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why is it that some Doms think that "Dom" mea... - 12/31/2005 7:05:06 PM   
goodgirl33


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Status: offline 		i've only been on this site for a short while ... but it seems to me that i have gotten a lot of mail from self-described "Doms" who appear to believe that giving themselves the label of "Dom" allows them to be rude, demanding, and just basically verbally abusive. and i'm just talking over mail! is this what to expect?


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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 7:10:35 PM   
daredevil865


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Status: offline 		It is the internet, it is nameless , faceless and there are lots of "wantabees"..... but the good news if you wish to filter out the real from the wantabees there are a lot of nice people on here..hang in there..have a great 2006

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 8:14:58 PM   
HoosierScorpio


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Status: offline 		Saddly daredevil865 is right there are so many out there being on the net means they can treat others bad. I have always been very polite with others until they are rude to me. There are also who are not true in the lfiestyle and feel this is how you treat subs and slaves.

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 8:18:00 PM   
daredevil865


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ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio

Saddly daredevil865 is right there are so many out there being on the net means they can treat others bad. I have always been very polite with others until they are rude to me. There are also who are not true in the lfiestyle and feel this is how you treat subs and slaves.



even when they are rude I just write them off..not worth My time or energy

DareDevil



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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 8:21:57 PM   
LadyJulieAnn


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ORIGINAL: goodgirl33

i've only been on this site for a short while ... but it seems to me that i have gotten a lot of mail from self-described "Doms" who appear to believe that giving themselves the label of "Dom" allows them to be rude, demanding, and just basically verbally abusive. and i'm just talking over mail! is this what to expect?


------------ goodgirl33

"sometimes you must surrender in order to achieve"



It's what you can expect from jerk Doms. (not to be confused with jerk chicken)

Be well,
Julie

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 8:33:58 PM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: goodgirl33

i've only been on this site for a short while ... but it seems to me that i have gotten a lot of mail from self-described "Doms" who appear to believe that giving themselves the label of "Dom" allows them to be rude, demanding, and just basically verbally abusive. and i'm just talking over mail! is this what to expect?


------------ goodgirl33

"sometimes you must surrender in order to achieve"


One of the most important things YOU have, that can never be taken away, is the right to BLOCK a person from email :)

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 8:41:05 PM   
daredevil865


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It's what you can expect from jerk Doms. (not to be confused with jerk chicken)

Be well,
Julie



LOL...excellent...wonder if jerk "Doms" and jerk chicken are the same

DareDevil

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 8:50:24 PM   
michaelGA


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Status: offline 		there's some Domme's out there that seem to find it fun to email with an email, then turn around and block you before you have a chance to respond. cowards, i say.

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 8:58:02 PM   
daredevil865


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ORIGINAL: michaelGA

there's some Domme's out there that seem to find it fun to email with an email, then turn around and block you before you have a chance to respond. cowards, i say.



Never confuse Doms with cowards...now players ( wantabees Doms) on the internet same thing

DareDevil

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 9:00:31 PM   
michaelGA


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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 9:14:39 PM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		Nah...they are pretty easy to spot Michael :) And even you know that ..........by the way Happy New Year Bud (((HUGS)))

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 9:35:52 PM   
Nendarye


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quote:

ORIGINAL: goodgirl33

i've only been on this site for a short while ... but it seems to me that i have gotten a lot of mail from self-described "Doms" who appear to believe that giving themselves the label of "Dom" allows them to be rude, demanding, and just basically verbally abusive. and i'm just talking over mail! is this what to expect?


------------ goodgirl33

"sometimes you must surrender in order to achieve"


There are people like that everywhere, not just online, and not just on this site. The fact that they now can hide behind a computer, and never have to face up to their own rudeness only makes it more fun for them. That and the fact that it upsets us...that's what turns them on

/shrug

blow it off, they are not worth he waste of energy


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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 9:47:57 PM   
Petruchio


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there's some Domme's out there that seem to find it fun to email with an email, then turn around and block you before you have a chance to respond. cowards, i say.


Hmm… this reminds me of a joke I heard in France:

"Whip me," said the masochist.
"No," said the sadist.


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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 9:57:03 PM   
Petruchio


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Status: offline 		gg33, rotten talk is rude and unpleasant, but feel fortunate in that they've quickly informed you who and what they are. They won't improve in real life.

If you scan the boards, you'll find many courteous doms, kind doms, chivalrous and even gentle doms, depending, often, upon their level of self-confidence and often their level of experience.

Wait for a nice dom who suits you: It's far easier to beg a gentle dom to be harder on you, than to beg an abuser to be kind.

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 12/31/2005 11:58:34 PM   
kalstolyn


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ORIGINAL: LadyJulieAnn

It's what you can expect from jerk Doms. (not to be confused with jerk chicken)



Hah. Jerk chicken tastes waaaay better

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 1/1/2006 10:48:29 AM   
slavedesires


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quote:

There are people like that everywhere, not just online, and not just on this site. The fact that they now can hide behind a computer, and never have to face up to their own rudeness only makes it more fun for them. That and the fact that it upsets us...that's what turns them on


its there ONLY form of control, power and authority and feeds their ego.

edited to also say.....
our girl received such a letter from another sub...distain, rebuke and plain bitchiness at her profile....it was so far from rude that i could not believe such things could be written.

< Message edited by slavedesires -- 1/1/2006 10:51:26 AM >

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 1/1/2006 12:15:14 PM   
Jennylu48


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Status: offline 		Inconsiderate, abusive sefl proclamed Dumb Doms are everywhere. It is a sad fact of internet life. But in our eagerness to condemn the Dom population, let us not forget the self centered male hating silly sub who posts venom and flaunts the " I dare you attitude. You know .. the ones who say " are you man enough". It is unfortunate that there are so many wannabe's out there. What is even more unfortunate, is that they just don't take refuge on these boards, admit their lack of knowledge, and ask for help and guideance. I haven't seen anyone here who has not been willing to lend a hand. My advice to you is to overlook these moronic clowns. There are tons of good people out there and they will surface. Face it ... nothing is easy. If it were, everyone would be doing it!!

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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 1/1/2006 12:53:43 PM   
ehlovindom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: goodgirl33

i've only been on this site for a short while ... but it seems to me that i have gotten a lot of mail from self-described "Doms" who appear to believe that giving themselves the label of "Dom" allows them to be rude, demanding, and just basically verbally abusive. and i'm just talking over mail! is this what to expect?


------------ goodgirl33

"sometimes you must surrender in order to achieve"


If you what you are expecting are rude, demanding and just basically verbally abusive "Dom's" emailing you, then this medium allows you to easily achieve those expectations.

If on the other hand you expect intelligent, perhaps witty, understanding and stimulating emails, they will happen but unfortunately, you may find them few and far between.

Perhaps instead of sitting back and waiting, you consider emailing those whose profiles match the qualities you are seeking? (And for any of you that say a sub shouldn't ever initiate contact, please show me that rule in the BDSM Rule book or just grow up. Jeez, only one day in the new year and I feeling a bit impatient. But better to be a bit impatient than a bit impotent!)


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RE: why is it that some Doms think that "Dom"... - 1/1/2006 7:08:43 PM   
Petruchio


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let us not forget the self centered male hating silly sub who posts venom and flaunts the " I dare you attitude. You know .. the ones who say " are you man enough".


Whoa, Jennylu, you gave me a flashback. I've been told that twice, the first time by a woman who wanted the experience of having her forearm broken… and wanted me to do it.

Gak. It still turns my stomach. I'm a dom, not an abuser. I wouldn't even want to know anyone who would do that. I used my dominant self-control to walk.

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