have no regrets.

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ORIGINAL: QueenIsis

I'm with you, littlewonder, and also you, YourhandMyAss; if we can't get together practically at the drop of a hat, then I don't feel a need to be in the "relationship". In my case, I think it's because my ex-husband was a crack addict who, even though we lived together, I never saw because he was always "gone". I swore I would never be in that situation again, and I don't, which is why I let my last beloved pet go, and he only lived 40 miles away. I see many many males on here who seem like they'd be just what I need, but if their Profile puts them further than 20 miles away, I say no thanks. I also say no to those who may live close but have so much stuff going on that it would still be difficult to see them. Plus, I HATE to drive. If I'm going somewhere that takes me longer than a half-hour (and even that's pushing it) to drive, I get tired, head-achy, and very very ornery. Not to mention that I have three teens [with a lot of extracurricular activities] at home, so I can't just go visiting someone out of town.