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RE: OMG!! Need comments and suggestions - 2/27/2009 6:29:39 AM

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when i was owned for three years the initial instruction was to keep a daily diary sheet that was to be presented to mistress with my feelings on it, i was also told that i should understand that my feelings were not punishable but my actions were so i should feel free.

it was a great idea but actually the diary sheet caused her to feel convicted of not responding to issues that had come up so in the end i was getting punished for feeling of my own and then for voicing them to her even though i took great steps to try and make sure they were never accusatory .

But it might help with learning about her thoughts and fears and get her insight into what is happening in certain situations and give you insight into the mental and emotional health of your relationship.

my response to your main issue is this, for me the punishment was a necessary thing to help me let go of what i had done wrong and feel like i had been brought back into the inner circle again as i would punish myself far more than she would even though my ass could be pouring of blood from zillions of licks as you put it, i would need to know when i was allowed to feel released from my mistake or failing. without it i stewed on it and couldn't let it go as i felt unworthy and there was a barrier to communication. as this happened it meant that the Mistress title was so much more important to thank her for her care and understanding of allowing me back in. i would never forget to address her as mistress as this was saying to my soul be at one and the communication was a higher form of communication rather than learnt behaviour.

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RE: OMG!! Need comments and suggestions - 2/27/2009 10:27:05 AM

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I thought it was the cellphone connection so I hung up and went to text her and my phone dropped and battery fell out so there was a bit of a break before I could actually text. When I finally texted her

Any suggestions or comments?

I don't get it; why didn't you just return to your room when the cellphone connection went crackly? Seems a lot easier to me. Then you could have brought her back out with you to finish your cigarette.

But in any case, other than her frequently earning licks for not calling you Master, I don't think you are beng excessively demanding. I think if she's not getting the Master thing all the time, that you should cut her a ittle bit of slack - i.e. tell her its wrong but not just keep ading licks to a tally sheet. Perhaps talk to her about it, maybe she dosen't like calling you Master yet. Personally I don't regard myself as a Master and so don't expect to be called one. But I should be referred to as Sir at all times other than in public with other people.

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RE: OMG!! Need comments and suggestions - 2/27/2009 12:26:11 PM

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I had an extremely hard time learning to call Master "Master". I was okay with calling him Sir, but he made it clear from the beginning that he expected to be called Master. He gave me about two weeks of calling him Sir, then starting at the third week i was to start calling him Master. If i forgot and said Sir instead i wasn't punished and usually caught it myself and corrected myself, mainly because i wanted to please him but also show myself that i could call him Master (i'm stubborn at times) over time it's become much easier and i can't imagine myself calling him anything but Master. Have even almost slipped with family or friends around who are vanilla and almost called him Master. it just takes time and patience, she's not going to get it right away but she will. To me Master is a very personal title, not something i'd call just anyone and that was part of my hesitation, did i forsee a future with him, one that was going to be deep enough that i would be able to call him Master and not regret it.

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RE: OMG!! Need comments and suggestions - 2/27/2009 8:10:00 PM

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comes down to this

whats more important

the word Master

or the lips that are too afraid now to speak

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RE: OMG!! Need comments and suggestions - 2/27/2009 8:21:39 PM

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I have to comment. I, too, am relatively new to all of this. And my Master and I also have a long-distance relationship.
I was, at first, uncomfortable with calling him "Master" ... So He helped me. When we were having informal chats, merely as friends and lovers, I'd refer to him by his given name, or the petname He allowed me to call him. When our sessions (what we refer to playtime as) started, He had me call Him "Sir" ... I made the leap to Master on my own, and it delighted Him greatly when I started calling Him that.
If anything, start something along those lines, using only "Master" or "Sir" when you're having your own sessions. Once she's used to it, it will become old hat, and she'll love calling you Master.
(Oh, and on the cell front, as her Master, I'd advise you have her look into checking out the reception in her area, maybe even upgrading to a better phone, as well. My Master did, and we rarely have issues now when we chat.)

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RE: OMG!! Need comments and suggestions - 2/28/2009 2:02:28 PM

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