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YourhandMyAss -> RE: The Key Ingredient(s) (12/29/2008 7:03:09 PM)
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They'd have to be really great at managing money, and They'd have to have a car, and They'd have to be super reliable in everything they said they would do.
The good with money inspires me more than any other trait, because I refuse to enter a relationship with someone ever again who can't budget and can't control his spending and is always wasting money, and so then is broke when important needs come around.
The car thing, because I don't drive, and I probably never will and I will freely admit it's a damned good thing too, that I never get behind the wheel, and I've had bf's who don't either, and it was a big burden to try and do anything that required a car. After having a Daddy for 3 years who does drive I will never go back to the burden and hassle of one who doesn't.
Reliable in everything they say and do, is well to me self explanatory. If they are reliable, then I don't have to worry about so many other things, because they're a subset of being reliable.
As for My Daddy now, what three traits do I admire most, Well he's hardworking committed to doing what it takes to care for his family, and tries very hard to provide for his little family. This includes Daddy spoiling me a lot and tries very hard to make sure I am happy, He's a very generous man, if he can do it he will. Hell sometimes he'll do something as a treat for me even when he can't afford it. I try to return the favor and spoil him and treat him right as well.
I don't know if "keeps me inspired " would be the correct term for it, but I admire that trait, because I value a man who knows good work ethics and isn't a slug or a slack off when it comes to seeing that the bulk of the needs of the family , at least money wise shelter wise and food and clothing wise are met.
He tries really hard to control his temper, and that includes how he speaks to me. I'm not always the easiest person to put up with, and I do infuriate him sometimes, and I respect a person who can control his aggression and treat people right, when they're pushing all your buttons even if they don't mean to push them.* even if he does fail once in a while I can over look the failure for all the times he HAS succeeded* His dad was VERY abusive, and cruel to them all, most especially his wife, who he at one time shoved down a flight of stairs and regularly beat as well as being an alcoholic. .
Daddy grew up with violence and abuse as his male role model, and he fights VERY hard against ever being abusive or violent.
Daddy is very forgiving. Even if I have hurt him horrendously, emotionally or psychically he's usually quick to forgive. He'll also take responsibility for his part in the fiasco, and once we talk it over, he lets it go and doesn't bring it up again. For the most part.
There was however one time he couldn't resist ribbing me about the time when I was angry that I told him I didn't have to do what he said cause I didn't accept his authority.
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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici
Ok, we all admit we aren't perfect, however, there are key elements we look for. You can only choose three in your potential "other" what are they and why do those elements inspire you more than any others?
If you have an O/other already--what are the three elements that you adore, why do those keep you inspired?
Only three can be chosen.
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