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1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 5:43:38 PM   
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Can someone explain this to me?  What exactly does a 1950s lifestyle mean?

Hmmm?

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 5:46:26 PM   
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This link has made the rounds with my vanilla girlfriends every so often, and they all boo and hiss when they read it - if I ever said it sounds wonderful to me, they'd think I was nuts.    This is my interpretation of the '50's household. 

Edited to fix the link ... hope it works this time!  :)


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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 5:51:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		That link didn't work, mc1234.  I went to the main site and then to Grooms' page.  It looks like the directory may have changed.

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 5:51:58 PM   
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Really, I think it's just that the guy calls the shots.

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 6:21:26 PM   
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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 6:50:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		It also, at least the way I understand it refers to the gender representation.

Man Dresses in Pants and Slacks and Button Downs and Polo's and T-Shirts.
Woman Dresses in Skirts, Dresses, Blouses, Heels or Flats.

The Idea is that both genders are represented in regular dress.

This may seem silly but I like this idea myself I want my girl to look .... well.... Like a GIRL!

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 7:02:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Pretty much the guy call the shots. However, the woman should make sure she is always dressed feminine, ready at the door to welcome her man home perhaps with a drink and bedroom slippers. He needn't order her around because she is always anticipating how to please him from his hard day at work. Some take it so far as changing the house to appear to be in the 50's: furniture, decor, electronics, clothing and food choices. 

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 7:03:52 PM   
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Sounds Dreamy.

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 7:14:33 PM   
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Pretty much the guy call the shots. However, the woman should make sure she is always dressed feminine, ready at the door to welcome her man home perhaps with a drink and bedroom slippers. He needn't order her around because she is always anticipating how to please him from his hard day at work
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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 7:47:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Go watch the old TV shows, "Ozzy & harriet", "Leave it to Beaver", "My Three Sons" to but name a few.. They depicted the va;lues of the then 1950's current middle America..  male dominant, wife at home runs the home, had dinner ready when husband gets home from work . It is a lifestyle based on a specific period of our history. just as the Victorian Lifestyle is based on the Era of Her Magesty Queen Victoria. 

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 8:57:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, the idea of the 50s household works so much better in my mind as something I could do 24/7.  The Master/slave dynamic only works in play for me, and I find myself naturally being more of the 50s housewife mixed with a lilgirl mindset most of the time.  To each their own.

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 10:28:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		I love a '50's household because that is when women were true women and men were true men.You wear dresses,the man only works,you have a clean house and dinner ready when he comes home.The man is truly the King of the house in a "50's household.

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/30/2008 11:45:59 PM   
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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/31/2008 12:26:44 AM   
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now why couldn't any of my high school books been that helpful? 

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/31/2008 12:40:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		I occasionally imagine a modern variant on this, where I am the 50's style housewife, living with a dominant couple (M/F or F/F).  I think a lot of crossdressers enjoy that kind of fantasy.

Then, too, there are the petticoats. :)

I would imagine that some couples who practice this add the idea of spanking/discipline, and the idea that it's the wife's duty to take care of hubby's sexual needs on demand.

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/31/2008 5:58:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I love the 1950's lifestyle; however, I hate dresses. lol Cooking and cleaning is something I enjoy doing for my partner. Making sure all is right in his world...asking how his day went....I love it. Thats the 24/7 I dream of with a little D/s added in there. A lot of my friends think Im insane when I would take my mans plate and make his before my own or get up from the table to fill his glass even though mine is not empty. *shrug*  They may call me crazy, but the pleasure I get from taking care of him is enough for me to block out what others think. lol

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/31/2008 6:02:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Doesn't work for me. I'm not interested in a man who stays out all night and I have to accept it and whatever diseases he picked up while tomcatting around. Nor did I ever aspire to have ums with a man who doesn't want to interact with them.

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/31/2008 6:09:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me it means nice.  Unlike my mom, a 50's housewife, I wouldn't have to haul around a 60 lb Kirby vacuum to pick up dust.  I wouldn't have to make tortillas as they are so easily purchased.  Hardwood floors are currently in style so those days of beating carpets.. thankfully gone!  Yes, I do have to make dinner and have it waiting, but I would be doing that in a modern household.... Only in a modern household I would probably be out working a regular job, rushing home and making dinner.  More than likely any mate in my life would not be working a physically labor intense job, so his shirt collars are probably not filthy every day.  It sort of eliminates the use of the old washboards, harsh detergent and scrubbers.  As I am older now, there would be no need to be home for the UM's, no picking them up after school or making sure they did homework and did not disturb my mate from his peaceful return home.
Wear skirts?  Yes.. but I wear dresses at home now.  High heels?  I have to admit I don't do that much anymore.  It might be nice to set my dishwasher on while I take a nice bath.  I miss baths..
50's.. My mom used to take anti-depressants.  Nope.. never had the need for that myself.  I don't question how my own life might be improved by staying at home while my mate works to support me.  I would like to know what he sees in it.
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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/31/2008 6:12:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Kyst brought up some very good points ... modern conveniences.   I do appreciate those.   However, there are many aspects of the 1950's household that certainly would be right up my alley.  

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RE: 1950s Lifestyle? - 12/31/2008 6:15:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Doesn't work for me. I'm not interested in a man who stays out all night and I have to accept it and whatever diseases he picked up while tomcatting around. Nor did I ever aspire to have ums with a man who doesn't want to interact with them.


I just had to point out that nowhere in the link, nor have I read anywhere that a 50's household means the man cheats and ignores his kids ..

I definitely agree about the modern conveniences! 

I was thinking about this a lot last night.  I had a somewhat typical stay-at-home mom with three kids marriage where I did the majority of the housework and a lot of the raising of the kids.  Our marriage didn't come close to D/s - and sometimes I loved my role; other times I wanted to run screaming from the house because all I was doing was serving, without getting what I needed from my husband to support me in the way that I needed.  He didn't do anything wrong, but it wasn't until 10 years into it that I realized I needed him to take a burden off my shoulders, and that burden was being one of the decision makers.  We were more of a balanced relationship - but doing all for everyone (not that he never did anything around the house, he certainly did, but I did the majority) left me drained in a way that having a D/s relationship would have allowed me to have some ease and respite from the responsibilities. 

Just some food for thought.  It's not like the man comes home, is served and does nothing to nurture the relationship or the family, though the link I used above does seem to imply that.  It needs to be much deeper than that to work. 


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