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The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 5:32:52 AM

CatdeMedici

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Ok, we all admit we aren't perfect, however, there are key elements we look for. You can only choose three in your potential "other" what are they and why do those elements inspire you more than any others?

If you have an O/other already--what are the three elements that you adore, why do those keep you inspired?

Only three can be chosen.

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 5:38:59 AM

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Shared moral values.
Compatible sources of fun.
Physical chemistry.

Not necessarily in that order.

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 5:59:28 AM

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Compatability.
Humility.
Physical attraction.

the.dark.

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 6:20:40 AM

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Humor-it's a lot more fun to laugh at the world when you have someone to share the laughter with you.Scent-I don't see that well, so being able to bury my nose in his neck (or whereever!) and inhale him is a large part of our sexual relationship and he always smells so yummy.Like the.dark. and other Celeste the compatibility has to be there for any sort of longevity for me.

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 6:23:23 AM

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Intelligence, humor, trust....and # 3 1/2 ....sweet, drugging kisses

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 6:26:07 AM

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Gentle Heart
Humility
Physical Attraction

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 6:46:50 AM

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Honor
Respect
Moral Integrity

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 7:15:09 AM

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Have not read all the posts here. What about ...

· Honor
· Respect
· Dedication

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 7:59:22 AM

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compatibility
attraction
humor

i agree with what has pretty much already been said

smooches
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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 8:01:30 AM

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humor
attraction (physical and mental)
kind heart

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 8:21:54 AM

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Integrity,a sense of humor and intelligence.Mistress has been overly saturated with all three characteristics..chezz has hit a home run...smiles.

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 8:25:22 AM

NuevaVida

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Honesty
Humor
Well intended

However,. compatibility is a good one because all other yummy traits fall under it. :)

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 8:31:55 AM

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Ability to accpet the others faults

Because it is easy to accept the good parts rarely do we consider the faults. I love andi, and even with the negative parts of her psesonality I still love her. I wish those things in her would change but if they don't I'm not going to stop loving her.

Ability to find the other attractive at thier lowest points

Okay so attraction in my opinion tends to get Shallow. Yes it is good to be physically attracted and Mentally attracted, but you know looks they go after time and there are always Stupid Moments. Some of the things that have come out of andi's mouth I have been embarassed FOR her because she just didn't get how it must have sounded, but even if everything that came out her mouth was that retarded I would Still love her. Also andi looks like a Pathetic Drown Rat when she is sick and I love her then and STILL find her sexy, Just not Ball Room Dancing Sexy.

Ability to Forgive the other for painful mistakes.

I have screded up a bunch of times. I think I am fine and somehow manage to screw up. I have done it with Lots of things most recently the Finances, No Christmas for us, and she forgives me, and doesn't hound on me about my mistake. SO we have to live on Bologna and Cheese for a Month. She understands. So she plugs the wrong cord in on the TV and Blows Power for our entire Building, We need a new TV, I forgive her. We are Fighting and in the heat of Battle words are used to cut to the bone. We Forgive Each Other.

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 9:14:45 AM

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Intelligence is number one for me. I need to be able to talk to the person I'm with about a variety of things.

Humor. I love to laugh, and I'm very sarcastic, so I need a partner that can laugh with me (and at me occasionally).

Physical attraction. It may be shallow, but if I'm not physically attracted to my partner then I can't have a good relationship with them.

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 9:28:37 AM

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1. Secure in themselves.
2. physical chemistry
3.acceptance of my core beliefs

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 9:38:57 AM

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Honor, intelligence, and honesty for me.

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 9:40:38 AM

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Respect, moral values and sense of humour.
As with any sort of relationship, mutual respect is the foundation onto which trust and love could be build up; moral values (ethics) are ingredients for gaining respect inasmuch as a good sense of humour - we are all human, therefore subject to failures of any sort, we have to face them with a smile in order to overcome them.

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 9:42:37 AM

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1. Confidence/Self Respect
2. Integrity
3. Physical Attraction
4. Communication - ability to relate and understand each other.

I know I put 4 but all are equally important to be

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 9:54:27 AM

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Compability - if we're always on separate pages, then we won't be a good fit.
Attraction - physcial, mental, and emotional - yes, I do think all 3 forms of attraction have to be there.
Humor - life is serious enough without us being able to laugh and enjoy it.

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RE: The Key Ingredient(s) - 12/28/2008 10:15:02 AM

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Compatibility.

Loyalty.

Moral and ethical standards.

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