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SlaveIndigochild -> RE: Best sort of profile and photos? (1/1/2009 11:08:55 AM)
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ORIGINAL: KipperUK
Hello. Long time lurker, 2nd time poster :)
I'm in the seemingly unique position of having been curious about Ds for a very long time, how that came to pass I don't know, but at first - I didn't know what it was, then I found sites like this, eventually plucked up the courage to display a profile, then add photos, and so on.
Anyway, i've spent quite a lot of time getting to this level - put yourself on display like this is not something that comes naturally to everyone, well me anyway. But I realise that I probably know as much as I am going to know about Ds (and myself) just by visiting sites and reading about it.
I'm not your pro-domme using sort of person, in fact I don't think i'd dream of it - My view of activities like this is that they are intimate, personal, and to be shared with someone I have come to know and trust - perhaps more trust than I have placed in anyone. So i've arrived at the conclusion that I must look for someone who, like me, shares this interest (from their own viewpoint) and is looking for similar things to me. I'm also not really comfortable with the idea of popping along to a local munch where (just by my mere presence) - i will be in the same room as people who know something about me that I don't particularly want in the public domain either (Irrational? probably...)
So, given all this background and information... Its down to looking online for that special someone, so what sort of profile and pictures do people like to see? What sort of mails do people like to receive (it can be hard not to write a one liner when some people only include one line in their entire profile... how can you bounce off that?).
Just looking for some insight :) I want to put myself on display, without nescessarily putting myself on display... if that makes sense, I am slow, steady, cautious type... but worth getting to know in the end I hope!
i've had a profile as a free woman and the profile i have now is a negotiated one between myself and my Master. i say negotiated because as a professional photographer he took the main and one of the subsequent pictures. What i say about myself inclide words He asked me to write. As Prinsexx my profile was somewhat different but my interests remain thesame. Obviously i still get some mail from Doms but most Doms naturally dropped away once i became owned property.
My philosophy is: if you have it flaunt it....how you gonna get what you want if you don't flaunt what you got?
On the other hand there are of course those who aren't who they say they are, don't even have the gender they say they have....who knows all sorts of weirdos exist on the internet as in off the internet. But once mailing and even chat is established i simply would advise speaking by phone and meeting as soon as possible. I have precious precious friends that i have both met and not met (mainly because of long distance). Long distance friends, especially from the States, support me wonderfully, and inform me in a way which enriches my life because of cultural differences.
i've had a profile on alt and informed consent but Master and i me here and i feel this is closer to being a spiritual home than other sites because of the forums and because of the fairly general culture of respect and response.
Main advice: stop lurking, start living. Welcome to collarme and i wish you all the best in your search.
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