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how many - 12/25/2008 2:26:08 AM

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i have a question to all masters when u get a sub or slave how many should order it around?

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 2:27:54 AM

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 2:29:02 AM

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a submissive or slave would need to work that out with the dominant in question. it would depend on the relationship, the heirarchy in the family in case of a live in situation and whatever worked for that unit.
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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 2:32:08 AM

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ok then the master that is seeeking me has 5 to boss me

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 2:43:38 AM

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if you want to serve in that situation, then fine. if that's not what you want then that arrangement would not work. you don't have to serve a dominant just because they say they want you to.
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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 2:44:42 AM

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First off...You've got basically the same thread going elsewhere. It'll prolly get removed. To answer your question. Can YOU handle 5 "bosses"? If not, then it's too many. Personally, I think one is the right amount, but that's just me.

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 2:46:05 AM

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so ur telling me if i still go to him i dont have to serve the other people?

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 2:50:39 AM

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OK, you prolly shouldn't be going anywhere or serving anyone if you have to ask a question like that. Use some common sense. Why would you go into a situation like that? If 5 is too many, then simply tell him so. Geesh!

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 3:42:32 AM

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 4:06:15 AM

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so ur telling me if i still go to him i dont have to serve the other people?

Um, no. He is proposing a situation in which you serve six people. you evidently do not want to serve that many. So discuss it with him and see of you can come to an agreement.

But going to him and not serving the others will likely break the arrangement altogether if you have not discussed it.

Whatever you do, DON'T leave this unresolved if you intend to move forward with him.

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 4:12:48 AM

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Again, my dear, common sense. If you go to him without discussing this, he will assume that you've agreed to it...will make for a very unpleasant meeting. Talk to the man...shouldn't be all that difficult.

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 4:28:30 AM

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 4:41:50 AM

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so ur telling me if i still go to him i dont have to serve the other people?

This isnt difficult. If he wants you to serve others, and you dont want to do that, then dont go to him. You have the choice here of either doing things his way or yours. I would suggest you are certain about what you want before getting involved.

Personally speaking, anyone who puts me way down a list, isnt worthy of my time and attention.

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 4:46:00 AM

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 6:10:04 AM

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Why not 20? I mean why not let the Paperboy order you to perfom Felatio on His Parents? I mean Why not let the Zit Faced Pizza Boy Order you to take it on the Living room floor.

If you are a Service Slave then sure I can see MAYBE being allowed to service 5 people. However to be ordered by all of them can cause conflict. What happens when ones order conflicts with anothers order.

Suck My Cock NOW!!
Do the Dishes NOW!!
Iron This Shirt NOW!
Buff My Shoes NOW!
Shave Your Pussy NOW!

So which one gets done and who gets to punish you for the other one not getting done.

It's a Cute Theroy but it is riddled with holes and flaws.

I would ask this guy one simple question. Which ONE person out of the five is responsible for your Safety at all times? And when 5 people all being able to order you around how can he guarantee to you that you will always be safe?

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 6:32:15 AM

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I would ask this guy one simple question. Which ONE person out of the five is responsible for your Safety at all times? And when 5 people all being able to order you around how can he guarantee to you that you will always be safe?

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None of the above. It's her job to ensure her safety and her best bet to do that is to make smart choices for herself. OP - serving 5 .. hell, that's a cake walk. Just make sure that the heirarchy is in place in your head, that your head is in the same place as all the other parties and if it's your thing, go for it.. and if it's not, don't. Simple.

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 7:15:25 AM

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I'd refuse such a situation myself. However, just as in a job situation where you may have multiple bosses, you need for them to establish a hierarchy. Do they all have the right to punish you? So what happens if they give you orders that contradict each other? If only one has the right to punish you, then the others wishes simply aren't going to be so important to you and you need to be clear about this.

I'm curious as to what kind of situation is it with six dominants living together.

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 8:58:07 AM

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i have a question to all masters when u get a sub or slave how many should order it around?

Slaves do not serve more than one master....my slave obeys my command only. Obedience to any other command is disobedience to me by definition.

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 10:27:18 AM

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You have to excuse Alexis. She is not understanding the dymanics of what happening and thinks the rules should not apply to her at time. Here is the situation:

I am her Domme. In order to obtain further Domme training, I agreed to submit myself as a sub to a Dom couple willing to train me. They agree to this and accepted Alexis as well since Sir and Mistress are seldom home, dealing with business and they needed a couple for domestic subs. As part of her further training, she has to to be sub to 4 of us, Sir, Mistress, a slave who is part of the household and myself. The main one Alexis is to answer to is Mistress while I answer to Sir. The only requirements I 'demand' from Alexis is to ensure I take my meds and vise versa, make sure the computers are functioning properly and cooking once in a while (especially brisket...yummy!). The slave is to train us as to what likes and dislikes Sir and Mistress has.

This will be a poly household and I am trying to maintain the open communications. Alexis is just scared because we have been burned in the past. I just wish she talked to me before creating this thread so I can talk her through her fears.

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RE: how many - 12/25/2008 10:35:04 AM

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I personally think if you arent ready to own someone, you shouldnt own someone. if you need training you dont NEED to submit to someone to get it. and you shouldnt involve a submissive who clearly (by making this thread) isnt comfortable with it do so.

the only question I have is how do you learn to be a Domme by being a sub to others?

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