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SlaveBlutarsky -> RE: Do "form letters" ever work? (1/1/2009 7:53:17 PM)
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not to toot my own horn or whatever, but this is a journal entry I've received a lot of positive response from regarding this topic. Hope you enjoy....
It's funny, in the last two years or so that I've been on this site, I've looked at a million profiles. At least half of them have had something to the effect of 'NO ONE LINERS OR FORM LETTERS OR THIS OR THAT,' referring to the plethora of goofball male submissives who apparently just cut and paste Dommes in an attempt to email every single Dominant woman in a 3000 mile radius.
Even if this wasn't explicitly stated in a woman's profile, common sense dictates that if you'd like to connect with someone on some level, it's good to make it a point to stand out and hopefully touch upon something that makes them want to get to know you better.
I know, I'm onto some Nobel Prize winning research here.
So In these two years, I've written probably a dozen women who I felt it would be worth investing some time and effort to get to know. I'm very selective in who I write and am looking for something special, not trying to machine gun out a bunch of crap in the hopes that someone will respond and then touch my ding ding.
I try and tailor each correspondence to what they had written in their profile, to show where we might be compatible, or where we seem similar in a non D/s sense.
Rarely do I even discuss the BDSM component in my introduction, as I feel it will be something that will develop if the chemistry is right.
So of the dozen to 15 introductory letters tat I've written in my two years, I've gotten a response to one of them.
Not fell madly in love, dated and broken up with one.
Not talked for a few weeks to find out we're not compatible with one.
Just a simple response, she was flattered but didn't think we'd be compatible.
I've actually had better luck making friends with the "scourge of the Earth"....Professional Dommes. I'm not even trying to meet them, just making friendly conversation and responding to things they've written.
Disclaimer: If you are a professional dominatrix, please don't let that preceding statement prevent you from falling madly in love with me. As a general rule, I just figure most of you are here for professional reasons. I could be wrong.
I don't know what I'm doing wrong, maybe I haven't been sending out enough pictures of my cock with my letters? Something to think about.
I would have thought, however, that even if I were not compatible with someone or they just weren't interested, they would say thank you for the time and the obvious effort I hope is evident in what I've written.
I can personally say that I've answered every email I've ever received on this board that was sincere. I do so for two reasons. first, I know how much it sucks to spend any amount of time to write something and not have it responded to.
Secondly, I was raised right, and if my mother ever found out I received a sincere note from someone and didn't at least thank them, she'd punch me in the face.
Who knows, I might just be writing the wrong women? Maybe the ones I think I'll hit it off with are in fact the exact opposite of the type of person I'm looking for.
Maybe the cut and paste guys are on to something. Quantity over quality.
Throw enough poo against the wall and hopefully something sticks?
Maybe I'll write up a form letter tonight and take a picture of Little Napoleon to send out to every woman on the eastern seaboard aged 18-99. Maybe more than one will give me a 'thanks but no thanks.'
I wrote this about a year or so ago and since then my percentages have improved, but not by much. One thing I've gotten a bit of negative feedback from was my calling professionals the scourge of the Earth, that's not my opinion, just an exageration of what I seem to see on these message boards and sites. I like professional Dommes, my dream would be to marry one so when we filed income taxes we could write off sex toys and leather outfits. How cool is that?
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