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My friends - 12/23/2008 6:21:38 PM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		Hi everyone.

I wanted to let everyone know I am ok, and that I am not (purposely) ignoring the emails and the text (thanks iron!) that you sent to me.

I have been recuperating from my trip to Fl. My dad is doing better than I was led to believe. Well, he was. Although he is under hospice care, and does have stage four brain cancer. The worst kind of brain cancer there is. (sorry, I don't remember what it's called.)
This morning I received a call from my cousin telling me that my uncle (dad's brother) died this morning. He lived with my grandma (mom...who raised me..) and she heard him fall down the stairs this morning, and was there with him while he died. She is 93.

I will be heading up there when the weather allows. (they live in northern IN. close to Michigan, Detroit, and Chicago.)

I knew that something would happen this Christmas. I am a bit of a bitch for being relieved that it is not my dad or my grandma (mom). But this cannot be good for their health. I was trying so hard to make this a "normal" Christmas, even though I knew it wouldn't be. Yesterday when HM said that we would not put up a tree, I burst out in tears. I just wanted everything to be normal...

Today I started to feel sorry for myself/my family because it's Christmas, and this shouldn't happen during the holidays. But, I came to understand that people die at all different times of the year, and that death does not take a holiday.

My dad wants to fly in, but I don't think he will be able to.

Ok, I think I am rambling now. I just wanted to update everyone on what is going on, and to thank you for being my friends.




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RE: My friends - 12/23/2008 6:23:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		*hugs*  much love and prayers to you and yours, honey.... 

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RE: My friends - 12/23/2008 6:24:58 PM   
persephonee


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Status: offline 		*bighugs* be strong and just keep breathing. im so sorry you are going through all of this. my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

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RE: My friends - 12/23/2008 6:27:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		*offers hugs*  Sorry to hear that, blushes.

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RE: My friends - 12/23/2008 6:30:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sending you warm thoughts and hugs. I'll keep everyone in my thoughts and prayers.


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RE: My friends - 12/23/2008 6:50:48 PM   
LinnaeaBorealis


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Status: offline 		Awww, honey.  I'm so sorry you & your family are going through this.  One year, my beloved Grandfather had a stroke the day before Christmas Eve.  That was one of 2 Christmases I've lived through that wasn't wonderful.  If you want to put up a tree, I think that you should.  Just my 2 cents.

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RE: My friends - 12/23/2008 6:54:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		blessings and warm memories to you darling.

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RE: My friends - 12/23/2008 7:00:13 PM   
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RE: My friends - 12/23/2008 7:23:41 PM   
xxblushesxx


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RE: My friends - 12/23/2008 7:44:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		rely on your strength...somehow i think you have it.
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RE: My friends - 12/24/2008 4:21:48 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I am so sorry.

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RE: My friends - 12/24/2008 4:33:01 AM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		Oh blushes I am so sorry. I know your a wreck, but with all the healing thoughts and energy being sent your way you can get through it.

Im sending prayers your way and healing energy.  

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RE: My friends - 12/24/2008 4:47:15 AM   
sirsholly


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quote:

Today I started to feel sorry for myself/my family because it's Christmas, and this shouldn't happen during the holidays.


Dear lady....why shouldn't it?
Christmas is a time for the celebration of FAMILY, and there is a unique, acute pain when that celebration is replaced by loss.
Your feelings are normal and in no way should you feel guilty for a natural response to your very human emotions.

I lost my Mom on Christmas day, my step-mother two days before Christmas, and this is the first Christmas without my dad. Tears? You bet...as i type this, in fact. I learned the hard way that beating myself up for normal emotions just makes the situation worse. The tear are there because i loved, and was loved in return. God help us if we lost and didn't cry.


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RE: My friends - 12/24/2008 6:19:13 AM   
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RE: My friends - 12/24/2008 6:22:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hugs and strength and good things for the New Year for you Blushes.

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RE: My friends - 12/24/2008 6:41:56 AM   
BlackPhx


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Status: offline 		This is I suspect one of the most bitter-sweet Christmas's for you...on one hand you have lost a beloved Uncle but on the other you stil have Grandma and your father. The emotions must be overwhelming for you right now and holding tight to symbols of happier days can be very important. I wish I was there to be able to hug you but I suspect HM will supply as many as you need and a strong shoulder for you to cry on.

There are no words to aptly express what we all feel for you, the sorrow and compassion so many have already shown. All I can truly add is my admiration for the strength you show as you do your best for your family in trying times. Perhaps if no tree is to be raised in celebration of the season, one can be planted in celebration of your uncles life. Since your father cannot be there, perhaps video can be taken so that he can share in the honoring of his brothers life and he can feel he was at least there in spirit. They are only suggestions, and things I am sure you have already contemplated.

You know how to reach me if you just want to talk...

Hugs...

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RE: My friends - 12/24/2008 7:02:35 AM   
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RE: My friends - 12/24/2008 8:05:30 AM   
wandersalone


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Status: offline 		warm hugs and caring thoughts are being sent over the ocean to you Blushy.  Like Holly I lost someone I loved (my brother) on a christmas day and I give myself permission to have a cry and feel some sadness for him in between doing the whole joyful thing which is what he would have wanted everyone to do. 

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RE: My friends - 12/24/2008 8:29:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		i'm so sorry for your loss, it's heartbreaking to lose anyone at any time, but the holidays emphasize family so much it's hard not to feel the loss that much more.  i'm missing some very important people at holiday time myself, but their memories are very precious, they keep those people with me in my heart.  my prayers are with you and your family.
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RE: My friends - 12/24/2008 8:54:38 AM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		Blushes I'm so sorry  you and your family are suffering as you are.  My heart goes out to you.  Having lost my mother-in-law many Christmases ago, I can assure you that there will be a day when you don't associate the holiday with a time of loss, but reflect on the trials your family has endured and hold tight to each other and love & celebrate each other.

If I can advise anything, please take care of yourself.  With all that is going on, you are susceptible to exhausting yourself.  Be gentle with yourself, and accept offers of help from others.

We're all here with love and concern.


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