Focus50
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Joined: 12/28/2004 From: Newcastle, Australia Status: offline
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I can understand your reservations but I think you're also giving people too much credit. Me, I'm certainly not ashamed of my Dominant sexuality and I post my pic freely on sites. But that's not to say any vanilla friends or workmates know of my leaning - I don't tell them and there's only one way they'd ever find me here. If someone confronts you for finding your pic on a BDSM site, just ask them what they were doing there. I've never found pics of anyone I know on gay sites that I thought were straight for a simple reason; I'm not gay and I don't visit gay sites - not even if I'm bored. And rather than actually coming on site, have you ever just entered your nic into a search engine such as Google? If not, you're in for a shock! But the same principle still applies - people still hafta know what they're looking for and generally, only BDSMers are gonna find you on a BDSM site so only another BDSMer can blackmail or "out" you. But ok - maybe that's too big a step from where you're currently at. So compromise and do what Aileen said, get creative with a camera. Other than skin and hair colour, probably the main defining feature of anyone's face is their eyes. And a b&w pic defeats much of that info anyway. Now take a look at this page, right here. Do you think you'd recognise Taggard if you passed him in the street and he wasn't wearing shades and a bandana? Aileen's pic is b&w, grainy and has much of her face obscured with her arm, anyway - and it's still a great pic. Even if it's not by design, Taggard's pic gives him plausible deniability if someone were to attempt to out him. Just a pair of sunnies makes a huge difference. Think about it.... Focus.
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